Not photogenic enough for online dating
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Anonymous
LOL!!! |
Anonymous
LOL +1. I assumed this was a joke. |
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My first DL pic (yes, the one when I was sixteen) was so bad people would do a double take and ask if it was me. I used to joke that the person on my DL looked like the real me's strung out, crack head mother.
So, my advice as someone who is pretty in real life and looks terrible in pictures: go get your hair and makeup done and get a professional picture. It will be closer to the real life you. |
Anonymous
+1 Find a good pro who has a hair and makeup team. |
Anonymous
| You all are a sad set. Why do looks matter that much? Funny, I'm about a "nine" according to my friends and did modeling early in college. Never cared about looks. Always cared about personality. |
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Yeah, that's what all men want before looks. Personality. Whenever I see a really bad photo of a woman on a dating site, the first thing I do is dig into her profile to get a sense of her personality. As a self admitted nine, I'll bet that's what most men see in you too, right?
Sorry, but she is asking for advice about using online dating where you lead with the photo. People get accepted or rejected in less than a second based on a photo. Most people are not going to look any farther if the photo is a turn off. You do know that, right? |
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| Well, regardless of what men want, OP has to work with what she's got. I think professional shoots stand a chance, because at least some men will be polite not to excuse themselves when someone very different shows up. But generally, I think a woman who is not a looker has better chances IRL. Expand your circle and meet people face to face. Good personality and personal charm go a long way, believe it or not. |
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Go to Drybar and get a blowout. Have a friend come help you with your makeup and have her help you put together a few outfits. Have her take a few pics of you indoors and outdoors. Use those pics. And avoid selfies as much as possible. (I have one up, but only that one)
My OkCupid profile is one of the most viewed profiles and one of the most liked / messaged / etc. It was also included in a write-up about how to make a great online-dating profile. If you have more questions, post them here, and I'll be more than happy to provide some suggestions. |
Anonymous
| Maybe OP is one of these people who likes a lot better in real life than in pictures. |
Anonymous
OK, I'll bite. What's on your profile? |
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PP here. I don't know what specifically makes OkCupid highlight it as such, but when it comes to photos, I make sure they are all current and label them with the month and year they are from. I also have the main album full w/ the most recent photos, have a secondary album with other photos that are a little older, and have my profile linked to my Instagram account. The first album (default one) is all solo photos and the secondary album is the one that has pics of me w/ friends, so there's no guessing as to who I am. I have also answered most, if not every, question that is asked on OkCupid and provided an explanation to go with the answers that may seem more "controversial." In terms of the content on the areas where you fill out free-form information, I've given enough information to keep things interesting and I've taken the time to format that information to make key elements pop out (you can bold, underline, italicize, etc.) It makes it easier to read and it allows me to make certain things stand out. That's actually something a lot of people comment on when they send me a message. A lot of people either leave the answers blank or just don't put enough care into answering them or they over answer and write essays, which very few people will read. Effort matters and it shows, and I think maybe that is a differentiating factor in my profile. I also wasn't afraid to insert some humor throughout my profile and had two of my girlfriends take a quick look to make sure my profile accurately reflected my personality. (And to do make sure there were no spelling / grammar issues) OP, if you put a little bit of effort into the actual content of your profile, and a tiny bit more into your photos, I guarantee you will receive quite a few bites. Good luck w/ online dating! I'm sure you will do just fine! |
Anonymous
| PP, why so many albums? And more importantly, did OLD lead to your desired outcome? |
Anonymous
PP here. Because guys are visual more than anything else and because I don't engage in "send me a pic" texts. This way, there are pics of me from every angle, in casual clothes, dressed up, by myself, with friends, left side, right side, etc. What you see in my albums is exactly what you get and there are no questions about my looks. I don't know what you mean by did OLD lead me to my desired outcome. Do you mean OkCupid? If so, it was better than match and other dating websites, but I'd say it's a tie between OkCupid and Bumble. Both in terms of the caliber of guys who are on there and what they are looking for (relationship vs casual). If that's what you want, then those are the two sites I'd recommend based on my own experiences with each of them. |
Anonymous
| Understand about the albums now. But, are you saying that a man will not agree to a date unless you have tons of pictures? I can understand 1 to 3 but the rest? By desired outcome I meant did you end up in a great relationship? |
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OP: what is your age, height, weight? I seriously doubt your self-assessment is correct.
I did meet a woman who looked awful in her OKC photos--she looked like an escaped mental patient with a severe underbite. In person she was pretty hot and had an amazing rack. She quickly got scooped up by someone and hasn't been back. And I really like bikini at the beach photos. Face doesn't matter if there is a good swimsuit picture. |