Anonymous wrote:Any “man” she does this with won’t be a better husband than her current one. Both the cuckolds and the “bulls” believe that the woman has an uncontrollable insatiability that prevents her from being a “good” or “normal” wife. This ain’t polyamory, folks. It’s pathologizing female desire due to the husband’s feelings of sexual inadequacy and insecurities about infidelity. He’d rather “know” than suspect.

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Anonymous wrote:Any “man” she does this with won’t be a better husband than her current one. Both the cuckolds and the “bulls” believe that the woman has an uncontrollable insatiability that prevents her from being a “good” or “normal” wife. This ain’t polyamory, folks. It’s pathologizing female desire due to the husband’s feelings of sexual inadequacy and insecurities about infidelity. He’d rather “know” than suspect.

stop tying to put this into single categories ... if you’re not into this kind of kink, then keep your mouth shut because you don’t know what you’re talking about.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it seems like the real purpose of your “question” is to elicit responses to confirm you are right and your husband is wrong. You may wish to examine your own motives.

To answer your question, we have lots of fantasies that have gone unfulfilled. For example, both of us love the idea of group sex, but recognize that there are lots of potential problems bringing that about.

Yes, and it is OK for OP to ask for confirmation that she is right. And she is right. He's badgering her and she is starting to doubt herself.
OP, it is totally OK to have limits, it is OK to have fantasies that don't get acted out. You've expressed your limits respectfully, and your DH needs to respect them.

Actually, none of us know if she is right because we only have one side of the story.

When it comes to sex, no means no. That's the only side that matters. When one person makes a boundary clear, it should be respected. The other person shouldn't be badgering or pressuring them to change their mind.

She's right because she said no to having sex with somebody she doesn't want to have sex with. That is ALWAYS right. What is your problem?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it seems like the real purpose of your “question” is to elicit responses to confirm you are right and your husband is wrong. You may wish to examine your own motives.

To answer your question, we have lots of fantasies that have gone unfulfilled. For example, both of us love the idea of group sex, but recognize that there are lots of potential problems bringing that about.

Yes, and it is OK for OP to ask for confirmation that she is right. And she is right. He's badgering her and she is starting to doubt herself.
OP, it is totally OK to have limits, it is OK to have fantasies that don't get acted out. You've expressed your limits respectfully, and your DH needs to respect them.

Actually, none of us know if she is right because we only have one side of the story.

When it comes to sex, no means no. That's the only side that matters. When one person makes a boundary clear, it should be respected. The other person shouldn't be badgering or pressuring them to change their mind.

She's right because she said no to having sex with somebody she doesn't want to have sex with. That is ALWAYS right. What is your problem?

Ha! In this case OP literally said no to having sex with a stranger she met at a bar. Her husband is mad at her because she doesn’t want to sleep with strangers. There is no other side to this story. This sounds pretty abusive to me.

OP should stop thinking of ways to appease her abusive husband and start focusing on getting herself some help. Maybe start with therapy and work her way to a divorce attorney?