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Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mexicans have become the "whipping boy" of US society. Blame the illegals.
My family has been in this country before Texas was part of the US. So, I hate to tell you, we have been part of this country probably before your family came over on some boat.
Should have used more of that time learning proper English then.
Correct english would have been the following:
"Then you should have used more of that time learning proper English."
Dumbass.
Acura TL is better than you think and there are a ton of them out there so price is not bad at all.
Very, very safe car.
Very, very safe car.
Im sorry OP, that is a horrible situation.
None of us know what we will do in that situation unless you have been there before; its not fun.
Most people dont know how to react to gunshots and what your hubby did was not that uncommon. Mention your thoughts to him and then move on.
None of us know what we will do in that situation unless you have been there before; its not fun.
Most people dont know how to react to gunshots and what your hubby did was not that uncommon. Mention your thoughts to him and then move on.
Anonymous wrote:FBO wrote:My girl and I have had this discussion. Sex is sex until you make it something more.
So you have a "girl?" You give the impression that you are looking for someone.
It may be your assessment that I am 'looking for someone' but you wont find me saying anything like that in any of my posts. Someone may find me, but I dont make it a point to go 'looking'. (At least I didnt think so)
Also, you really should read my statement again.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Did you end up with the affair partner?
Yes
Really? Interesting. Are you and affair partner still together? Do you think you'll marry?
We've been married over 6 years. Have 1 child.
if you were a guy you would be called every name in the book and as a women, i think you should be as well
So you are mad that the PP found someone who made her happy that was not her (then) current husband?
Jealous much?
Im like 5'11 & 250 and my girl and I have more than once had our fun in her Mini. You would be surprised how much room you can get in a car.
As the pp mentioned, skirts help a lot.
As the pp mentioned, skirts help a lot.
Anonymous wrote:In our house, I'm the one with less patience than my husband.
Good luck.
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Mentally filed away all comments to my knowledge base for future use.
Thank you for a very good, well thoughtout, and concise response!
MOST SUVs nowadays have a bench seat for the second row, and a removable becnh in the rear. I know the Toyota Sequioa used to offer captians in the second as an option.
Minivan out of the question?
Minivan out of the question?
Anonymous wrote:Montana wrote:
I am in the same boat. No, she didn't know before "I do" because he wittingly or unwittingly concealed his low-libido condition just like my DH. Otherwise these guys could have never locked up 8s like us.
So it was a low libido before you? Ive always wondered about this because it is stated so much. Could something have happened in the marriage, or work, or anything else that would have changed his libido from pre-marriage to post-marriage?
How did he 'hide' no libido...I just cant imagine having to do that.
Considering Cartiers will last a LONG time, think of it this way; he really only spent about $200/year for it to be on your wrist for the next 25 years. Have a daughter to pass it to? Even better.
Pretty good investment.
Pretty good investment.
Damn. That response above is GOOD...
Dont be so quick to dismiss your actions as well. You seem to be taking the 'Its not me, its him' approach when in reality it is both of you together.
Sometimes kids need to be yelled at before they understand. Fight fire with fire and all that.
Also remember that your kid will benefit from each of you having your own parenting style. Instead of saying ' you use the wrong tone' try offering other suggestions.
Can you put the kid in timeout in another part of the house?
Can you both use earplugs while hes screaming?
Can you take the kid outside somewhere and let him scream his head off?
Can you wear the kid out at night so they are tired?
Can you give them a little benadryl to calm the kid down?
Im just thinking out loud here but consider some of those things. Obviously current methods dont work so try something new. Just do it as a team with your hubby. Together.
Best of luck to you guys.
Sometimes kids need to be yelled at before they understand. Fight fire with fire and all that.
Also remember that your kid will benefit from each of you having your own parenting style. Instead of saying ' you use the wrong tone' try offering other suggestions.
Can you put the kid in timeout in another part of the house?
Can you both use earplugs while hes screaming?
Can you take the kid outside somewhere and let him scream his head off?
Can you wear the kid out at night so they are tired?
Can you give them a little benadryl to calm the kid down?
Im just thinking out loud here but consider some of those things. Obviously current methods dont work so try something new. Just do it as a team with your hubby. Together.
Best of luck to you guys.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I found the right man but it's not the right time
Why not? Are you the one who has no place to go? I know how frustrating that can be.
No place to go as in physical location? Are hotels a no-go?
Anonymous wrote: It worked well for my husband. He found someone within two weeks.
Damn, thats crazy. Was this post divorce or while you guys were together?
Anonymous wrote:I wish my husband would be receptive to therapy. He has tried it but on some level I really don't think he wants to change his crazy work cycle because it gives him good results. He is a very convincing arguer so it is hard to get him to see that all of that internal anguish is actually a distraction to his productivity, not an essential part of it!
10:09 here. Here's the thing. Right now, his internal anguish is an essential part of it, because he's never learned another way. And because at this point his brain is kind of wired to experience these things--maybe he needs the stimulation of fear, anxiety to allow him to get beyond the barriers of self-doubt and be creative. The issue is that it is soul-killing for your marriage. Perhaps if he understood the real impact on you, that it damages you and not just him, he'd be more receptive? I also think that this kind of behavior pattern probably responds better to cognitive behavior therapy, not sure he's tried that.
in the meantime, I am doing my best to do things for myself and maintain some emotional independence. This weekend I got some exercise, did some cooking, took the kids out and just enjoyed time with them as much as possible and gave DH some space. the more I worry about his stress, the more stressed we both are. I can't control his behavior, only mine so I'm working on that.
Good luck to you....
Well said. You can see from the way you explain things that you 'get it'. We each have our own issues and our reasons for those issues. But instead of worrying about the things you can not control, you are living your life as it currently stands and living it for you.
You have no idea how unique that is.