OP is a single mom that's holding out for an alpha and hates the betas she's matching with online. good luck
Boyfriend, but not really expecting to find one at this age.
+1
Does he wear a dress when he is putting the tchotchkes around the dining room table?
That's a really ignorant thing to say, and is offensive to men and women, straight and gay.
Hi there. First, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I am too with my ADD husband. The sex stopped the minute we got married.
He's on Adderoll which has helped a bit with his focus but has done nothing to help with the lack of sex.
For the trolls on here giving you a hard time, I wish they'd quit. You don't know how hard it is to be the spouse of someone with ADD. It feels like being married to a ghost. Zones out during all conversations and on dates, can't remember to do any of his chores, anger and frustration issues (him). It's incredibly hard.
We're starting couples therapy at this point. But honestly, three years and one child in, if I'd known about this condition and how lonely it is, I don't know if I'd have still married him. Conversations are like talking with someone who speaks finger painting -- words have no impact.
Hang in there and I'm here if you ever want to talk. Maybe we can figure out our significant others' ADD together.
I was less focused on cuddling. More focused on your climax. If he is quick to the finish line he can still get you there with a little effort. But a quickie without anything in it for you should have you looking around for more.
Oh, I am.
My DH, father of 2, married for 20 years loves to decorate seasonally. He decorates the dining room table with little tchotchkes related to the season: leaves in the fall, wildflowers in spring, etc. It's cute. That's the only decorating he is interested in, though.
The problem with "will my divorce be better for me" is that there is a natural comparison to compare your current situation to pre-marriage. It's totally unrealistic.
Pre-marriage, the dating pool was enormous, almost limitless, no one had real "baggage." Post-divorce, the singles market is totally, completely, different. Add on to the fact the split custody, the hit to finances, the holidays without the kids, the total loss of control over what the kids do when they are with your ex. Also, some kids handle divorce well, others don't and it's not always easy to predict which way it will go. A lot of that depends on how your ex responds to the divorce. No matter how mature you are, if your ex is determined to blow it all up, they can ruin the kids and your relationship with them in the process.
dintysons wrote:
As a wife who never, ever gets more than a quickie from her husband, I can tell you it's not a satisfying sex life, and yes, I am tempted to stray.
Never? No, oral or manual love first? And, by "quickie" you mean he has an orgasm and you do not?
Yes, yes and yes. Totally sucks.
He is currently 38
-He started having sex at 17.
-He said he had a high drive in his 20's and had a lot of sex
-His drive cooled down considerably around 32-33
-He said that he is low drive right now, with no interest in sex and is fine being that way
-He has tried porn to turn himself on (that doesn't work)
-When he does masturbate, he said it takes him 30+minutes
-He said that he has never been sexually abused, no traumatic experiences
-He takes a medication for anxiety
-He has ed. Very difficult getting an erection.
-He will not try Viagra.
-He has low T but will not take medication for that
-I asked him what he needed me to do to help, he said that what I already do is fine
-He has such little interest in sex that he barely touches me. It's always with me prompting, and I can tell he's not into it.
-He said that he can't think of anything that is a turn on to him to even get him in the mood.
I do think long term relations lead to the problem. I was at a party over the weekend and noticed when the men were in groups together they talked about not having any sex. Meanwhile the wives were flirting with any man that wasn't their husband.
As a wife who never, ever gets more than a quickie from her husband, I can tell you it's not a satisfying sex life, and yes, I am tempted to stray.
I think you'd be better off with a married guy who is not interested in a relationship and just wants weekly sex. No complications.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
So casually dating three people means you are kissing and making out with all of them?
Yes. Haven't you ever been in your 20's?
At the same time? Please move this to the expicit discussion - stat.