Mother’s Day Question

[Anonymous]

Is it normal that my Dad did not acknowledge me on Mother’s Day? We have a relationship and I am his only daughter. I just had my 2nd baby not even a year ago and yesterday there was no phone call from my Dad. When I asked him why and told him it hurt me he told me “it didn’t occur” to him to call me.

My Mom doesn’t either FWIW but that’s another story.

[Anonymous]

Heeee isssss yourrrr dadddddddd, and you are NOT HIS MOTHER!

So yes, of course it is normal that he didn't "acknowledge you" on Mother's Day. What with you not being his mom and all.

[Anonymous]

It certainly would have been nice, but it's not super egregious that he didn't.

[Anonymous]

You are not his mother.

[Anonymous]

In my family yes, that would be weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It certainly would have been nice, but it's not super egregious that he didn't.

This.

[Anonymous]

Uh, you're not his mother?


He's from a time where you only wished your own mother a HMD. Not every mother on planet earth. I find it weird when everyone does this to me, still. You, we, all of us mothers are really not that unique.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my family yes, that would be weird.

No. It's for your own mother. You must be really young.

[Anonymous]

If your relationship is otherwise good, I would just move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Heeee isssss yourrrr dadddddddd, and you are NOT HIS MOTHER!

So yes, of course it is normal that he didn't "acknowledge you" on Mother's Day. What with you not being his mom and all.

I get that - but isn’t it something that he’s MY DAD and like a simple acknowledgment of something so special as being his daughter and now a mother to my own children? I mean - I’m just trying to get a baseline - sorry it offends you that I may think my Dad would acknowledge me on Mother’s Day for being a mother. I’m not talking about a random person.

FWIW he barely ever acknowledges me so I was hoping he would on at least a day that’s cut out for acknowledging women with children.

I’m so sorry it bothers you.

[Anonymous]

If your husband, the father of your children, didn't acknowledge you on Mother's Day, that would be terrible. But your father? Not the problem you are making it out to be.

It's sad you feel he doesn't recognize you in general, but I would really lower the bar of expectations. Put the bar on the ground if you need to.

[Anonymous]

Why would anyone other than your husband acknowledge you on Mother's Day, OP? You have weird expectations.

[Anonymous]

Well, nothing is normal, but no, I don't get an acknowledgment from my father on Mother's Day and I am also the only child. Doesn't bother me at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your husband, the father of your children, didn't acknowledge you on Mother's Day, that would be terrible. But your father? Not the problem you are making it out to be.

It's sad you feel he doesn't recognize you in general, but I would really lower the bar of expectations. Put the bar on the ground if you need to.

Actually, this isn't necessarily true. Now that my kids aren't babies anymore, my wife expects them to acknowledge her on Mother's day. She doesn't expect anything from me. Same in reverse for Father's day. All that we do is remind our DC's that Mother's/Father's day is coming and that a card/picture/other appropriate gift would be nice.

What is terrible is if you don't communicate with your spouse and try to meet each other's expectations for the day, whatever they may be.

[Anonymous]

My dad doesn’t say anything to me.
I think this is more about your relationship with your Dad, less about Mother’s Day.