When I was single, I made it a point to never go out with anyone who was divorced with children(ren). I am a woman snd I did not want the baggage of an ex-wife and kids.

Wow. Do really consider another person's kids baggage?

Do you have kids now? Are they baggage?

OP, you asked a thoughtful question and deserve a thoughtful reply. All the trolls up post who are trying to make you feel bad can go screw themselves.

Let your date develop at a natural pace. If he asks a question about your life that involves your child, answer it (e.g., Q: What do you do most weekends? A: Take my kid to swim practice, save the world, etc.)

Don't focus what you might or might not discuss. Focus on learning more about him. If he is worth it, he will also be focused on learning more about you.

Remember, it is just a date and you never know what you might hear when you ask him questions about his life (e.g., OP: So, what do you do most weekends? A: I polish my 12 life-size Stormtrooper action figures. It takes about a day. Do you want to see them later?)

Anonymous wrote:
Maybe the guy has a really large penis. Her relationship is not your business.

This.

Posts of this type are just one of the many reasons why I love DCUM.

Why would you give a flying french f#ck who she wants if it is not you?

This is binary - if someone you are interested in is interested in you, then you proceed with getting to know them. If they are not, then the moment you become aware of this you turn your energy and efforts toward women that are interested in you.

I don't need to clean up after somebody else or do his laundry or write his thank you notes, or otherwise take on responsibility for another adult.

Men my age (50+) should be able to pick up after themselves, do their own laundry (or pay someone to do it), and write any note (thank you or otherwise) needed. If they cannot do these simple things, they are not adult but a very, very, very old child.

With an AARP card.

Hi Everyone,

I think I am the most important person in the world because I am the most important person in world.

You should thinks so as well. It is not a disorder if you are correct in what you believe.

Signed,

The most important person you know.

Right now I have a FWB. We escort each other to events, see movies together and try to make ourselves available when the other is doing something where having a date/companion is helpful. We often have sex and sometimes we just get together to have sex.

I would love to have a relationship like this one. To be with somebody I cared about enought to have sex with and see for dates, etc.

Even better if she had a high sex drive and wanted to make lots of time for us to have sex.

Ladies - before you start a situtation like this one (i.e., a true FWB) do ask if he is having sex with anyone else? Most of the women I have dated have said either: 1) if we are having sex I want to be your only partner (less an ultimatum and more just rule of the relationship); or 2) nothing.

As far as rule of the relationship, I have felt that their request was simply "I do not want to have sex with you if you are having sex with other women." I thought it was a fair enough request in that I could either agree or move on down the road.

I'm looking for a girlfriend.

Where are you looking? Online? At happy hour? Via friends? At Harris Teeter when you are there?

Please tell us.

They have such wonderful manners.

I used do volunteer work during the early afternoon right before my daughter's high school games. The timing was such that I had about an hour or two (say 1:00 to 2:00 pm) to waste or two or three times a week for three months a year for four years so I hung out it at the McLean Giant during these times.

I loved watching these guys wind their way past the canned goods, looking cool in their suits.

Why just ask about the woman? There are two people in a marriage.

I asked what women think because I am a man. I wanted to know their point of view.

You noted you could not answer a question because you were not a man and because I am, I have a better what most (but not all) men think.

My experience was my XW stopped wanting to have sex and this made me unhappy. Hers was she was unhappy and did not want sex. This issue becomes a death sprial. However, even when I was not that happy I was up for sex, not just because I loved it but also because I felt closer to her afterward.

Most men I know would put aside the unhappiness to have sex and most would say they felt closer to their DWs afterwards (i.e., the unhappiness stayed gone, if only for a little while.)

Poster at 10:44, you have two unconnected statements, neither of which address my original post.

You have people in their 70s consulting or running a small business part time or volunteering

True.

No reason they have to be dressed up to go to the supermarket.

True as well.

I think you are implying that the gentlemen in my post could be working part-time and they have stopped at the Giant on their way to or from a work event while in the formal business attire required for their work. However, this does not explain the following items.

First, why do they have very little in their shopping carts or why do they have a cart at all? If they were stopping by Giant when going to or coming from work, it is unlikely they would need a large cart.

Second, why would they travel most of the aisles in the store? Again, a quick trip to pick something up is just that.

Third, how did they cultivate the relationships with the personnel who work at the store? Why would they do so unless they had the time to do? Think. They are there often enough to get to know the people that work at the store. More than that, these gentlemen know the employees by name and to be addressed by name. Their conversations address topics that they have addressed before.

Consider more than the fact that they are well dressed.

Often, during the weekday I will see these older men (early to mid 70s) walking around the McLean Giant. They are very well dressed and dignified.

They are wearing the clothes I believe they wore when they worked (suit, tie, nice hat). They very friendly and seem to know all of the people who work at the store. They will stop and chat with the man stocking she soup section and discuss the Redskins, their kids, etc. with him like they are old friends.

The well-dressed older men ("WDOM") walk slowly and behind their carts and usually have very little in them, even though they appear to go up and down every lane.

I am a 53 year old man and I believe that the WDOMs are there because they miss work, the ritual of dressing up and going someplace to do something during the day. I believe they missing talking to people, having things to do, being a part of something.

Do you know a WDOM? Am I right? Or do men of a certain age just like dressing up for the McLean Giant?

Statistically, married people have much more sex than single people. You are comparing sex in a bad marriage with sex in a (successful?) dating life. Two completely different things.

Compare happily married sex lives to happily single sex lives, and see what you get.

I am intrigued by your post. I have often wondered about these statistics. In the studies I have read (my high-brow reading includes Men's Health, and Ask Men), the control groups are single men of a certain age are compared to married man of certain age (e.g., single men 35-40 v. married men 35-40). And in every study, the married men are getting more sex.

I would think that if one could survey married people who are thinking about getting divorced within the next 12 months, and compare that to married people who are not, the married people who are not thnking about divorce would be having more sex. Not much science there and this is supported by the posts noting that women do not want to have sex with a husband they are angry with or do not care about.

When you say "compare happily married sex lives to happily single sex lives" and see what you get, the question means nothing. However, based on just the little seen so far in this post, it is really the woman's happiness in the relationship that is the controlling variable regarding the frequency of sex?

honestly if I had to choose, I'd say I'd like benefits with no friendship thanks. And very little talking.

What about talking naughty?

Once I dropped my unattractive, fat, and lazy/selfish in bed DH, I got laid all the time. The same is not true for him.

+1

So you're making this about you? Mmkay

Dear PP - Not the brightest light on the porch, are you? Let me try another way to get the same message across.

The person who posted that she was "holding out for an alpha" might want to consider broaden the criteria she is using to meet men. Instead of holding out for an "alpha", she might find a "beta" to be someone she would enjoy going out with and getting to know. In other words, a "beta" she meets online might be fun to go on a date with.

I bet you are mad because you were never smart enough to get into the math club.

Signed,

We are sorry you did not make it.