I feel bad for her. I'm 64 with a woman 15 years younger and I'm the more sexually aggressive one. You should not be slowing down that much at your age.

Anonymous wrote:She should temporarily move out and figure out a way to get better on her own. Either she will, and she can return (if she still wants to), or she will get worse (because loneliness). Living alone will also help you to reevaluate whether that's better than living with a person who only carries 20% of load at home (as you said).

As other people said, she also needs different therapist/psychiatrist/meds, because current ones aren't working.

Meanwhile, it wouldn't hurt for you to see if you can get in better shape, for health reasons. (Don't go crazy with weight loss, because the pounds will often come back, but improving lifestyle and less stress could really help.)

That is totally worthless advice. There is no chance in hell he will be able to just kick her out. Even if he footed all the expenses to put her in a nice apartment and keep her fed, there is zero chance she will agree to that. And he can't force her to move out. She is right where she wants to be, dragging everyone down.

BTDT and wish I had some advice for you. I understand your pain and the hopeless feelings. IN my case, she was also an alcoholic and that's how she self-medicated, while refusing to even consider any kind of prescription even see a doctor. It did not end well but at least I got my kinds away from her.

Good luck to you. You will get a lot of people telling you to just hang in there, don't abandon her, get her the help and magic pills she needs to bring her back to reality, but the reality is, she needs to help herself and if she isn't willing, you really can't do much at all. You need to get mentally healthy yourself and get your children away from that toxic environment.

Anonymous wrote:Blow
Job
Daily

Not
Realistic.

And I'm one of the men above who listed BJs. Daily? Yeah, that would be nice. Necessary to being a good wife? If your balls are that drained, you aren't being much of a good husband for you don't have much left to give.

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Anonymous wrote:Initiate BJs frequently-don't make him ask
Have his back
Don't talk so much
Cook his favorite foods once in a while
Don't be predictable
Don't put on weight or let yourself go

It's pretty simple really

Got it. So simple. Thanks.

Now I realize how so many women focus on the lower important things like cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids, socializing, and mental load of all of those items. As long as men take care of those items in the marriage, your list is good to go.

That is my list and if you are looking for an argument, you won't get one from me. You are not wrong. Those things you mention are ALL LOWER IMPORTANCE to you marriage. And they can wait. Sure, kids need to be taken care of. It's not mutually exclusive to being a good wife to your husband. Cooking, cleaning, other domestic duties? He is just as capable and, on any given day, they can wait or be outsourced. We negotiate those things all the time and in sexy ways. Hey, I tall you what, you cook tonight and I'll do the dishes and while I'm doing that, if you can do..... we can carve out some time for that thing we've been texting about today. Said by either of us to the other. You make it work.

And unless you are really short on plates, the dishes can sit another day. Start those kids doing dishes by at least age ten, if not sooner. Same for teaching them to cook simple things.

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Anonymous wrote:Any “man” she does this with won’t be a better husband than her current one. Both the cuckolds and the “bulls” believe that the woman has an uncontrollable insatiability that prevents her from being a “good” or “normal” wife. This ain’t polyamory, folks. It’s pathologizing female desire due to the husband’s feelings of sexual inadequacy and insecurities about infidelity. He’d rather “know” than suspect.

stop tying to put this into single categories ... if you’re not into this kind of kink, then keep your mouth shut because you don’t know what you’re talking about.

He can explain it any way he likes. If you're into it, why don't you offer us your expert opinion of how it works.

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Everyone's marrying super late. Biology and peak fertility are myths. Sweetie, bless your heart, but this is called denial.

Men don't care how professional a woman in her 30s is; by the time they're married, they're going to run into fertility issues -- especially if the husband wants more than one child. A much safer bet is pursuing women in their mid and late 20s

Jeez, stop with the fertility bs. No guy cares about it until they’ve started actually trying. We’re not trying to produce an heir to the British throne.

Hey Siri, what's human nature.

Instincts. If you want a few healthy children, you don’t willingly choose an older female mate. Every animal knows this. If you only want one child or you’re content raising another man’s children, sure, court women in their 30s.

You mean animals ask each other’s ages before mating? Ha ha! You are a funny “gal.”

They can sniff it out. Because, you know, they are animals.

As I posted in another thread. When I suspected her and finally knew for sure she was lying to me, I confronted her. More than once I gave her the chance to tell the truth while she doubled down on the lies. I told her what I knew and she just made up ever more preposterous stories that would insult anyone's intelligence.

So yeah, I spied in her and it was so easy, I didn't require any special software or devices. I told her exactly what I knew with exact times and dates, and when she finally asked me how I knew, I told her. Incredibly, she still chose to lie, or change her previous stories to minimize the truth and everything else she could do to: Deny, Deny, Deny.

I don't care what anyone thinks about it. I'm not some stalkerish guy who need to keep tabs on a woman. Far from it. And while I'll agree that people are entitled to their privacy, you give up that privacy in a relationship when you lie and I'm forced to provide you with absolute facts you can't dispute.

It was that or just accept her lies. I did that for a long time when I believed and trusted her, against my better judgement. Against all common sense. Faced with the same situation, I'll do it again but I have learned to trust my gut. My gut was correct every time I chose to ignore it.

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Anonymous wrote:I've got super hairy nipples.

I assume this is an issue for you because you're a woman...?

It's not uncommon. Pluck those nasty things and don't ever mention it.

Which one has the nicest ass?

Your crawlspace needs to be completely sealed. The term is, encapsulated. It should have at least a 2" thick foam insulation board adhered to all the exterior walls and at least a 20 mil thick liner fully covering the ground and adhered to the foam board with no gaps in the liner at all.

If the crawl has vents, they need to be sealed and the insulation should be removed from between the joists. Last step is adding a high capacity dehumidifier and drainage system if you have any water collecting in the crawl.

No doubt you are venting in warm air in the summer (cold in the winter) which then raises the humidity in there as warm, moist air cools and the relative humidity goes way up. The insulation traps the moisture against the joists and sub floor which can lead to wood rot, termites, rodents and other creepy crawly things, not to mention sagging joists as they get weakened.

If it were properly sealed, including a well built, insulated crawl door that forms a seal when it is shut, you would not need insulation and you would find it much easier to heat and cool using less energy. Allowing the wood to dry out will also insure you don't get termites or carpenter ants plus you won't have rodents nesting and breading in there.

Anonymous wrote:I think you went with the low-ball offer, are being billed now for items that were part of the job and you're whining about it. You sound like a complete sleazeball client. I am not a contractor, I am a homeowner. Clients like you give homeowners a bad name.

If you name the contractor then I hope he lawyers up and goes after you in court for libel and/or slander, depending on how you name him.

As a contractor, I have to agree with this. I'd love to hear the other side of this story. The guy decided to do "an electrical project" on his own that had nothing to do with the work being performed and was totally unnecessary?? HE was just doing some extra electrical work..for fun? Yeah, rigghhht.

Sorry but that makes me doubt everything else you wrote. I'd love to see that contract.

If the work being done requires a permit, you DO NOT want to hire a contractor who does not pull the permit (thus saving him money-maybe not you). A permit is guarantee the work will be done correctly, but a contractor who is willing to violate the law by not obtaining a permit is almost sure to be one you don't want working on your house.

I wouldn't marry any of them

Anonymous wrote:Are men in Chicago open to dating interracially?

Chicago is a divided city. North side? Sure. South side is one of the most racist places in the country.