What is the primary problem in your marriage?

[Anonymous]

I'll start - we both have short tempers and our fights quickly turn into yelling matches. They aren't long fights usually, but they can be fierce.

[Anonymous]

I am the default parent and it is exhausting. My DH acknowledges this, but I really think he has absolutely no idea how much I do.

[Anonymous]

My husband has low energy. This is the root of our major problems: his inability to bear an equal load at home; our sex life; his messiness. He would say the root of his problems with me is my critical nature (refusal to be a doormat).

[Anonymous]

It is literally impossible for my spouse to understand that I don't have to agree with them on everything. A different opinion is not a personal insult.

[Anonymous]

My wife.

[Anonymous]

As a marriage counselor once told us, I am "random and abstract" and my husband is "concrete and sequential." That about sums up the fundamental source of our difficulties.

[Anonymous]

It probably sounds silly and very minor but right now it's lack of sleep. DD is 6 months old and we haven't gotten more than a 4 hour stretch of sleep since she was born and she's up for hours almost every night. We're both beyond miserable and so deep into survival mode. Some days we just don't have the energy to care about each other, we're just trying to keep our own heads above water.

[Anonymous]

We're getting older!

[Anonymous]

We have a great marriage but I would say that my main issue is not getting enough sleep. DH just can't go to sleep before midnight. And 7 hours isn't enough for me. I've been struggling since the baby was born. And even when he comes to bed at midnight, he is on his phone for another 30 min or so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It probably sounds silly and very minor but right now it's lack of sleep. DD is 6 months old and we haven't gotten more than a 4 hour stretch of sleep since she was born and she's up for hours almost every night. We're both beyond miserable and so deep into survival mode. Some days we just don't have the energy to care about each other, we're just trying to keep our own heads above water.

Sleep training my friend. It's not healthy for you two or this baby to be this sleep deprived.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It probably sounds silly and very minor but right now it's lack of sleep. DD is 6 months old and we haven't gotten more than a 4 hour stretch of sleep since she was born and she's up for hours almost every night. We're both beyond miserable and so deep into survival mode. Some days we just don't have the energy to care about each other, we're just trying to keep our own heads above water.

Sleep training my friend. It's not healthy for you two or this baby to be this sleep deprived.

Oh believe me, we're fast approaching sleep training. I've been reluctant since a) I have a hard time listening to DD cry at all and b) we're in an apartment with thin walls and I didn't want to be a total dick neighbor but you're absolutely right, this is healthy for no one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It probably sounds silly and very minor but right now it's lack of sleep. DD is 6 months old and we haven't gotten more than a 4 hour stretch of sleep since she was born and she's up for hours almost every night. We're both beyond miserable and so deep into survival mode. Some days we just don't have the energy to care about each other, we're just trying to keep our own heads above water.

Sleep training my friend. It's not healthy for you two or this baby to be this sleep deprived.

Oh believe me, we're fast approaching sleep training. I've been reluctant since a) I have a hard time listening to DD cry at all and b) we're in an apartment with thin walls and I didn't want to be a total dick neighbor but you're absolutely right, this is healthy for no one.

Start a thread on this. It doesn't mean crying it out all night. Lots of steps before that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a great marriage but I would say that my main issue is not getting enough sleep. DH just can't go to sleep before midnight. And 7 hours isn't enough for me. I've been struggling since the baby was born. And even when he comes to bed at midnight, he is on his phone for another 30 min or so.

You're choosing to not get sleep. You need to sleep train ASAP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a great marriage but I would say that my main issue is not getting enough sleep. DH just can't go to sleep before midnight. And 7 hours isn't enough for me. I've been struggling since the baby was born. And even when he comes to bed at midnight, he is on his phone for another 30 min or so.

You're choosing to not get sleep. You need to sleep train ASAP.

huh? Baby sttn. DH wakes me up when he comes to bed and when he's brushing his teeth. DH is pretty sleep deprived too, he just won't go to bed.

[Anonymous]

I am an introvert and our two kids drain my social reserves, so I don't have much left for DH, and sometimes I get irritable. He is coping pretty well, but I am trying hard to work on this.