I know. I know. I'm supposed to date multiple people at a time until one is ready to commit to exclusivity. But honestly? I don't have the interest or time. I would rather evaluate one at a time, and if he's not ready to commit after a month or two, move on. Is this game of "yeah, I'm juggling multiple guys, too" really necessary between work, kids and friends? If it matters, I'm 50, not 20, so I don't need to have kids. Already have them. Pluses and minuses to my planned approach? |
It is exactly what I have done since going on my first date in HS. I date a person. If it goes somewhere, we stay together. If it goes nowhere, we move on and someone else comes along. Why do I want to call multiple people? Dating the right person is important in my life, dating for the sake of dating is not. |
Nobody cares. Date one or many. |
This sounds exactly like my gf. Such a piece of shit as a person. Gonna fix myself up and leave her |
You do you, girl, but realize you may never make it past the first date. |
I feel as you do but I have to say that the only time in my life I dated two men at the same time, I ended up getting engaged to the man I have now been married to for 11 years. When you date more than one man, you project an air of confidence and a little bit of mystery and perhaps a bit of "the hunt is on." |
You can do it however you want. Set the pace as you like it. You are in the driver's seat. Have fun! |
Your method works for you (and, it would work for me, too). Why do you feel you are supposed to date multiple people at one time? This is not a problem. Date the one person until you are done with him/her. |
I think many people do this. It's normal. |
I was casually dating 3 people when I met my husband who became lucky number 4. None of them had gotten so serious that we were sleeping together, but meeting the right one was incredibly obvious when you see three wrong ones up in your face. |
Agreed. I've never dated more than one man at a time. Call me old-fashioned but that's slutty to me. |
Do you sleep with more than one man at a time? |
How do you differentiate "casual dating" from friendship if you weren't physically involved with any of them? |
That's a weird distinction. I was in my early 20's. I went out on dates with men. We made out. Just because you're not sleeping with someone doesn't mean it's friendship instead of dating. |
If you date more than one at a time, you must be good with the man dating more than one at time.
Fair is fair. |