When were you happier? Married or single?

[Anonymous]

Currently going through separation. Some days are rough. I feel lonely at times which makes me sad. At times I tjink maybe I was happier when married. What about others? When were you the happiest?

[Anonymous]

I was just thinking about how I want DH (and MIL that never seems to go away) out of my life for good.

He could've been a good husband, but MIL has ruined him.

[Anonymous]

Single

[Anonymous]

Married! Been at it over 30 years and we are still going strong. I love that when I'm away my DH is miserable being single! You have to pick the right partner and work hard at it.

[Anonymous]

In a great relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a great relationship.

This! I'm sad being single and wished I was with someone who loved me as much as I love them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a great relationship.

Me too.

Separation can be heard (I've been through it) but I try to remind myself that although we had happy times, the relationship was not right for me Overall. When people go through a breakup they tend to idealize the other person and remember the best times. It's easy to forget about the day to day letdowns and disappointments.

I made it through. I'm happier now than I ever imagined I would be (and even before I entered into a new relationship, I was at peace and pretty happy being alone and single) - hang in there!

[Anonymous]

Hard* not heard!

[Anonymous]

OP you'll get over this hump of sadness, you're in the dark cloud of divorce right now, but it does clear.

[Anonymous]

Married

[Anonymous]

Married, but I lucked out with a great marriage (15 years so far). I sometimes miss aspects of being single, but overall I'm happier now.

My mom, on the other hand, was much happier after divorce. So was her mom. And my dad's mom. Just depends on your personality, and on the details of the marriage!

[Anonymous]

Happier single than in a non-great relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Currently going through separation. Some days are rough. I feel lonely at times which makes me sad. At times I tjink maybe I was happier when married. What about others? When were you the happiest?

Everyone who goes through a divorce feels this way but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Few people who are happily married want to be single and many people who are single would like to be happily married. But if you are unhappily married, being single sounds ok.

[Anonymous]

It depends on what day you ask me. Currently single and all though my life is far less chaotic, it can get boring at times. I do not miss the level of chaos that my ex brought to my life, but I do miss the companionship.

[Anonymous]

Married. Now been married for 24 years, with DH for 28 years.

There is nothing better than a great marriage but nothing more soul destroying than a bad marriage. People should divorce because it is better to be single than in a bad marriage (unless you are not financially independent and there are kids involved)