Insecure woman
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Anonymous
| I've been seeing this woman for 8 months. We're divorced with young daughters. I've noticed lately she's very insecure when it comes to other women. If we're out to eat, she always accuses me of flirting with the "pretty waitress" (which I'm not) and will question if I think she's prettier than her. Last night, we met up for happy hour with some of my friends, one who is a woman that I've known practically my whole life. Today she asked me if I think she's prettier than her and I told her she's like family and I don't look at her in that way. She said but she's not family and thinks I'll dump her for my friend. She's divorced because her ex had an affair with another woman, but she has to realize all men aren't like that. It's only been 8 months and I'm wondering if I should end things if this doesn't change. |
Anonymous
| Bolt |
Anonymous
| Insecure is not attractive, and you realize that. Time to move on. |
Anonymous
| She's not ready to date, and she needs to work on herself. Do yourself and her a favor and tell her this. And then stop dating. If you really like her, check in with her in a year and see if she got some therapy. |
Anonymous
| Seriously dude. Walk away. How you don't realize this as someone who's already been divorced is beyond me. |
Anonymous
| She's not over the way her marriage ended, poor thing. Major trust issues, needs therapy. Whether or not you choose to hang in there to see if there is improvement is up to you. |
Anonymous
| My DH was very insecure while we were dating. We ended up doing quite a bit of couples counseling which completely resolved his insecurity (and now he may be a little too secure for complacent, ha). If you want to make things work, try therapy. If you're not willing to do therapy then I'd end things. |
Anonymous
That was supposed to say AND complacent. Stupid autocorrect. |
Anonymous
| I feel for her, but that sounds exhausting. If you want to stay together, talk to her about it and maybe encourage therapy. Otherwise, it's a good enough reason to walk away. |
Anonymous
| It will NEVER get better. Run NOW. |
Anonymous
| Yep, get out. Never going to get better, will only get worse. Next step, you'll find her snooping through your phone. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, this is really troubling. And it won't get better without hardcore therapy. And it's so unfair to you - soon she will be isolating you from friends. I'd be out. Sorry. |
Anonymous
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The fact that her ex cheated on her is something she has not dealt with. She is seeking validation from you. Constantly. In the most unhealthy way.
Sounds like a lot of exhausting emotional baggage deal with. Honestly, eight months of this? Don't know how you put up with this for so long. She needs to work this out. But you know, you say you have a daughter. Would you seriously have this woman be a role model for her? |
Anonymous
She wasn't like this the whole time. This started maybe two to three months ago. I would like to see her get some help. |
Anonymous
| Leave. |