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I'm recently divorced and have no desire to get into a relationship until I'm mentally in a much better place then I am now. No guy needs to hear my venting about the male species! On the other hand, after a non-existent sex life the last two years I'm very interested in a FWB. I'd love a weekly meet up with a nice guy who's in the same boat.
You would be a catch for the recently divorced male set in NoVA.
.honestly if I had to choose, I'd say I'd like benefits with no friendship thanks. And very little talking
Please pick me. I will keep my mouth shut.
PP - Would you please give us an example of the games they are playing? Is it ghosting (i.e., they will call and then disappear) or pretending to single when they are married?
I am divorced (53 year old man) and have been in the dating world about a year. Trying to learn as much as possible as fast as possible.
I am divorced (53 year old man) and have been in the dating world about a year. Trying to learn as much as possible as fast as possible.
Good sex, good communication, dinner and a baseball game? Truly, a home run <snicker>.
My kind of girl.
My kind of girl.
PP here. If there were temporary male birth control, I would have used that as an example. Is OP or is OP not engaging in a long, involved lie to her DH as opposed to communicating with him? That is the point of the analogy, not the permanence of the birth control method.
I am glad this poster made his point clear. This is what i understood as well.
I think the advice for the OP has been great and focused on some of the most important items (e.g., the OP's apprehensions regarding timing, finances, etc.) I hope she is able to share what she is feeling with her DH.
I would like to know if she responded to the question about how she would feel if things were the other way around (i.e., she thought they were trying to have a baby and he was making sure they were could not.) If being a parent right now is important to him, then he may not be with the right partner.
She should not be forced to have a baby, not now and not ever. If he wants a baby now, he should be free to find someone else who does as well.
Yes, I am.
Ladies: Please tell us - What are you looking for? Is a boyfriend (and how would you define that term) or a "friend with benefits" (and how would you define that term)? What makes a good boyfriend or a good FWB? The answer to this question is more vaulable than gold.
I think that stating you are 47 and want to date would do it for me. I believe that most women who want to date also want to have sex with the right person.
And, yes, you will need to filter the crazies.
And, yes, you will need to filter the crazies.
I have girlfriends who are not getting any intimacy with their DHs. They have talked, cried, threatened but the guys are not into sex. I have talked to them at length about my sex life and have turned them towards sex toys.
Hi PP.
Any chance you could let me know when you are hosting the next get together of this group of friends? I would love to be there.
Strictly for moral support.
Just accept that the average man is useless. This is what I've come to figure out and I'm happier when I just pretend I'm a single woman again and have to do everything myself. I want my child to grow up with two parents, so I won't divorce my husband, but he's not much help. He can't even say that he's the breadwinner and so I should take care of everything else. I make 4 times his salary. He can't understand why some women don't want to get married. I think it's pretty obvious. When you have to do almost everything on your own, there really isn't much point in having a man around. It's just more work.
I am so turned on by this poster. PM on its way.
I'm 58 and I would never go to these types of bar scenes. Just too depressing. I hate old being around old desperate balding men. I would much prefer to be among younger people.
My favorite part is not that she is hates being around old desperate men. That would be just fine.
It is that she hates being around old, desperate, balding men. So balding = desperate for this wonderful lady.
If a man were to say something like about women this board would light up with indignation.
For the PP at 12:15 who asked, I posted as "single" because I am single now.
I am divorced after 23 years of marriage.
I am divorced after 23 years of marriage.
No. I am seeing someone I meet on Match.
Anonymous wrote:
I'm 50, single and have tried online dating. I'm getting tired of the online dating thing but find its difficult to meet guys in their 50s out. Any suggestions??
I would seek out a church with a high population of singles and/or over 50 year olds, single or not. It's a safe and genuine way to meet people. Not suggesting to begin going to church as a way to meet men, but to broaden your social network - which can help you to meet men! Of course this suggestion is only for people that are interested in being part of a church community, I realize that many people are not at all interested in this.
At 53, I am one of the youngest single men at my church. Word.
ddintysons wrote:
I am 53 year old single man and like the online stuff.
However, if you hear about better places to meet and greet and I am open to it.
Which online sites have you tried?
I have tried:
Match - It it worked very well for me. Very nice women looking for someone for something more than a casual relationship.
OKC - It it was okay. You never knew what was going to happen. Great girls to bunny boilers.
Bumble - It it was okay - see OKC.
Tinder - My mistake. In so many ways.