Has anyone tried the Gainswave treatment for Peyronie's disease?

OP,

I was like you and here are the major points I learned about dating as a divorced dad:

1) Try dating outside your go-to "type" when possible. All of my long term relationships (including my the one with the XDW) were with outgoing blondes or redheads. About six months after my divorce, I dated a shy woman who had emigrated from sub-Saharan Africa. She showed me so much about art, culture, food, and the world that I would have never known without meeting her.

2) Most divorced moms are not looking for a man to spend huge amounts of money on them. They are looking for a man they can spend time with who is not someone else they have to take care of and manage. What do I mean? Understand that normally they only get one weekend out of every two away from being a full-time mom – so plan time together where she does not have to cook (e.g., send out for pizza, cook for her, or find take-out food you like together) and can get other things done while spending time with you (e.g., she can have a load of wash running while you two watch Netflix and have sex.) For example, if the two of you were going to a party in her neighborhood, stop by Total Wine and be the guy who brings wine for the party gift and for you two later.

3) She wants to have fun within the bounds of knowing that the kids are returning at 5:00 pm on Sunday. There are a million fun things you can do from 5:00 pm on Friday to 5:00 pm on Sunday and she will likely be up for most of them.

As far as your kids, here are some points that will make life better

1) Right now, block out your time with them on your work calendar. If you have them on Wednesdays and every other weekend, then block this time out and push to make sure you do not schedule meetings, etc. during these windows. Work harder on Monday and Tuesday to make sure you have Wednesday beginning at 5:00 pm completely free.

2) Make your own connections to your kids’ teachers and the parents of their friends. Do not rely on your EXDW to keep you in the loop as to who they are friends with and how school is going for them.

3) Make sure they bring schoolwork when they come to your place for your weekend. It will help you stay involved in how they are doing and make sure that you have more to do with them then just trips to the mall and movies.

4) If you are not being taken advantage of, help your EXDW by taking the kids on nights or weekends when she need help. First, and most important, it shows your kids that you consider spending with them a pleasure, and not a burden. Second, you will not worry if you ever need her to return the favor.

Good luck. You will be happier, and they will be happier once you get into you new routine and you find someone who can enjoy on your solo weekends.

I'm 40 and yes, I've already had kids. I guess I have a hard time imagining it because I've always been so future oriented, I can't imagine what it's like to be old and realize that I probably don't even have five years left. I mean how do you deal with that? Just try not to think about it, or are people that age generally at the point where they feel ready to die because they feel like their time for being here has passed?

Do you know why you are concerned about how much time you have left? In your post, you worry about not having "five years left" and people feeling like "their time for being here has passed." Is there something you really wanted to do that you have not done? Then, do it now. Are you worried you will not live as long as someone else or others your age?
If so, why?

OP - live in the present moment, the moment happening right now, today. Enjoy it.

Worrying if you will get more tomorrows diminishes the pleasure that you can find today. Once you understand and accept that today is all we really have, then you can let go of yesterday and tomorrow and truly enjoy where you are and where you always will be.

Lol not really!
Don’t fool yourselves, baldness is a huge detriment.
You need to be f@ckibg rich to get a woman to overlook lack of hair.

Someone struck a nerve. Did a bald guy dump you? Was daddy bald and not pay enough attention to you?

BTW - it is "f@cking" not "f@ckibg", unless you cannot type or proofread.

I feel the same way. I don’t care about being hot to men. If DH left me, I doubt I would bother with another relationship.
That is why I wrote if it was important to people.
My grandmother did not seem to care either. She never wanted to remarry because she did not want to become a caretaker to a sick husband.

This is an interesting post. I am a divorced 56-year-old man and usually date women in their early to mid-50s. Dating is so much better now than it was in my 20s because women my age are not as focused on issues like suitable relationships. Instead, they focus on enjoying themselves, and most seem to be much more open to enjoying dating then they were when they were dating pre-marriage.

Most say they want and enjoy sex so much more now and that they feel free to enjoy a sexual relationship for its own sake. Of course, the women posting here would have better input on this issue. Finally, I (and believe most other divorced men my age) are not looking for anyone to take care of us. We have our own money, take care of ourselves (I know I am in much better shape than when I was married), and are looking to enjoy life as well.

Well, sometimes guys make decisions that aren't totally based on beauty or hotness. (Shocker, I know.) My "one that got away" married a woman who is probably equal to me on both the hotness and the education/intelligence level. But, at the time I was dating him, I was kind of a mess -- drank too much, slept too little, got upset about dumb stuff, etc. He was not wrong to ditch me. At the end of the day, I think we probably would have been a better match for each other than we were for either of our spouses, but I was going through a weird period and I acted in a way that didn't really represent who I am, or who I would become. Anyway, I hope he is very happy with her. (And he makes a fraction of what my spouse makes, but I don't care about that.)

I call the "drank too much, slept too little" period in my life college. And I was an accounting major.

However, the parties we threw were out of this world WILD.

True. I am far from shy.

Well they say that good looking men are good looking men whether they are bald or not, so don’t be so hard on yourself.

I hope they (i.e., the "they" that say this sort of things) are cute and looking for that ever so special yet shy NoVA bald guy. And they divorced the hedge fund guy so we can afford to eat at El Tio every night once they reopen.

Does your ex, by chance, have a Kate Gosseling haircut?

It is now shorter. She is very bright and works in IT. Used to be very fit; however, now she is showing the wear and tear.

I went bald early so she was doing better lookswise until about 40. Then, she dropped faster than the market did after the COVID shutdown.

Enough about her. What about you, you cute vengeful little thing you?

Online affairs can be more exciting than you might think.

Bumping because this post is spot on.

Good man, love him, and he's always had a lower libido than I. Compromise with reduced frequency and same-old, same-old super-vanilla (lets get real: less than vanilla) sex was something I could compromise on.

I am in my mid-50s and was married for about 25 years. We had stopped having sex for about two to three years before the divorce. We have two kids (both were out of the house when we split.)

Post-divorce, I have only dated divorced women with kids (because it is the group with whom I feel the most connected.) My biggest surprise is how much the women I have been lucky enough to get know enjoy more adventurous sex, such as

Being physically controlled (e.g., pining their hands, holding them in place, picking them and carrying them)
Being told what to do and when to do it
Having their hair pulled or being spanked.

It is sad that a woman who wants this non-vanilla sex cannot get it, much less any kind of sex (vanilla or not). It opened a new world for me.

While leaning against a Ferrari

Great idea. I will get the Ferrari and a dog photoshopped into this picture.

Thank you to all the posters.

Your suggestions have been great and I appreciate you taking the time to post.

I vote you use a photo wearing Gucci sunglasses, Armani suit, Louis Vuitton shoes with the Eiffel Tower in the background.

I have such a photo. Except I am wearing an ascot with my Armani suit.

DP. It seemed like self-deprecating humor to me.

It was (or at least it was an attempt at it). It would have been funnier if I would have a photo so you could compare it to Jason Statham's photo.

I wonder if he ever wishes he was a tax attorney.