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Some friends of ours host a NYE party every year and there is a lot of drinking going on. Sometimes, their adult children (20’s) are in town and at the party and they are doing shots with the late 50’s/early 60’s crowd. It has always seemed odd to me. I am not a big drinker (a glass of wine once in a while) so it hasn’t come up with my adult children.
My dd had one at age 20. Her nose seemed fine to me but it was a little crooked, and she was sensitive about it. She did the work of consulting with surgeons and getting estimates, etc. We helped her pay for it but she also paid for a portion of it herself. No regrets.
Do a book exchange in lieu of gifts. Ask each guest to bring a gently used book to exchange with the group (and you should provide a few extra books).
I don’t think I would send a card but I would definitely call him to let him know you are thinking of him. I am sorry for your loss.
I would limit visits to outside and inside if masked. You already said you would do outdoor dining so that is more than just a 15 minute visit. If they want to go to the zoo or other activity (assuming outdoors) meet them there with your kids and then let them hang out just with the kids while you go off on your own. I would say no to the sleepover and tell them why. Your kids may be disappointed but they will be ok.
No. I just think 15 is too young even for a very responsible kid. A couple more years and I think it would be fine.
Do you know a responsible college kid that could stay with her?
Do you know a responsible college kid that could stay with her?
I would think about the future when your parents get old and need help. It is really nice to have siblings you are close with to help make decisions and take care of them. I am close with my two siblings even though we don’t live very close to each other but it was been so good to have each other as our parents age.
I would definitely want to know. And a good lesson for those of us with guests. Ask your guests if the mattress is ok or if it needs replacing (assuming you have an older mattress).
Anonymous wrote:He can remain sour - that's on him
Him having a bad cold -only- would have been justification enough for you not to visit, I think
But I think it happens to be junk that you think it was covid, and had him test. Dumb.
Not junk. My vaccinated SIL thought she had a cold (bad cough, achiness, loss of sense of smell). Tested and was positive. Passed it on to my brother and niece, both of whom were vaccinated. Brother experienced a semi-bad cold (mostly aches, low fever, stuffiness) and niece experienced a very mild cold. We were with her 24-48 hours before she showed symptoms and none of us got it (all vaccinated).
9 or 10. As a birthday gift at a reputable salon. And with the understanding that it would not be a regular thing. My older dd liked it but didn’t highlight it again until she could pay for it as an adult. My younger dd is a bit more high maintenance and often asked for highlights as a birthday gift or would spend her own money on it.
I don’t think it is weird but I also think it is ok to be disappointed. However, since you said your dad rarely acknowledges you, this seems to be par for the course. I am in my 50’s and my 84 year old dad has always called me to wish me a Happy Mother’s Day. My 91 year FIL has always sent flowers to his daughters and daughter’s in law on Mother’s Day. Very sweet but certainly not expected and I know it is not the norm. He has been having health issues this year so did not send flowers or call which is absolutely fine as I was not expecting him to.
She’s under 40 but I love Taryn Truly. She is very real and talks a lot about positive body images, regardless of size. And a great sense of humor.
The biggest change for me is showering at night instead of in the morning. Now I can wake up, do something about my bed head (either spritz with water or straighten it depending on how many Team meetings I have and with whom). Maybe put on a little bit of makeup (again depends on my meeting schedule), put on joggers/leggings and a nicer t-shirt, sweatshirt or sometimes a nicer shirt (depends on my mood). If my feet are cold, I add socks. If not, Birkenstocks. I usually go for a walk late afternoon and shower either after that or before bed. I do not miss my commute at all!
Anonymous wrote:Or - you could just do something for sukkot - which lends itself more to an outdoor gathering.
Possible. But then of course, we might have to build a Sukkah.
. And we still have the problem (normally a good problem to have) of lots of in-town family that we are close with. But....you are correct that Sukkot might lend itself to an open house style celebration better than Yom Kippur. Might be a very good idea! Thanks!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Main problem that I see is that when I get to break the fast.. I do not wish to sit and chat for a while. I want to eat! Especially, as I'm also in a group that has various levels of fasting, as, as someone who fasts strictly, I find that people who haven't fasted I would not invite more people that you are comfortable seating and eating simultaneously, as some people will be happy with to go boxes, and some will not.
Sorry, got interrupted while editing and lost train of thought (I must be hungry)
Anyhow, I was saying, in a mixed group of fasters and non-fasters, I find the non-fasters can be a little clueless about the fact that some of us want to actually sit down and eat and chat later! This works fine when I can hit the buffet or grab apps and then catch up with Aunt Sally later. This would not work well if I were holding my to go box, or eating in one of the few distanced chair and Aunt Sally was hanging around so she could chat with me after I finished.
Break the fast just doesn't sound like a great set-up for a distanced gathering.
Do you have to do break the fast or could you do Kol Nidre dinner? That sounds better to me, as people really want to get in, eat, and get off to services. If you have a group like ours where people are headed to different events, you could easily stagger.
I agree and that is why I am struggling with it. It just doesn’t seem to lend itself to a safe outdoor gathering. Break-fast is the meal we have always hosted. We have another relative hosting a small Rosh Hashanah outdoor dinner and that one seems doable.