Anonymous wrote:OP some recommendations for books that might be helpful are Elevating Child care or No Bad Kids by Janet lansbury. Could help with some tools and info on how babies/toddler communicate their needs and how to respond. Can be really helpful!

+1 for No Bad Kids. I credit this book with loving the toddler years instead of hating them.

I remember this with my DS at this age, but with soccer. The other kids dutifully followed the instructions, and he was literally running laps around the field pretending he was an airplane.

6 months later, he was ready.

It's not about being behind so I wouldn't think about it that way.

OP I honestly think it would go a long way for you to type something like this up and give it to your husband.

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Anonymous wrote:My 2 youngest needed a sippy cup of milk in their beds. They would half wake up, drink it & go back to sleep. One has outgrown it. One still does. I know this is horrific fir their teeth but I’ll pick my battles - sleep and sanity for the rest of the house outweighs the dental stuff at this point. I switched to 2% milk and it didn’t work. The youngest needs whole milk to feel full in thr night. I know it’s ridiculous but a snack before bed doesn’t work. I think she just has a crazy metabolism.

I'm a PP. I sort of want to try this for my son, but I'm worried that 1) the sippy cup will leak all over the sheets, 2) he won't be able to find the sippy cup at night and will start screaming, 3) he'll throw his sippy cup out of the crib and make us keep coming in to give it to him. Has any of this stuff happened to you?

OMG. I'm PP ("I sort of want to try this..."). I DID try this, AND IT WORKED!!! I didn't do a sippy cup of milk, but I did a sippy cup of water, and my toddler who has NEVER SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT and was waking up MULTIPLE TIMES A NIGHT AT 21 MONTHS finally slept through the night for the past two nights!!!! He is a mouth breather, so this makes sense. I guess he was thirsty....

I also lined his crib with a big fuzzy fleece blanket, so maybe that helped too?

I hope other people read this and it helps them. This was actually a 100% miracle for me.

Also, I probably just jinxed myself by posting this and he'll be up 3 times tonight.....

Gotta love a DCUM success story! I hope this trend continues!

No clue what the history of the relationship is between the 2 of you but there's clearly some animosity coming from her side.

If you want to further infuriate your SIL, ignore her text. People like her, they want to start something. And once they've started it, it makes them crazy to be ignored.

If ignoring isn't an option, your DH needs to step in and call her BS out.

OP can you post his current schedule? That may help troubleshoot.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all of the replies. I’m with him most of the day because I’m on maternity leave, but my husband does as much as he can into be evening and on the weekends. I don’t have him on a schedule but he’s on a routine. He eats every 2-3 hours, is up for 60-80 minutes before a nap, and we have bedtime routine. I think most babies become more aware at this age and it can be harder for them to go down for naps in the afternoon. He is very easy to put down in the morning and early afternoon, but later afternoon and evenings can be tough. I think it’s just something we have to go through, but my husband thinks putting him on a strict schedule would help.

8 weeks to 10 weeks is classic time for the cranky baby witching hour.

The thing about babies at this age is that you just have to wait a few weeks and things will be different.

It's so easy to feel like "this is how things will be forever -- we need to fix it!" but the truth is, once you figure out a plan to fix it, they'll developmentally be doing something else.

Based on my (limited) experience, babies tend to get on an actual schedule between 4 & 6 months. For mine it was closer to 6 months. It'll be there soon!

I agree with you 100% that 8 weeks is too early for a schedule. You can start aiming for a routine, though. Lots of people do the eat, activity, sleep pattern, in a variety of orders depending on which book you read.

But the best answer on the thread so far, imo, was the person who suggested talking to your pediatrician. I would hope your husband would listen to the doctor you chose for your baby. If not, then you likely have a long road ahead of you.

We really like the vista print masks.

Bottles are a relatively new thing, in terms of evolution. And millions of children across the world have never used them.

Your child will be just fine

We've had my son in private preschool this year and it's been great.

The mask thing seemed weird to me at first, but then it just becomes habit and a normal part of their day.

Their peers are all doing it as well and it's been a total non-issue.

OP I think the issue may be two-fold here.

Your friend is on her own journey with her own struggles, and she might be more vocal about it on social media than the "norm".

But, if you felt confident in your own choices, I doubt your feelings would be hurt by your friend's posts.

I'm saying this not because you made the wrong choices at all, but because the beginning of parenthood can be fraught with insecurity.

We all want to do what is best for our children, and when we see people making different decisions -- decisions that they are CONFIDENT in... decisions that are different than ours -- it can make you question yourself.

At least, that was my experience.

For this situation, I would do two things.

1) I would give your friend some grace, and assume she's going through the same new parent insecurities that you are.
2) I would hide her on social media for now and give yourself some time to operate as a new parent in the vacuum of your friend's opinions.

I need a prescription for Xanax for a very specific phobia that is triggered periodically.

I went to a psychologist to be diagnosed with this phobia and she gave me the script.

My psychiatrist told me to start asking my OB during my yearly wellness visit instead of paying her $$$ to see her for the script going forward.

So I asked during my last visit, and my OB denied me! Said she didn't feel comfortable prescribing that without having any knowledge of my mental health.

I don't think that's such a bad thing though. A close friend of mine is an addict and Xanax is something he abuses.

Yes. Private preschool teachers got their first shots last week. I'm so happy for them!

I have found that so many people who post on here are genuinely trying to be helpful. And there are a few people who seem to be jerks. I think it's easy to focus on the jerks, and tbh that's probably what they want.

But, better to just ignore them and focus on the people who are here to help. Maybe they'll go away someday if people aren't constantly responding to them.