how intimate are you - 70+?
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Anonymous
| 65 year old men here, my wife is 69, turning 70 very soon. She initiates intimate "play" several times a week and I just don't quite feel up to it, I just want to relax and watch some nightly shoes and go to sleep. She has always been very active in all areas of her life, but this seems somewhat forced. She recently had some plastic surgery done and she looks great, but that has never bothered me, in other words, I don't feel more inclined to "play" now after the surgery, but she has definitely stepped up the "play". How do I tell her I don't feel up to it several times a week? Am I in the wrong? Advice please. |
Anonymous
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Talk to your doctor. It could be a lack of testosterone as you’ve aged. Perhaps subconsciously, you have performance anxiety. My husband recently started to use cialis after having the pills for a long time. He seems so much for confident and eager not that he is physically working the way he did in the past.
Also, you’re never too young/old for marriage counseling. Good luck. |
Anonymous
| *now |
Anonymous
| OP, I’ll trade you my 48-year old wife for your 69-year old wife. |
Anonymous
| Lol op. She’s a wild one!! |
Anonymous
| Are you willing to be intimate once a week...or twice? If so, simply tell her that. If you have no desire but do love her you might want to speak with your doctor and check out your T level. If you are concerned about performance that is easily fixable. My husband is 69 and I’m 68 and we have sex at least once a week, sometimes twice. I’m sure he’d like it at least twice or more but I’m no spring chicken but I do my very best to make the once a week very worthwhile. In terms of the plastic surgery she is probably feeling great about herself and more desirable to you and wants to share it. |
Anonymous
| I’m sure that a lot of your guy friends would be happy to take your place. Share your problem with them and they will be scratching at her door. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Take advantage of it! Burn ‘dat a$$ up... |
Anonymous
| Send her my way. I’ll do things to her that you won’t do. |
Anonymous
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I’m a 43 year old woman with a pretty strong libido and a boyfriend I have sex with several times a week. So I haven’t faced this yet.
But to me it seems like the pharmaceutical and medical establishment is attempting to call something a disorder when it’s just human nature. Humans aren’t supposed to pro create in our sixties. Therefore, is t it normal that op’s libido is waning? He should not feel bad about not behaving a super high libido that he has to take medicine to “fix” when he is at an age where humans are naturally having lessening libidos. Don’t know what to say about how to keep your wife happy. Would she be down with just some cuddling and maybe you touching her till she orgasms rather than full on sexual interpcurse that takes up more energy on your part? |
Anonymous
| Some typos above - sorry |
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| I feel bad for her. I'm 64 with a woman 15 years younger and I'm the more sexually aggressive one. You should not be slowing down that much at your age. |
Anonymous
Who are you to say what should happen to a person at any age? Who made you the arbiter of all in life? OP, you should have a talk with your wife and find a solution that woks for both of you. As someone else suggested, it could be about intimacy as opposed to sex and maybe she just wants to feel more attractive so could flirting/compliments work as well? |
Anonymous
Well duh. You're almost 30 years younger than the OP! Other than that, I agree with you. All these testosterone supplements and ED drugs are solutions in search of a problem. If one's body doesn't want to do this stuff naturally in one's 60s and 70s, that's not unnatural or a "condition" to be fixed. |