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Run. He is not your type. You need a guy who doesn't even know how to check his own oil, or why anyone would want to know such things. There are plenty of guys like that around here. The kind that pay other men to do every little thing that needs doing.
Clearly, you are way too shallow and too much of a snob for a guy who fixed up a car with his father, or still lives at home in his 20s. Do the guy a big favor and decline any more dates. You shouldn't have any trouble finding your type of guy.
Clearly, you are way too shallow and too much of a snob for a guy who fixed up a car with his father, or still lives at home in his 20s. Do the guy a big favor and decline any more dates. You shouldn't have any trouble finding your type of guy.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Once a week sex where the man initiates in the norm in marriage. Sure, some people do it more, some do it less. Your situation is normal.
You trade hot sex for love and security and family when you get married. Of course people know the sex cools off when the ring goes on. That's why men have a proverbial bachelor party.
Uh, OK, the woman gets that stuff in trade, but what does the man get?
Huge legal and financial obligations, and no sex. Yay! Who wouldn't sign up for that?
Men who are married are happier and live longer than single men. Married women get the shaft.
NONE of my married men friends are happier than even one of my single men friends. They all complain the same as the married men here that, once married, their sex life nearly, if not completely ended.
Wow, so all those really short, petite women can only get with men with pedophile fantasies who imagine them to be children? I suppose the really tall women only get with guys who have some kind of Amazon women fantasy? Some of you people are really out there.
If it's a friend, then you behave how friends expect and you tell her, just as you would want her to tell you. But be prepared for what happens next. She sides with the guy, tells him what you told her, he considers you a threat (you are) to his relationship, and you lose her as a friend. Has happened to me and many people, more than once. But still worth it I think.
Anonymous wrote:In general, men affair down, women affair up. It's not that hard for an average looking woman to get an attractive married man to sleep with them. It's very hard for an average looking man to get an hot married woman to sleep with them.
You don't speak for all men. Where did you get this crazy idea?
Anonymous wrote:In honor of this thread, I plan on decorating my titties with cupcake icing for tomorrow's departmental meeting.
Best comment in this whole thread.
Anonymous wrote:
I totally get that. The way he found out was really *hitty I know.
He's also upset that i did what he views as stuff that doesn't interest me in doing with him which he takes as a sort of insult or something. Anyway this has just spiralled
Yeah, this has gone from bad to worse. Now he has the image of you doing those things your "friend" may have graphically described, with the knowledge that, while you were fine with doing those things with past guys who now mean nothing, you aren't willing to gift those same things to your husband. THAT is shitty and begs the question, why not?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Since sizes vary so widely I go by waist size. I wear a 24" jeans, am 5'3 and 112. I'm very muscular, muscle is heavy.
Muscle is not heavy. It is just more compact so you can weigh more but look thinner if you're muscular. A pound is a pound no matter if it's fat or muscle, it's just that fat is sloppy and big looking and muscle is tight and firm so you look smaller. If you weigh 120 lbs but are muscular you still weigh the same as a 120 lb skinny fat girl. You just look better.
Yeah, I think everyone but you understood her to mean just that. Muscle is denser (and therefore heavier for the same volume) than fat. We all get that.
I wouldn't choose either of those options and thankfully, I'll never have to.
Meh - some of you married people must not get out much. There is nothing unusual about her actions. She saw what she wanted and went for it. There are a LOT of single women who have no problem hooking up with a married man.
She contacted him the only way she knew how. Facebook is anyone's first choice for looking someone up. He didn't discourage her and her being aggressive does not make her crazy.
She contacted him the only way she knew how. Facebook is anyone's first choice for looking someone up. He didn't discourage her and her being aggressive does not make her crazy.
Assume your wife knows your FB password, so change it now.
Anonymous wrote:Look, the guy drives a BMW. What do you expect?
+1 Says it all right there.
Anonymous wrote:You really need to talk to an attorney.
That said, I was told by my attorney that a despite a diagnosis of bipolar plus admitted drinking problem and highly repetitive infidelity, my now exDH would get 50/50 custody if he pursued it thru the courts. Absent evidence of serious physical or sexual abuse, I would not expect to get full custody. But, the lawyer can tell you the odds based on your specific factual situation and how to document to maximize your chances.
I gambled. I stayed together until my youngest. was 18 months old. I spent that time trying to get him to get into AA and see a therapist and psychiatrist. That didn't really work.
I also spent time gathering hard evidence of his problems. When I finally was ready, I told him at a joint counseling appointment that I was asking him to leave the house in 2 days. I informed him, in front of the counselor, about all the details (infidelity, drinking, pill-stealing, etc.) and evidence I had. He was pretty stunned and the counselor encouraged him to see that I was serious, and his best option was to move out as requested.
I think what I learned in this situation is that I could not depend on the courts to protect me and my kids physically or financially or do what was in the kids best interest. I accomplished full custody by manipulating the interpersonal aspects of the situation between my ex and I so that he would see it as in his interests to just let the kids live with me and see them frequently. (Much easier for him.)
As the kids grew, I made daily decisions about what situations were safe for them with him, manipulated the situation as much as I could without direct confrontation, and educated the kids about how to take care of themselves. They grew up faster than other kids in terms of having to watch out for themselves.
10 years later, I still have full custody of the kids. They have thrived. They have a decent relationship with him. It has been very tough on me financially and interpersonally, but in the long run, I consider it an investment in my kids that will enable them to be independent sooner (rather than messed up and needing my help long term).
So, moral of the story, can you get what you want without going thru the courts? Yes, it can be a bit risky, but consider your situation and what the odds are.
Congratulations to you. You put your children first and protected them where the laws are just not strong enough. We should get together and write a book on this. If you are depending on the courts, the law, or especially an attorney to act in your best interests and those of your children, you will lose. You have to take matters into your own hands and stop at nothing to accomplish what needs to be done. Most of all, take those big risks.
I did it in MD and I'm a man.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why doesn't he just block her? If he has an iphone, it takes about 3 seconds to do.
He does not have an iPhone.
In that case, it takes 4 seconds. Maybe 5. You can even get an app for that. Block her on the phone. Block her through your cellular carrier. Or, you know, he could just tell her to go away. What do you mean, should he tell her he is married. Why doesn't she know?