Would you have a one night stand if your spouse wouldn't find out?

[Anonymous]

Let's say you traveled a lot for work or were at a conference would you sleep or at least make out with a really attractive person? I say why not go for it. You only live once and it's not like a full blown affair.

[Anonymous]

I would not. Why play with fire? Why not just have sex with your spouse? Even if your spouse never finds out, you will always have that secret.

[Anonymous]

No, because I would know even if DH didn't. I wouldn't be able to sit through a meal he prepared for me, a gift he gave me, or a kind word without feeling awful.

[Anonymous]

Yes. But the guilt would plague me to the grave. I'd still do it though--with the right person, I'd have a full blown affair. And I know that my DH would forgive me because he knows I am deeply unhappy with him sexually. And he wants me to be happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. But the guilt would plague me to the grave. I'd still do it though--with the right person, I'd have a full blown affair. And I know that my DH would forgive me because he knows I am deeply unhappy with him sexually. And he wants me to be happy.

DO you just not have sex? is he a cripple? Tell us more.

[Anonymous]

I've learned that life is one long series of disappointment and interruption and regret. So yes, I would. Do it. Use all available protection and no last names.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't. I do miss dating other people, but I'd be so disappointed in myself if I cheated on my spouse. It would affect me, and who I felt like I was/could be in our relationship, in a bad way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. But the guilt would plague me to the grave. I'd still do it though--with the right person, I'd have a full blown affair. And I know that my DH would forgive me because he knows I am deeply unhappy with him sexually. And he wants me to be happy.

DO you just not have sex? is he a cripple? Tell us more.

Yes, we have it very, very infrequently, missionary position. He just is not and never has been into sex that much and he's very squeamish about experimentation. We have talked about it ad nauseam. He knows he has let me down, big time. But he is incapable of doing anything about it. In my marriage, sex is passable, occasionally really good even, but exceedingly rare.

[Anonymous]

Err....done it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. But the guilt would plague me to the grave. I'd still do it though--with the right person, I'd have a full blown affair. And I know that my DH would forgive me because he knows I am deeply unhappy with him sexually. And he wants me to be happy.

DO you just not have sex? is he a cripple? Tell us more.

Yes, we have it very, very infrequently, missionary position. He just is not and never has been into sex that much and he's very squeamish about experimentation. We have talked about it ad nauseam. He knows he has let me down, big time. But he is incapable of doing anything about it. In my marriage, sex is passable, occasionally really good even, but exceedingly rare.

Is he gay? Do you have kids? I mean most men would love for their WIVES to want to have sex even more.

[Anonymous]

No. I would be betraying him and I wouldn't want him to do the same.

[FBO]

My girl and I have had this discussion. Sex is sex until you make it something more.

[Anonymous]

If I was attracted to the guy, hell yes.

[Montana]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. But the guilt would plague me to the grave. I'd still do it though--with the right person, I'd have a full blown affair. And I know that my DH would forgive me because he knows I am deeply unhappy with him sexually. And he wants me to be happy.

DO you just not have sex? is he a cripple? Tell us more.

Yes, we have it very, very infrequently, missionary position. He just is not and never has been into sex that much and he's very squeamish about experimentation. We have talked about it ad nauseam. He knows he has let me down, big time. But he is incapable of doing anything about it. In my marriage, sex is passable, occasionally really good even, but exceedingly rare.

Wow, I feel for you....did you post about this previously? You sort of had to know this pre-marriage, no?

[FBO]

Anonymous wrote:If I was attracted to the guy, hell yes.

So would you make a move on the guy? Or wait for him to try it first?

Just curious.