Hi there. First, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I am too with my ADD husband. The sex stopped the minute we got married.

He's on Adderoll which has helped a bit with his focus but has done nothing to help with the lack of sex.

For the trolls on here giving you a hard time, I wish they'd quit. You don't know how hard it is to be the spouse of someone with ADD. It feels like being married to a ghost. Zones out during all conversations and on dates, can't remember to do any of his chores, anger and frustration issues (him). It's incredibly hard.

We're starting couples therapy at this point. But honestly, three years and one child in, if I'd known about this condition and how lonely it is, I don't know if I'd have still married him. Conversations are like talking with someone who speaks finger painting -- words have no impact.

Hang in there and I'm here if you ever want to talk. Maybe we can figure out our significant others' ADD together.

ddintysons wrote:

Hi there. First, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I am too with my ADD husband. The sex stopped the minute we got married.

He's on Adderoll which has helped a bit with his focus but has done nothing to help with the lack of sex.

For the trolls on here giving you a hard time, I wish they'd quit. You don't know how hard it is to be the spouse of someone with ADD. It feels like being married to a ghost. Zones out during all conversations and on dates, can't remember to do any of his chores, anger and frustration issues (him). It's incredibly hard.

We're starting couples therapy at this point. But honestly, three years and one child in, if I'd known about this condition and how lonely it is, I don't know if I'd have still married him. Conversations are like talking with someone who speaks finger painting -- words have no impact.

Hang in there and I'm here if you ever want to talk. Maybe we can figure out our significant others' ADD together.

My husband goes to an ADHD specialist in Alexandria. They have started him on the lowest dose of Adderoll. And I think mine may be a little further along on the ADD spectrum than most. He has a hard to with basic chores, etc. ironically, he's the most brilliant man I've ever met. Missed ONE question on his SAT in high school.


Have you tried Vyvanse or other meds? Med cocktails? Your DH's reaction does not sound normal to me at all. Are you using a top-flight psychiatrist?

I have ADHD, love sex, and feel great. However, I suffered for years with any number of issues related to the condition (and so did those around me). Once I found a psychiatrist who knew what she was doing, it changed my life.

ddintysons wrote:

Hi there. First, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I am too with my ADD husband. The sex stopped the minute we got married.

He's on Adderoll which has helped a bit with his focus but has done nothing to help with the lack of sex.

For the trolls on here giving you a hard time, I wish they'd quit. You don't know how hard it is to be the spouse of someone with ADD. It feels like being married to a ghost. Zones out during all conversations and on dates, can't remember to do any of his chores, anger and frustration issues (him). It's incredibly hard.

We're starting couples therapy at this point. But honestly, three years and one child in, if I'd known about this condition and how lonely it is, I don't know if I'd have still married him. Conversations are like talking with someone who speaks finger painting -- words have no impact.

Hang in there and I'm here if you ever want to talk. Maybe we can figure out our significant others' ADD together.

Have you tried Vyvanse or other meds? Med cocktails? Your DH's reaction does not sound normal to me at all. Are you using a top-flight psychiatrist?

I have ADHD, love sex, and feel great. However, I suffered for years with any number of issues related to the condition (and so did those around me). Once I found a psychiatrist who knew what she was doing, it changed my life.

Anonymous wrote:

ddintysons wrote:

Hi there. First, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I am too with my ADD husband. The sex stopped the minute we got married.

He's on Adderoll which has helped a bit with his focus but has done nothing to help with the lack of sex.

For the trolls on here giving you a hard time, I wish they'd quit. You don't know how hard it is to be the spouse of someone with ADD. It feels like being married to a ghost. Zones out during all conversations and on dates, can't remember to do any of his chores, anger and frustration issues (him). It's incredibly hard.

We're starting couples therapy at this point. But honestly, three years and one child in, if I'd known about this condition and how lonely it is, I don't know if I'd have still married him. Conversations are like talking with someone who speaks finger painting -- words have no impact.

Hang in there and I'm here if you ever want to talk. Maybe we can figure out our significant others' ADD together.

Have you tried Vyvanse or other meds? Med cocktails? Your DH's reaction does not sound normal to me at all. Are you using a top-flight psychiatrist?

I have ADHD, love sex, and feel great. However, I suffered for years with any number of issues related to the condition (and so did those around me). Once I found a psychiatrist who knew what she was doing, it changed my life.

Thanks, I truly appreciate you reaching out, sometimes I feel I am being punished for something. It is horribly lonely being with him, he just ignores me, we dont do dates, he comes home, sits in the bathroom and then eats in front of the tv then zones out till he is ready for bed. I have no one to talk to, because everyone is tired of hearing me complain. I have asked him to move out and he just ignores me. I dont want to be a victim, this is my story and I want to write it for myself. I am so glad I did not marry ho,