Great first date...third date...Ummm...Not sure what to make of this
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Mid twenties, single female here. Went on a first date with someone my age a couple weeks ago and had a really good time. Guy is nice, has a lively group of friends (we went out with three other couples, one of which included his brother). Guy I was on the date with was polite, interesting to talk to and he had a good sense of humor.
We went out to dinner and a movie the following week and had a good time. He tells me he borrowed his brother's car for this date because it runs better and is nicer than his car. Hmmm. Third date, he picked me up in his car and tells me his dad gave it to him for very cheap...It's used and they fixed it up...Apparently it was filled with garbage when they found it...Hmmm.. I've never dated anyone who said/did something that left me feeling like..."Whaaat?!?!" I don't want to be shallow and drop him because of his car...But then again...Is this odd/strange...and enough of a red flag? He moved back in with his parents after finishing college but is looking to move out soon....He works in information technology...hmmm I like this guy but the car and living w parents thing is making me uneasy... I'm not looking to get married anytime in the near future....More focused on finding a relationship...If that makes sense Feedback please... |
Anonymous
A bit quirky. Too early to tell. But perhaps you are a bit cookie cutter shallow. |
Anonymous
You sound very shallow. Very much so. |
Anonymous
| You're a snob. Dump him so he can go find a nicer, less materialistic woman. |
Anonymous
| What would this be a red flag for? I don't quite get what you are asking. You sound like a total prima donna. |
Anonymous
+1 BTW, you might not think you are materialistic, but you are. He sounds nice. |
Anonymous
| He and his dad fixed up a car together. Which would indicate...a good father son relationship? Automotive skills? Handiness? Run OP! Run as fast as you can! |
Anonymous
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Big pluses - can fix up a car, fun, polite, interesting, close with his family
Possible minus - living with his parents. might be the sort who is looking for someone to take care of him. might just be a sensible financial move for a recent grad to save money. keep an eye out for basic self-sufficiency. |
Anonymous
| You're shallow and don't sound very bright. He should run. |
Anonymous
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All I hear is you're dating a guy with a nice family. |
Anonymous
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OK, so he doesn't have a lot of money. He's being upfront about it so that you can proceed or not as you choose. Make a decision and be done with it.
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Anonymous
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By the third date you know if you like him or not. If it's still up in the air it's time to move on. This is one of the reasons why you have the third date rule.
If it matters, it does not sound like he has a lot of money or a great resume. |
Anonymous
| This is actually really interesting to me. When I was young and in my 20s everyone drove beaters. Now with leasing every 21 year old had a nice car. I think it's a huge negative personally. You never learn how to fix up cars and you think you deserve a nice ride since you've always had one. Well you've always rented one at least. A 25 yr old guy driving a beater him and his dad found and fixed up was the culture norm 25 years ago. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, join the crowd looking for those guys with the 4 sixes (six figures, six pack, six feet, six inches) |
Anonymous
| I would rather date a young, thrifty guy who could fix things than a flashy guy who maxed out his credit card on a Benz. |