If you label a guy a chubby chaser then it's hard to like him or appreciate his desire for you. Like there is something wrong g with him. Many of my male friends like bigger women and freely admit the kind of women I like does nothing for them. There is nothing wrong with a man having a preference. I say, go for it.

Why complain about the men writing to you at all? Do your own homework and search for profiles of men you may be interested in and send a note. Really, it's that simple.

Anonymous wrote:Well, only men can think with their ducks, technically.

How does that work? What if I don't have a duck?

It could be an early warning sign. He needs a physical to check his cholesterol, blood pressure, etc and overall fitness. If all is good, tell him you'd like to experiment with it. Maybe a 1/4 pill, see what it's like to be 16 again. If he tries it, he will probably be hooked from then on. Make it sound sexy, not like a failing and...

Did you really fing ask him if he's gay because of erectile issues? SMH

Anonymous wrote:

ZachF wrote:Almost every woman I met from dating sites looked better than her photos, because..bad cell phone photos.

So you agreed to meet for a date anyway right? Thus a woman does not need photos from every angle to get a guy to be interested?

Nope, your logic is flawed. Her photos had to look good enough for me to meet. And I'd never settle for just a head shot, or one shot at a strategic angle. I have no problem asking for a selfie and of course, I'll send as many as she likes. That said, the ones I judged good enough to meet from her photos, always looked even better in person. Cell phone photography sucks in general but that is the standard these days.

That said, back in the earlier days of online dating I met with many women who expressed problems getting me a decent photo. Before cell phone cams. And even a few more recently who, for whatever excuse, just couldn't come up with more photos. In EVERY case, that was a mistake. These days, there is no excuse at all for not sending photos. If there are plenty on the dating site, and they are recent, then I wouldn't ask. Otherwise, I ask.

Almost every woman I met from dating sites looked better than her photos, because..bad cell phone photos.

Yeah, that's what all men want before looks. Personality. Whenever I see a really bad photo of a woman on a dating site, the first thing I do is dig into her profile to get a sense of her personality. As a self admitted nine, I'll bet that's what most men see in you too, right?

Sorry, but she is asking for advice about using online dating where you lead with the photo. People get accepted or rejected in less than a second based on a photo. Most people are not going to look any farther if the photo is a turn off. You do know that, right?

Do NOT take a cell phone photo of your face. Cell phones are very wide angle and close ups of a face are very distorted in a most unflattering way. We are seeing a whole generation of shitty photos on dating sites now because of cell phone cameras. The head appears narrow, the nose much bigger and the forehead bigger while it does nothing to flatter the eyes. Get someone with a real camera to take your photo from a good ten feet back, zoomed in on your face for a face shot, with good lighting and flash added with red-eye feature turned on.

Don't all you people hire someone for that kind of thing?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find a FWB and scratch that itch. I didn't think I was made out for a purely sexual relationship either but it turns out that was just what I needed. Early 40's, recently divorced too. Missed sex, had no desire to recouple or become emotionally attached to anyone. It's been a few months and it's working out fabulously.

Male here. These posts make it appear as if finding a FWB is as simple as grabbing one from your neighborhood grocery store. Perhaps it is. But an uninitiated like me could use some advice on going about it on finding a FWB or AP.

Well obviously you have an internet connection. What else do you need to know about finding a date these days? Really, it isn't that difficult for any man in this area of the country.

She derives her sense of self-worth by her looks. She needs constant reassurance that she is attractive and, worse than that, more attractive than other women. Any other women that may cross her path, or she thinks cross your path. No matter what you tell her, or how often, it will never be enough.

Her low self-esteem is poison to any relationship you try to have with her. She will flip out and accuse you of of wanting other women, and get just as angry as if you had actually cheated. The thought of you being somewhere where there might be prettier or younger women will drive her nuts.

It's more likely that this was a big contributor to the break-up of her marriage. It's less likely that her previous relationship caused her to be this way. I'd advise you run from this one. She has serious issues that won't go away anytime soon and you will suffer the consequences if you get involved with her. She will exhaust you and you won't be able to be honest with her.

For example, try this the next time she asks for reassurance that she is indeed the prettiest of them all. Say, there are millions of women in the world and in the course of the day, I may see a hundred of them. And just as many people see me. Just as I'm certain that I'm not the best looking man any of them have seen, I'm sure you understand that their are women who are better looking than you. Younger, more fit, perfect bodies. And I see them all the time. I'm sure you see men who are a lot more attractive to you than I am or will ever be. Does it matter?

Is this something that is going to affect our relationship for all time? Can you handle the fact that there are other beautiful people in this world that I come in contact with or will you always feel the need to compare yourself, and question me about it? Can you deal with me interacting with other women in the normal course of life, like being pleasant and smiling when talking to a waitress without having some darker thoughts?

If she can't deal with knowing there are better looking women than her in your orbit but you choose to be with her and they are not a threat, then it's hopeless.

Anonymous wrote: You folks have just been blundered by the media that has focused on one scandalous area. Thailand. They don't focus on London. Or Paris. Or Rome. Or Florence. But the same shit happens there.

Or..DC?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Petite usually means small everywhere. Petite women have petite vaginas.

Balderdash. Married twice, petite and not petite. Not petite is a whole lot tighter by far. The vaginal muscle has nothing to do with height.

It has nothing to do with anything and differs from woman to woman of every height and size. There is no correlation. Not even childbirth makes a difference. The tightest I've had each had two children.

Anonymous wrote:

ZachF wrote:Are you asking us how to ask your W for a BJ? Who cares what day it is. If you want it, ask. Jeez

I can cook my own steak, and rarely have to ask for a BJ. But if I want one, I won't hesitate to ask. Likewise, she makes it clear what she wants. That's how a relationship is supposed to work.

Are you always a condescending, fun-killing douche or did the weather have you in a bad mood? Inquiring minds want to know. For the record, I wasn't asking you a thing. I was asking the women. Or maybe it was an attempt at surreptitiously spreading the word about a fun day for the fellas... You know, a little light-heartedness in a world of troubled souls...

I apologize. I don't see where you asked your question to the women only. I sure didn't mean to kill the fun and I sincerely hope you got your BJ, if not today, very soon. I assume the steak part is not as big a deal, but I hope you enjoy a juicy one just as soon.

Are you asking us how to ask your W for a BJ? Who cares what day it is. If you want it, ask. Jeez

I can cook my own steak, and rarely have to ask for a BJ. But if I want one, I won't hesitate to ask. Likewise, she makes it clear what she wants. That's how a relationship is supposed to work.