Baby will not take a bottle and we’re tired of trying.
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She’s five months now and it’s a screaming fest every time we try to give her a bottle. We have tried EVERYTHING and every bottle. DH, Nanny and I have all tried for two months and she screams when you even try now.
So I’ll just suck it up but are there any long term negative effects? Is she going to take a cup on time? Will it effect her accepting a spoon in her mouth when we start solids? |
Anonymous
| No. I exclusively breastfed at the breast with no bottles or pacifiers and the kids were on track with solids and open cups. We never even did sippy cups. |
Anonymous
| Nope won’t have an issue, you could try talking to a lactation consultant if you want to keep trying. |
Anonymous
BTDT as we used to say in the 90’s. OP here and we consulted with a lactation consultant twice. Nothing worked. |
Anonymous
| Nope. Both of mine didn't take it but ate solids and used cups just fine. With my second we started solids at 4 months and mixed the breastmilk with his food. |
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My mom had this problem with me. Would not take a bottle, so she truly EBF, directly, for a full year, until I would drink from a cup. Besides the annoyance of never being away from me for a full year (which, um, she still complains about sometimes, ha) there were no other problems. You might even be able to get her to drink from a cup before a year and save yourself that way.
Just keep in mind what your work situation is - my mom was a middle school teacher, at a school five minutes from our house, and she had to arrange her schedule so she could teach for two periods, then come home for a period to feed me, then go back and teach again, and repeat, all day. Ugh. So if your bosses will expect you back in the office at some point, that's a potential problem. |
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Are you (planning on) working out of the house? I had one that wasn't into bottles and ended up reverse cycling (ate at night, not during the day) when I went back to work at 4 months. It sucked (ha!), but he basically nursed most of the night and stocked up for the day when I was away at the office. The weekends were still not great sleep-wise for me, but he nursed during the day then too. We ended up co-sleeping for everyone's sanity and it wasn't as awful as it sounded. He was a very healthy baby that had no problems with weight gain.
My point is, barring other medical concerns, you may not need to worry too much about it, especially if you aren't working out of the house these days. Just my .02, and most will probably disagree with me, but sharing it for another perspective. |
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My middle one hated bottles and would not take one. She moved to sippy / trainer cups at about 10 months and never looked back. Not having to break the bottle habit or pacifier habit (she hated those too) was a gift. She loved nursing and nursed until 16 months. She is totally bananas and wild, but I don't think that has anything to do with bottle feeding.
You have about 5--6 more months of drama around it. By the time she is doing more solids, DH and nanny can feed solids when baby is hungry and you can do all the liquids. If you are working from home, it is really no issue and unlikely you are going away from any girls weekends in the next three months that would require DH to feed baby without you coming back. |
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| You've probably tried this, in which case ignore my unsolicited advice, but my friend was dealing with this same issue and ended up using a nipple shield for a few feedings to "desensitize" her babe and that did the trick somewhat -- she still will only do a few ounces from the bottle at at time, but it's a start! |
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Same with ALL my kids. I did have to send them to daycare and they went hungry for a few days at daycare which broke my heart, but then they started taking bottles very reluctantly. At least they were good at breastfeeding or else my kids would have starved (when they felt a supply drop they worked extra hard to bring my supply up). I tried a bottle weekly from the beginning too and it never worked.
At 5 months you're very close to just moving to a sippy cup like munchkin 360 or so. |
Anonymous
| Those of you with bottle haters- did your kids also hate pacifiers? My kids screamed when I tried to pop a pacifier in. I always figured it must be related. |
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Nursed for about a year. ZERO problems with solid, zero problems with cup, zero problems with spool.
Kid treats a breast as their basic meal and the other stuff is IN ADDITION so as long as they have their BM supply they are happy. At 6 mo kid is big enough to be hungry beyond the milk so they are very happy to supplement with solids but they usually don't want to quit the BM. You don't need to use spoon at first, they can use fingers, for spoon she will imitate you anyway as they want to do what you are doing, also, if you play some baby movies with babies/toddlers eating with spoons they will catch up. Sippy also not a problem. Different liquid. |
Anonymous
Not a bottle hater but never really resorted to one. Never ever had a pacifier at home because that I actually not only did not believe but semi-hated  .
This resulted in a peci free kids who never needed one nor wanted one nor had a concept of what is it. I saw struggles of peci weaning and it seem like unnecessary thing to hook a kid on only to have then to struggle. Also some issues with people telling about how it could and did affect the gums, the shape of the mouth temple etc. Never wanted to deal with it. Here is a pretty good crowd on experts on everything nursing/bottle feeding/formula feeding/pecis etc.: https://www.mothering.com/forums/ |
Anonymous
Consider what the peci is made of, and how very little regulation and enforcement and quality control etc is there and how many times you hear about all kinds of baby related product recalls. The problem is that any peci can have any amount of horrible substances in it and when you think about how a baby sucks on it all day long in some cases, you can wonder what gets into your baby's body via the peci. I don't believe in safe plastic or gum or what have you they put in or around it. I don't think kids should suck on things like that so unless it is food or breast, it does not go into a baby mouth. There is a possibility of later allergies based on what a baby sucks out of the peci, there can be some latex etc. and you truly never know and trusting labels on baby products is something I am like most long done with. (that many recalls of supposedly totally safe products later) |
Anonymous
My baby isn't really into pacifiers (she chews the handle part) but she's fine with a bottle (after some struggles of course). They're not related. |