Woman of color who prefers white men

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Anonymous wrote:Op is doing alot of sock puppeting lol

Op here - which posts are sock puppets, hm? The posts that are mine are clear. I am not the guy highlighting white women's weight, the 40-something year old black woman who can't find love, the person (man?) who made repeat posts about black men including the "thug is a thug" post, the women who have chimed in about white women etc. The hilarious part is that the writing style differs so much among these posts that you really are unobservant and rather stupid not to be able to discern that these are all different people. The fact that they agree with me or elaborate on points I have made does not make them all me, duh.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I am a black woman that is married to a white man, and all I can say is that your post is offensive, and you need to expand your world view and/or life experience, as they both come across as embarrassingly shallow.

Sometimes the truth can be offensive but nonetheless it's the truth. You didn't marry a black man either yet you criticize OP for not wanting to do so. She's honest, you're disingenuous.

Nope, sometimes it's the perceived truth (stereotypes) that are offensive. And I didn't marry a white man because of my preference for white men, I married him because of my preference for him. He is also tall, yet that does not mean that I have a preference for tall men. To me, the physical attributes of men are just surface level things. I get that people have cultural differences and cultural preferences, but the thing is, black men across the country and across the world have VARYING cultures, not simply the stereotypical issues that she presented here. That's why I said to expand her world view/experience. There is not ONE "black culture".

Don't be obtuse. It is very obvious that the posts in question are referring to American black men. Did you really think the OP was about Masai men in Kenya?

How many generations does it take before an immigrant family is considered American?

Start your own thread, my dear.

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Anonymous wrote:Believe me, I've seen with my own 2 eyes that some (not all) white women will get blood boiling angry if a white man is interested in a woman of any color except them.

As far as I'm concerned, date whoever you want to date. It's no one's business who you choose to be in a relationship with no matter what color.

Yes, it happens. I've received a glare and racist comment from a white woman when I (Asian) was with my DH (white). I've also heard negative comments from some Asian men about Asian women dating white men. It probably happens in every race.

White women are very jealous of Asians because Asians tend to be less prone to eat themselves to gargantuan dimensions.

Hmm. Interesting. No one on this thread has said anything rude about Asian women. Yet you seem very bitter and mean toward white women. Who's jealous again?

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This is the same kind of reality denial as up thread concerning black male dating behavior. American white women on AVERAGE are grossly obese. Many aa women are even worse. In contrast, Asian women on the whole tend to be much more HEALTHY, PETITE,and slender. Obese women tend to blame others for their obesity and are jealous of more healthy and attractive women. There is a thread right now about a woman jealous of her own daughter.

Okay, you just lost all credibility. It is obviously demonstrably false to say that white women on average are grossly obese. You clearly are not familiar with the data.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder how white women feel about white men going for nonwhite women. I have definitely been hurt by losing a few white female friends who just couldn't believe that white men they found attractive wanted and preferred dark "exotic" me. No one told them that Disney movies aren't real, lol.

It sounds like you want to believe white women are upset about this. We aren't. Go for it! I'm not seething about what race a white man dates. If he's not dating me, I don't care and hope everybody's happy.

I'm glad that's your experience, but for a lot of white women this is actually a thing. It's not good and definitely not universal, but it happens, so the PP's experience is totally believable. I've encountered it from white female friends who thought I would be their sympathetic ear about asian-american women taking "our" men.

I've never met a single white woman who would ever say anything like that. Maybe the difference is education level?

Maybe the difference is BMI.

That could be. Those two things are correlated. Generally speaking, educated people have less obesity then less educated people. There's obviously also a correlation with poverty. I'm a white woman, and most of my friends are white women. I've never met anyone who is jealous of Asian women or black women for that matter. But my friends are well-educated, generally in good shape, which is normal for people have been to college or postcollege.

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OP, it's people like you and posts like yours that make it harder for people in interracial relationships to just "be" without others thinking that there is something sinister in their motives for dating a person outside of their race. Thanks for giving more fodder to the hate mongers.

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Anonymous wrote:I am glad this has been your experience, but it has definitely not been mine. Both stats and my real life experiences and the experiences of my friends who have dated black men confirm that there is a real crisis of misogyny, promiscuity and all around classless behavior among black men. I am not going to disregard my real life experience in order to please you. As I said before, the behaviors of black men that I describe are cultural and I can decide not to raise my son to behave in such ways.

When you cite unnamed "stats" you're basically arguing that you're racist because it's okay because racism is somehow justified. Fuck off, you've got nothing in the way of evidence and nobody is buying your horseshit.

Angry black man proves OP's point but is too stupid to realize it.^

Yea, haha, I thought the same thing about that poster. Way to prove the point in the OP by posting such a classless, hateful response. Watch him return and pretend he is not a black man.

There are black men hanging out on DCUM?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it's people like you and posts like yours that make it harder for people in interracial relationships to just "be" without others thinking that there is something sinister in their motives for dating a person outside of their race. Thanks for giving more fodder to the hate mongers.

Personally I think you're giving the OP waaaaaay too much credit.

She didn't split the atom.
She didn't cure cancer.
She didn't post a 1,000 page doctoral thesis about interracial couples vs intraracial couples.
All she did was offer her personal opinions based on her personal experiences which led to her personal inclinations with regard to her personal life.
In other words, she ain't but one anonymous broad running her yap in an online forum, who cares? It isn't like she's Michelle Obama!!
Who gives a damn about the OP's personal life and whatever baggage and biases she brings into the equation of her everyday existence, that's her life.
Whatever issues and attitudes and prejudices and predilections she wants to coddle and cling to belong to her and her alone.
There's no need to rebuke the rationalizations of one anonymous broad running her yap - she ain't nobody.
Let her reject the opinions and observations of others, I'm sure she won't be shocked to find out that no one gives a shit about her opinions and observations either.

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Anonymous wrote:I am glad this has been your experience, but it has definitely not been mine. Both stats and my real life experiences and the experiences of my friends who have dated black men confirm that there is a real crisis of misogyny, promiscuity and all around classless behavior among black men. I am not going to disregard my real life experience in order to please you. As I said before, the behaviors of black men that I describe are cultural and I can decide not to raise my son to behave in such ways.

When you cite unnamed "stats" you're basically arguing that you're racist because it's okay because racism is somehow justified. Fuck off, you've got nothing in the way of evidence and nobody is buying your horseshit.

Angry black man proves OP's point but is too stupid to realize it.^

Yea, haha, I thought the same thing about that poster. Way to prove the point in the OP by posting such a classless, hateful response. Watch him return and pretend he is not a black man.

There are black men hanging out on DCUM?

Yep. Not the PP but we are here.

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I am a Pakistani woman with an all American southern white man. He cannot believe he used to date whit girls before. He says they are awful and do not know how to be women. And they suck in bed.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a Pakistani woman with an all American southern white man. He cannot believe he used to date whit girls before. He says they are awful and do not know how to be women. And they suck in bed.

I don't see that as a problem.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a Pakistani woman with an all American southern white man. He cannot believe he used to date whit girls before. He says they are awful and do not know how to be women. And they suck in bed.

I don't see that as a problem.

Isn't that part of a relationship? Its just like any other part of a relationship. If can be big an issue.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a Pakistani woman with an all American southern white man. He cannot believe he used to date whit girls before. He says they are awful and do not know how to be women. And they suck in bed.

I don't see that as a problem.

LOL

I don't either.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a Pakistani woman with an all American southern white man. He cannot believe he used to date whit girls before. He says they are awful and do not know how to be women. And they suck in bed.

I don't see that as a problem.

Isn't that part of a relationship? Its just like any other part of a relationship. If can be big an issue.

Clearly you missed the joke.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it is about race. Black American males have a disproportionately dysfunctional upbringing and that manifests itself in various ways. Attributing the bad behavior to racism doesn't erase the bad behavior. A thug is a thug even if the reason they became a thug was a poor uobringing due to the history of racism. At some point black men will have to take responsibility for own behavior despite the history of racism. Pretending black male behavior is fine and calling OP a racist for pointing out her personal experiences with black men won't change the bad behavior which they need to do if they are sincere about actually wanting women like OP to date black men ratber than.just insukt her.

I agree 110%! Your post really captures what has been bothering me about the constant denial of black men's antisocial behavior: Even if it is due to the legacy of slavery or segregation or daddy never loving them, what does that have to do with the women who have to deal with black men? Should we sacrifice ourselves on the altar of PC by choosing men who will never make good husbands and fathers? That is what a lot of black women do, with disastrous consequences for them and their children. There is a real misogyny in thinking that is okay.

NP here. It does make it very difficult as an educated black woman in her 40s to find eligible black men. There's a lot of damaged souls out there. And like you said, even if I completely understand the circumstance they were born into, it just doesn't hold up as an excuse for what can be some pretty awful behavior.

With children off the table, I was prepared to date white men. It just hasn't happened for me...yet. Loving black men is a lot of work. You can invest the time and do the work, but he will always know there's a line of black women willing to (most happily) deal with his shit. It makes it very difficult.

I have no idea where my heart will lead me. I just wanted to acknowledge the truth of your words.

Why were you only willing to consider white men once children were off the table? Sounds like you have some issues yourself.

A lot of black American children are stuck on black children by black men until their childbearing years are done.

Like I said...issues. If a black woman only wants to date and marry black men, fine. But that shouldn't change once the childbearing years are over. You expect a man to love you, yet you wouldn't want him to be the father of your children? Talk about hypocrisy.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a Pakistani woman with an all American southern white man. He cannot believe he used to date whit girls before. He says they are awful and do not know how to be women. And they suck in bed.

I don't see that as a problem.

LOL. Most many would love their women to suck in bed