Who is making these rules for you and why do you feel like you have to follow the rules? I didn't wait a week to start dating after being separated, never mind divorced. You decide that for yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:Next time get married before kids. The high cost of extraction makes people think twice.

No it doesn't.

You believe astrology guides your relationships and you are, "use to having more than one guy show me "attention"."

Yes, you need to dump this guy and go seek the attention you crave. Otherwise, you are going to make yourself, and your guy miserable for you will never be satisfied without all that male attention.

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Anonymous wrote:I had happy years married and miserable years married. The miserable years were made worse because I could remember when ex was a decent, mostly sane person. Averaging all those years, probably slightly happier married but you have to manufacture your own happiness. I was very lonely and isolated the last 8 years of the marriage.

Now I'm not lonely, and looking forward to a great relationship with a younger, tighter, more successful woman.

You sound like a lovely person.

Because I want what's best for me, for a change?

NP. Because you're an annoying delusional loser

What is so delusional about wanting to choose a better partner next time, after suffering one who wasn't? This option is available to all single people. It's a driving force in the decision to get divorced. The choice between years of worsening misery in a bad relationship, or getting out of the relationship and being free to pursue someone better.

Single and in a good relationship that either of us could end at any time if it doesn't work. Not married and trapped in a bad one that isn't so easy to get out of. I'll never marry again. Done raising kids. There isn't enough value to marriage to ever convince me to do that again.

It's the most commonly used line for those who hook up at their high school reunions.

Anonymous wrote:There is no such thing as a sex addict. That's an excuse. He's just a nasty person. You know it. And he's NOT a good father. Good fathers don't buy freaky sex on the internet. A good father spends time with his kid, not humping every piece he can. And taking money away from the family.

Do you realize you are getting some of every skank he skips his thing in ?

LEAVE HIM.

Not much to add except, get legal help and make sure you have court ordered child support. You can see where his money is going and his priorities. They are not towards his son.

Millions of people still play and Niantic is making a fortune off this game. Try playing it with her on your phone. You may just enjoy this new activity you can do together while walking. Then agree to both put the phones away at some point towards the end of the walk and just enjoy each other.

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Anonymous wrote:So, we're getting married in 3 months and my fiance' didn't completely sign out of his email on the lap top. I saw in his inbox that he signed up for a membership to a gay dating/hook up site. That's the description on the site. The email was the link to confirm his membership. He had clicked on it. It showed his log in and password, so I logged in. He has his general location, height, weight, age filled in. His bio says "just a normal guy looking to meet normal people"

OMG.

Why were you violating his privacy? What strange fetish do you have that makes you pour through your fiance's email? He should reconsider the engagement.

Did you bother to read her post? How strange of you to describe her desire for the truth as a fetish. That's quite a stretch on the definition of, fetish. HE should reconsider? OK, he can certainly do that if he feels like you do. He caught her snooping and now he is in major damage control, trying to cover one big lie with many more lies while dragging another person into the web. Wouldn't you love to hear that conversation between him and Marc? "Marc, man, I need a BIG favor.." "I'm in such deep shit, you've got to cover for me." He doesn't seem to upset about how she found out, does he?

Sorry but once your partner does something to raise serious suspicion of activities that could have a huge impact on your relationship and future together, they open themselves up to being snooped on. While I'll agree that snooping is bad, and people have a right to privacy, I won't go as far as to say that snooping is never justified. One shady move by one partner opens them up to the other stepping outside the normal boundaries to protect themselves.

The need to know the truth she would never find out otherwise, not even by asking him (she did that, remember?) trumps his right to privacy IMHO. Cheaters who take care to operate with absolute discretion and privacy are able top lead these double lives. Those who get caught are the careless ones who then invite the snooping.

"He/She left their browser open and..." is the start of so many threads here where someone discovers their relationship is not the one they thought they were having.

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Anonymous wrote:Op are you male or female?

Op is a troll. This far into a thread is always a clear and no participation from op means troll.

Hi, I participated twice and have been dealing with this all day. So sorry I wasn't able to log back on. He was completely blindsided when I asked him about it. Denied it, I showed him. He said it was his buddy Marc's (who was over last night) not his. He was going crazy and told me that he would have Marc come over and explain it to me.

That is some quick backpedaling. You should have called Marc right then. Now he has time to beg Marc to take the fall for this and save his ass, when this story makes no sense. No man is going to let his friend use his e-mail account and computer to sign on to a gay dating site. There is no reason for Marc to do that. Marc would logically create his own email address just to use for that site or other down-low activities and use his own damn computer.

But, do let Marc explain this to you and please come back and tell us how that goes. Ask Marc how your F was supposed to be handling the messages Marc got from the site for him, and why? Here is a good one. Ask him to tell you the password to "his" (Marc's) profile on the site and your Fs password for his email. If he doesn't know either of those, how was he supposed to log in and find a gay guy, check his messages, etc.

I really feel for you and hope it all works out for you no matter how this ends. I also really hope I'm wrong.

ETA: If the profile disappears then that's a sure sign it's your fiance's profile and he took it down now that you caught him. Marc would have no reason to take it down. He's trying to find a man with the help of his really good friend, right?

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Anonymous wrote:First, I have no interest in going to a strip club. If I want to see a naked woman and "achieve a degree of sexual satisfaction" I can do that at home though not every night.
Second, if I suggested it to her she would look at me and ask "WTF? Am I not enough for you?"

Woman here. I'm more than happy to give my DH a lap dance though technically its referred to as a cowgirl or reverse cowgirl. I do think it would be interesting to go to a strip club and watch the customers and not the girls. Who are these people, why are they there, don't they have anything better to do? Yuck!

Oh please, stop clutching your pearls. You really wonder why men want to look at naked women? Oh gosh, what might be the appeal?

This is going to shock you, but here goes: the men who would want to look at naked, young women, other than their wives, include your pastor, your kid's teacher, the local cop, your dad and your son and your husband. Basically, all men.

Uh, no. Not all men want to look at naked women.

Yes they do. Not sitting at a strip club peeling off dollar bills necessarily, but otherwise, we all do. I like to look at women, period. Clothed, naked, and everything in between. Because, you know, I'm a man.

Keep in mind, for the men the reality of a strip club is, it's the last place you would go to get any kind of sexual attention, release, or sex of any kind. Their are huge bouncers stationed at strategic points all around the club watching everyone to make sure nothing gets out of hand.
Most guys know this and can simply enjoy the fun with their friends. Just like any bar but with naked women to look at.

Then there are those guys... The ones who actually hang out at strip clubs, know all the strippers, and think they have a chance if they spend enough money every week. Because other than paying a woman to get naked, they don't have the social skills to entice a regular woman who isn't working.

They are easy to spot at the clubs and the strippers love them. They come alone and hang out, spending half their paycheck. THEY are the ones who pay the bills on a steady basis. Not the big group of guys or the bachelor party.

As long as you H isn't one of them and only goes with his guy friends, you are probably OK. Why don't you ask to go with him some time on a date night. Demystify the place and see how silly it all is.