How to bring up Viagra
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Anonymous
| DH is usually willing to have sex but can't perform the whole time (trying to avoid getting moved to explicit forum). How can I tactful tell him he really needs a little blue pill? He is only 33. |
Anonymous
| There could be other factors. At 46, my DH ran into some of these issues. He reduced stress, got more sleep, made dieatary changes, found a decent multivitamin, and started kegels. It's been all systems go since then. He swears by the kegels. There might be something to look into before taking the step of telling a guy that he needs a blue pill. |
Anonymous
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Ask him to see a urologist. He needs to lose weight and build up muscles. Testosterone deficiency happens in overweight men.
Just ask. |
Anonymous
| Get his T levels tested. Best to get multiple tests. I had low T in my 30s but didn't even know it. |
Anonymous
| Does he use marijuana? My ex needed Viagra due to excessive marijuana use. |
Anonymous
| He should see a doctor; could be many things--arteries, etc! |
Anonymous
I think you be frank with him. That's tactful enough. Tell him to see a doctor for his enjoyment. 33 is young. Is he masturbating or watching porn to excess? |
Anonymous
| He could be gay? |
Anonymous
He did smoke but that was a good 12 years ago. |
Anonymous
We had problems with porn use 10 years ago. I would like to say it isn't a problem now but who knows? |
Anonymous
I've brought that up before and he just gets mad. |
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It could be an early warning sign. He needs a physical to check his cholesterol, blood pressure, etc and overall fitness. If all is good, tell him you'd like to experiment with it. Maybe a 1/4 pill, see what it's like to be 16 again. If he tries it, he will probably be hooked from then on. Make it sound sexy, not like a failing and...
Did you really fing ask him if he's gay because of erectile issues? SMH |
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Wow, some terrible advice.
Have an honest conversation with him. He may be relieved to talk about the elephant in the room. I am 42, and I had mild problems. Most of the time, I could perform, but sometimes I had trouble maintaining and finishing. I am in good shape, normal testosterone, but a little low on the thyroid. Point being, it could be an underlying medical issue and he should get a full panel done. But it could be just early aging down there - my doc said about 30% of men at age of 40 have issues and more than half by age 50. I got on low dose cialis, and it really makes a huge difference. Erections are bigger, thicker but more importantly they are effortless so now we can both really enjoy sex without the pressure of worrying about something quitting on you. I think my wife knew something was off, it was actually awkward for me to suggest it, but I think she was thrilled that issue is out of the way. |
Anonymous
Um, some men are secretly gay. If she asked, it's probably because deep down she suspects. |
Anonymous
I responded below, and agree with this. The cialis I got was the daily use, but I only use it for sexy time. Its about 1/5th the dose but for me its more than enough to go from 3/4 mast to full for a day or two. It's probably all he needs, assuming there aren't underlying cardiac issues. |