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Anonymous wrote:I think in general, a solid parenting approach would be praising hard work, and acknowledging the existence of different types of intelligence without valuing one over the other.
Definitely this.
I got tired of my kids always begging for stuff so we set a schedule for 3 nights a week. They know which nights are "dessert nights" and they don't bother me on other nights anymore.
We will randomly have stuff on other occasions, holidays etc of course.
We will randomly have stuff on other occasions, holidays etc of course.
Anonymous wrote:jsmith123 wrote:That kind of behavior is often driven by anxiety.
Enough with the diagnosing.
The OP asked what explains this kind of behavior. I am taking my best guess, as requested.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes of course. How is this even a question?
For real
Totally agree. There is a probability we will die (or get severly sick or injured) in many things we do every day). I put the probability that a vaccinated person will 1) contract covid, 2) develop enough symptoms to transmit it, 3) infect one of my family members during our interaction and 4) one of us will get so sick its a real problem as incredibly low. My kids get in the car, eat undercooked meats and cookie dough, play soccer with the risk of head injury, and will see vaccinated relatives.
Why are you feeding your children undercooked meat?
That kind of behavior is often driven by anxiety.
We've had 3 colds, but DS goes to preschool so not that surprising.
With my first, I always nursed him when he woke up just because it ended up working out that way. I nursed him to sleep only at night.
With my second, I generally nursed him to sleep, again mostly because it just seemed to work out that way.
Neither had sleep issues. I think that's just luck of the draw.
With my second, I generally nursed him to sleep, again mostly because it just seemed to work out that way.
Neither had sleep issues. I think that's just luck of the draw.
Anonymous wrote:jsmith123 wrote:Every time you teach something to a child, you deprive them of ability to figure it out for themselves.
The point isn't the knowledge itself. The point is the discovery of the knowledge.
So why ever send a child to school?
I should have clarified that I don't believe that statement fits 100%. I just feel like parents are in such a rush for their children to hit these milestones, that they push them too hard.
For young children, the joy is truly in the discovery.
Also, I think a good school fosters how to learn and how to think.
Every time you teach something to a child, you deprive them of ability to figure it out for themselves.
The point isn't the knowledge itself. The point is the discovery of the knowledge.
The point isn't the knowledge itself. The point is the discovery of the knowledge.
Good work OP!
OP will your 1 year old tolerate being in a toddler carrier? Or hanging out on one of those "learning towers"?
What about a 30 min TV show at 5 so you can do dinner prep?
What about a 30 min TV show at 5 so you can do dinner prep?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Following up as no sooner than I posted this she started *really* crawling and standing up on her own, being able to move all over the place, and wa-la tantrums over. And yes, according to my pediatrician they *are* tantrums, and they can start at 6 months. I obviously know what a hunger or hurt cry sounds like.
Thanks for those who suggested actual tips. For the others, yes I’d love parenting counseling but would say some of you need it more based on some of the “advice” you’re dishing out, yeesh. I’ll never be a parent who just gives in to every whim. This based on the behaviors and attitudes of many kids I’ve been around in the DC area.
For those who may stumble upon this thread, apparently what she needed was to get angry and frustrated on her own so she could figure it out. Had I listened to some of these posts, we’d be going through this til she’s 2.
Wa-la...
LOL
Anonymous wrote:DH is the main parent and kind of died out in January. I gave him a container of Clorox Wipes and a bag of fruit and other snacks and a couple of liters of water, and sent him off to a hotel near a body of water for a 3-day weekend.
He came back a new man. Said he worked Friday, went walking along the water and watched the sunset, then got takeout and slept late. He said he meditated, napped, watched tv, and watched three sunsets and two sunrises.
It's my turn in March.
This is smart. I think people discount how much even 24 hours can be restorative. It just feel so never-ending.
We're planning on soccer in the spring.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My boss pretends is one of these altruistic holy-roller types but I see her for the manipulative b&%$# she really is. People who truly care about the right thing don't require an audience and accolades.
I always liked and agreed with the saying: True altruism is anonymous. Or at least not wanting attention, recognition or certainly not accolades.
But hard to help out a real-time family crisis anonymously. Need some examples Op.
I think even if you do something anonymously, there is a still a little boost of feeling like I did something good for someone else.
Does that make the act self-serving?