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Anonymous wrote:Most of the women I met on dating sites had sex with me on the first date. ALL the others did the coffee thing first, then planned sex on the next date, or no next date. Yes, it's the norm now. My biggest surprise is how few, like only two, insisted on condoms.


This is insane. STD rates in DC are through the roof, including HIV.


Yet somehow, I've managed to never catch anything while enjoying condom free sex. Woman sure love that I have a vasectomy.

How do I do that? By knowing how that demographic for the STD rates in DC Baltimore area breaks down.



How does it breakdown? Where do you get your information ??


emoe else posted it but it was deleted, along with all the follow-on comments. I guess government statistics are deemed too racist in this day.
Anonymous wrote:I don’t think he meant he was really Joe. I thought he meant he played the part of Joe, in similar situations


I agree. OP doesn't admit it in this thread, but he obviously gets off on it too to some extent. He isn't here looking for advice, he is here to add fuel to his humiliation for his own thrills. All of the comments telling him what a cuck he is and how he's lost her actually turn him on. Notice he hasn't commented since starting the thread. He got what he wanted from it. No need to reply or defend himself.

He hasn't lost her but he's lost control of her. Their open marriage is not reciprocal even though he also gets a pass. As he said, he doesn't care as much about getting some strange so he stopped. And she would never put up with his side piece dictating that they can't have sex when he is seeing her. But she has no problem rubbing that in his face and then, I'm sure, tell her Joe all about it and the hurt look on his face as she gets down with him again.
In fairness to him and to counter those who vilify him, it can be absolutely exhausting to deal with someone with mental and emotional issues. Especially if that person is your spouse and partner. Besides support and understanding, he is helpless to really do anything about your issues and they are YOUR issues.

I sympathise with you but I'm sure there is a whole other side to this story also. If you aren't showing signs of getting better and just sort of living for your illness, he may have reached a breaking point and just given up. I've been there.
Don't let your mental illness define you or your relationship.
Anonymous wrote:I’m never doing it once. I was a pioneer in seeing the pitfalls of marriage and didn’t want any part of it


Don't get married unless you can get 10 of your married guy frineds to recommend it. Haha, seriously, I defy you to find 3 who will recommend it.
I'm quickly losing my patience and even respect for you because you won't make any effort to quit smoking. You can't even imagine how much I hate it.
I asked her if she thought about other men during sex and she denied it. Said it is always just about me. Not sure I believe her but I couldn't care less what she thinks about during sex.
A lot of guys are rasing kids they didn't fater and don't know it.
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Anonymous wrote:I prefer a woman who is kinky.


That's a deal breaker for me also but I will add this. I'd rather be in a relationship with a woman who has suppressed kinky desires she never got a chance to explore before, than one who has been practicing kink for some time. I'll help her explore the life. But she still has to have long hair I can grab hold of.


Why? You only want her to be a kinky whore with you? Pig.


Yeah, pretty much. If you know the world of kink and the women in it, you would understand better. A lot of them get really get damaged by it because of the F'd up men they get with. Or they have really hardened views of what is the true way, as they've experienced it in the past. It's sooo much more fun to lead someone down that path myself and have her explore it as something new. And there are plenty of women who want to explore that side of them but have only been with vanilla men who would never think of it, or she would never approach him about it.


I am a woman in the “world of kink”. And you sound like one of those F’d up guys. Maybe they have hardened views because they know what they like, and are too smart and experienced to let some rando dictate to them. The fact that you only like inexperienced women says a lot about you.


What does it say about the first guy to introduce you to kink? I'm glad you were able to get so smart and experienced without incurring any damage but, if you really are in the lifestyle, you know exactly what I'm talking about. To be certain, there are some really F'd up characters who prey on every newcomer and I've seen the fallout, as I'm sure you have. By the time these guys (often extolled as "community leaders") are exposed and brought down, there are more to take their place. Just sayin, I love my kink but I don't need to find a partner for kink among those in the scene when the local scene has sustained so much damage in recent years. Experience counts for nothing to me.

Sorry to hijack this thread or derail it. You can have the last word, if you like. This is a whole different subject for a whole different board.
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Anonymous wrote:OP. How much is 100%? I just don’t know if I can wait for months to slowly amass info. If I have the weird text, find condoms & see a weird number. Is that enough?

SO still & consistently since we met, talks about a big trip we’ll take in a few years when the kids are old enough, and our retirement (decades away but has always been our fav topic)

F. I can’t believe it.... but I think it’s time I do.


Proceed cautiously down this rabbit hole! It will suck the life out of you and your career, parenting and other relationships. Put your energy instead into building contentment and have faith the truth will come out eventually whatever it may be. The only thing worst than being cheated on is a lifetime of insecurity and suspicions, it is Hell. My advice is don’t even look unless it’s pretty freaking obvious or you just happen to find out some other way.


I think that's absurdly stupid advice.


+3 Don't even look? Like, just live in denial? Ignorance is bliss and all that? I'm glad that is working for you but it's terrible advice for someone else in this situation.
Pull the blankets over his head and give him his own Dutch Oven.
Anonymous wrote:My (ex) husband changed my bridal registry behind my back. Instead of receiving the china & silver I had put on it, I received a bunch of leather animals which you put your feet on.


This wins as the funniest post in this thread. We must have more details.
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Anonymous wrote:Is this a new thing, sleeping over at the hospital after your wife gives birth? When did this start? I had 3 kids and was never asked or expected to stay the night. The last one was in a "birthing room" back when that was a new thing. It had a couch but there was no mention or suggestion of sleeping over. No hard feelings or resentment either and the baby and mother got all the care they needed. Do hospitals suck that bad now that they can't manage without the extra help?


Yes, it's a "thing" now that hospitals have gotten rid of the nurseries and are staffed so sparsely that there is 0 help for women who have just given birth. It's part of the "baby friendly" initiative and it sucks. This isn't 1995 anymore where the mom can send the baby to the nursery to be cared for while she gets a few hours of sleep, you are completely on your own the moment that infant leaves you body.


I'm PP above and wow, I seriously did not know for it has been that long since my children were born. I'm saddened to hear this is the current state maternity care in hospitals. It was improving greatly between my first and my third with the biggest difference I experienced was them wanting to release both mother and baby within a day, or two at most. Even if the baby required UV light for jaundice, they would send you home with a device you can use at home instead of keeping the baby in the hospital, under lights, until the blood tests came out OK. But they did have a nursery (are those really gone??) and they did take care of the babies and mom while they were in. I wasn't expected to help in any way. I guess I can say, sadly, those were the days.
I remember sending out Christmas cards that included a family photo with her not in the picture. That worked. As for telling people, just start telling them, starting with the biggest known gossips. They will get the word out for you.
Anonymous wrote:I had to cut ties with a guy because I found out that he didn't use a washcloth to clean himself and only showered at night. Meaning if we had sex at night(after he showered), he wouldn't shower again until the next evening. Hygiene is a big deal to me.


I think wash clothes are unnecessary and I never use one. Butt...I use plenty of soap. Why do you care if a guy uses a wash cloth? I don't want some nasty wet wash cloth hanging in my shower.

I'm a guy and hygiene is important to me, as is climbing into bed for sex after a nice shower. I want to be as clean as possible for my lover and smell nice which also means I've flossed and brushed my teeth. Your comment sounds like you expect a guy (and you?) to then jump up out of bed and take anther shower right after sex?

I'd cut ties with any woman like that. You have some serious hang-ups, IMO. Good sex is messy. Deal with it. And yes, many times we don't shower before, or after sex where sex itself is the immediate priority. Wipe off with a towel if you aren't too tired to get up get one (I usually think ahead and have one in reach), then cuddle each other to sleep.

If my woman felt she needed to jump up out of bed to shower right after having sex every time, we wouldn't last long at all.
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