ZachF wrote:Are you asking us how to ask your W for a BJ? Who cares what day it is. If you want it, ask. Jeez

I can cook my own steak, and rarely have to ask for a BJ. But if I want one, I won't hesitate to ask. Likewise, she makes it clear what she wants. That's how a relationship is supposed to work.

Anonymous wrote:You sound exhausting op

Anonymous wrote:You sound exhausting op

Anonymous wrote:Tomorrow, being March 14th, is of course the male version of Valentine's day aka steak and BJ day. I think DW is unaware of the existence of this new holiday (or at least she's not letting on that she knows). How do I raise the issue subtly without seeming needy and begging for it?

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Anonymous wrote:Tomorrow, being March 14th, is of course the male version of Valentine's day aka steak and BJ day. I think DW is unaware of the existence of this new holiday (or at least she's not letting on that she knows). How do I raise the issue subtly without seeming needy and begging for it?

Subtly? You don't. The more subtle you are, the more desperate you appear. Just ask. And don't make it about this made up "holiday."

Anonymous wrote:You sound exhausting op

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Anonymous wrote:Tomorrow, being March 14th, is of course the male version of Valentine's day aka steak and BJ day. I think DW is unaware of the existence of this new holiday (or at least she's not letting on that she knows). How do I raise the issue subtly without seeming needy and begging for it?

Subtly? You don't. The more subtle you are, the more desperate you appear. Just ask. And don't make it about this made up "holiday."

Anonymous wrote:My husband does the cooking so he'll have to grill the steak himself.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tomorrow, being March 14th, is of course the male version of Valentine's day aka steak and BJ day. I think DW is unaware of the existence of this new holiday (or at least she's not letting on that she knows). How do I raise the issue subtly without seeming needy and begging for it?

Subtly? You don't. The more subtle you are, the more desperate you appear. Just ask. And don't make it about this made up "holiday."

He shouldn't ask. She would do those things if she wanted, he can sit back and wait till both partners decide to engage in sex. These threads are sickening because it's always one that wants to force their needs on the other. It needs to be mutual, lot's of immature people on here.

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ZachF wrote:Are you asking us how to ask your W for a BJ? Who cares what day it is. If you want it, ask. Jeez

I can cook my own steak, and rarely have to ask for a BJ. But if I want one, I won't hesitate to ask. Likewise, she makes it clear what she wants. That's how a relationship is supposed to work.

Are you always a condescending, fun-killing douche or did the weather have you in a bad mood? Inquiring minds want to know. For the record, I wasn't asking you a thing. I was asking the women. Or maybe it was an attempt at surreptitiously spreading the word about a fun day for the fellas... You know, a little light-heartedness in a world of troubled souls...

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tomorrow, being March 14th, is of course the male version of Valentine's day aka steak and BJ day. I think DW is unaware of the existence of this new holiday (or at least she's not letting on that she knows). How do I raise the issue subtly without seeming needy and begging for it?

Subtly? You don't. The more subtle you are, the more desperate you appear. Just ask. And don't make it about this made up "holiday."

He shouldn't ask. She would do those things if she wanted, he can sit back and wait till both partners decide to engage in sex. These threads are sickening because it's always one that wants to force their needs on the other. It needs to be mutual, lot's of immature people on here.

Um, if most fellas were to "sit back and wait till both partners decide to engage in sex" the human population would have died out several millennia ago.
Maybe you are one of the pink unicorn females who experiences "spontaneous desire" ?
Newsflash: the other 99% of your gender are "responsive desire" and have zero interest in sex without a male pursuer getting things started.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound exhausting op

+1
I agree. Many women hate doing the BJ thing, I hear it all the time from friends who refuse. Poor OP's wife, probably hoping he slips on a banana peel.