Woman of color who prefers white men

[Anonymous]

what a coincidence -- OP's pathetic racism has attracted sad racists of all types. Failure is a beacon to failure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what a coincidence -- OP's pathetic racism has attracted sad racists of all types. Failure is a beacon to failure.

I don't follow your thought pattern. I think it is OP who is posting about white women jealous of Asian women; obese white women: Black worthless men: sad, unsatisfied, waiting Black women; and ugly petite Asian women. OP is the only queen in the crowd and she is letting all of know so that we can say "you go girl".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I am a black woman that is married to a white man, and all I can say is that your post is offensive, and you need to expand your world view and/or life experience, as they both come across as embarrassingly shallow.

Sometimes the truth can be offensive but nonetheless it's the truth. You didn't marry a black man either yet you criticize OP for not wanting to do so. She's honest, you're disingenuous.

Nope, sometimes it's the perceived truth (stereotypes) that are offensive. And I didn't marry a white man because of my preference for white men, I married him because of my preference for him. He is also tall, yet that does not mean that I have a preference for tall men. To me, the physical attributes of men are just surface level things. I get that people have cultural differences and cultural preferences, but the thing is, black men across the country and across the world have VARYING cultures, not simply the stereotypical issues that she presented here. That's why I said to expand her world view/experience. There is not ONE "black culture".

[Anonymous]

So much butthurt over nothing, people. Some gentlemen prefer blondes. Some ladies prefer blonds. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Believe me, I've seen with my own 2 eyes that some (not all) white women will get blood boiling angry if a white man is interested in a woman of any color except them.

As far as I'm concerned, date whoever you want to date. It's no one's business who you choose to be in a relationship with no matter what color.

Yes, it happens. I've received a glare and racist comment from a white woman when I (Asian) was with my DH (white). I've also heard negative comments from some Asian men about Asian women dating white men. It probably happens in every race.

Ding, ding ding. WInner.

And I'd venture to say or hope that these attitudes are the minority in each race (maybe the squeaky wheel but the vast majority of people don't give 2 craps how others live).

I was privy to a bunch of male, SE Asian coworkers who felt comfy enough to let me know how they were so annoyed when the women they knew went after white men, particularly the temp, white expat men. But you know what, there were loads of men I worked with that never once breathed anything like that outloud to me, and I'd like to think its because they really didn't care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it is about race. Black American males have a disproportionately dysfunctional upbringing and that manifests itself in various ways. Attributing the bad behavior to racism doesn't erase the bad behavior. A thug is a thug even if the reason they became a thug was a poor uobringing due to the history of racism. At some point black men will have to take responsibility for own behavior despite the history of racism. Pretending black male behavior is fine and calling OP a racist for pointing out her personal experiences with black men won't change the bad behavior which they need to do if they are sincere about actually wanting women like OP to date black men ratber than.just insukt her.

I agree 110%! Your post really captures what has been bothering me about the constant denial of black men's antisocial behavior: Even if it is due to the legacy of slavery or segregation or daddy never loving them, what does that have to do with the women who have to deal with black men? Should we sacrifice ourselves on the altar of PC by choosing men who will never make good husbands and fathers? That is what a lot of black women do, with disastrous consequences for them and their children. There is a real misogyny in thinking that is okay.

NP here. It does make it very difficult as an educated black woman in her 40s to find eligible black men. There's a lot of damaged souls out there. And like you said, even if I completely understand the circumstance they were born into, it just doesn't hold up as an excuse for what can be some pretty awful behavior.

With children off the table, I was prepared to date white men. It just hasn't happened for me...yet. Loving black men is a lot of work. You can invest the time and do the work, but he will always know there's a line of black women willing to (most happily) deal with his shit. It makes it very difficult.

I have no idea where my heart will lead me. I just wanted to acknowledge the truth of your words.

Why were you only willing to consider white men once children were off the table? Sounds like you have some issues yourself.

[Anonymous]

Don't ever change America.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what a coincidence -- OP's pathetic racism has attracted sad racists of all types. Failure is a beacon to failure.

I don't follow your thought pattern. I think it is OP who is posting about white women jealous of Asian women; obese white women: Black worthless men: sad, unsatisfied, waiting Black women; and ugly petite Asian women. OP is the only queen in the crowd and she is letting all of know so that we can say "you go girl".

Op here - you really think I am the one making all the posts in this thread that you disagree with? Not the sharpest tool in the shed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am a black woman that is married to a white man, and all I can say is that your post is offensive, and you need to expand your world view and/or life experience, as they both come across as embarrassingly shallow.

Sometimes the truth can be offensive but nonetheless it's the truth. You didn't marry a black man either yet you criticize OP for not wanting to do so. She's honest, you're disingenuous.

Nope, sometimes it's the perceived truth (stereotypes) that are offensive. And I didn't marry a white man because of my preference for white men, I married him because of my preference for him. He is also tall, yet that does not mean that I have a preference for tall men. To me, the physical attributes of men are just surface level things. I get that people have cultural differences and cultural preferences, but the thing is, black men across the country and across the world have VARYING cultures, not simply the stereotypical issues that she presented here. That's why I said to expand her world view/experience. There is not ONE "black culture".

Don't be obtuse. It is very obvious that the posts in question are referring to American black men. Did you really think the OP was about Masai men in Kenya?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is about race. Black American males have a disproportionately dysfunctional upbringing and that manifests itself in various ways. Attributing the bad behavior to racism doesn't erase the bad behavior. A thug is a thug even if the reason they became a thug was a poor uobringing due to the history of racism. At some point black men will have to take responsibility for own behavior despite the history of racism. Pretending black male behavior is fine and calling OP a racist for pointing out her personal experiences with black men won't change the bad behavior which they need to do if they are sincere about actually wanting women like OP to date black men ratber than.just insukt her.

I agree 110%! Your post really captures what has been bothering me about the constant denial of black men's antisocial behavior: Even if it is due to the legacy of slavery or segregation or daddy never loving them, what does that have to do with the women who have to deal with black men? Should we sacrifice ourselves on the altar of PC by choosing men who will never make good husbands and fathers? That is what a lot of black women do, with disastrous consequences for them and their children. There is a real misogyny in thinking that is okay.

NP here. It does make it very difficult as an educated black woman in her 40s to find eligible black men. There's a lot of damaged souls out there. And like you said, even if I completely understand the circumstance they were born into, it just doesn't hold up as an excuse for what can be some pretty awful behavior.

With children off the table, I was prepared to date white men. It just hasn't happened for me...yet. Loving black men is a lot of work. You can invest the time and do the work, but he will always know there's a line of black women willing to (most happily) deal with his shit. It makes it very difficult.

I have no idea where my heart will lead me. I just wanted to acknowledge the truth of your words.

Why were you only willing to consider white men once children were off the table? Sounds like you have some issues yourself.

A lot of black American children are stuck on black children by black men until their childbearing years are done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is about race. Black American males have a disproportionately dysfunctional upbringing and that manifests itself in various ways. Attributing the bad behavior to racism doesn't erase the bad behavior. A thug is a thug even if the reason they became a thug was a poor uobringing due to the history of racism. At some point black men will have to take responsibility for own behavior despite the history of racism. Pretending black male behavior is fine and calling OP a racist for pointing out her personal experiences with black men won't change the bad behavior which they need to do if they are sincere about actually wanting women like OP to date black men ratber than.just insukt her.

I agree 110%! Your post really captures what has been bothering me about the constant denial of black men's antisocial behavior: Even if it is due to the legacy of slavery or segregation or daddy never loving them, what does that have to do with the women who have to deal with black men? Should we sacrifice ourselves on the altar of PC by choosing men who will never make good husbands and fathers? That is what a lot of black women do, with disastrous consequences for them and their children. There is a real misogyny in thinking that is okay.

NP here. It does make it very difficult as an educated black woman in her 40s to find eligible black men. There's a lot of damaged souls out there. And like you said, even if I completely understand the circumstance they were born into, it just doesn't hold up as an excuse for what can be some pretty awful behavior.

With children off the table, I was prepared to date white men. It just hasn't happened for me...yet. Loving black men is a lot of work. You can invest the time and do the work, but he will always know there's a line of black women willing to (most happily) deal with his shit. It makes it very difficult.

I have no idea where my heart will lead me. I just wanted to acknowledge the truth of your words.

Why were you only willing to consider white men once children were off the table? Sounds like you have some issues yourself.

A lot of black American children are stuck on black children by black men until their childbearing years are done.

Whoops, meant black American women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am a black woman that is married to a white man, and all I can say is that your post is offensive, and you need to expand your world view and/or life experience, as they both come across as embarrassingly shallow.

Sometimes the truth can be offensive but nonetheless it's the truth. You didn't marry a black man either yet you criticize OP for not wanting to do so. She's honest, you're disingenuous.

Nope, sometimes it's the perceived truth (stereotypes) that are offensive. And I didn't marry a white man because of my preference for white men, I married him because of my preference for him. He is also tall, yet that does not mean that I have a preference for tall men. To me, the physical attributes of men are just surface level things. I get that people have cultural differences and cultural preferences, but the thing is, black men across the country and across the world have VARYING cultures, not simply the stereotypical issues that she presented here. That's why I said to expand her world view/experience. There is not ONE "black culture".

Don't be obtuse. It is very obvious that the posts in question are referring to American black men. Did you really think the OP was about Masai men in Kenya?

Yes, and all AA men are not the same. Not to mention that you don't have to go to Africa to find a black man that is not AA...plenty of them right here in DC.

[Anonymous]

Op is doing alot of sock puppeting lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what a coincidence -- OP's pathetic racism has attracted sad racists of all types. Failure is a beacon to failure.

I don't follow your thought pattern. I think it is OP who is posting about white women jealous of Asian women; obese white women: Black worthless men: sad, unsatisfied, waiting Black women; and ugly petite Asian women. OP is the only queen in the crowd and she is letting all of know so that we can say "you go girl".

Op here - you really think I am the one making all the posts in this thread that you disagree with? Not the sharpest tool in the shed.

I am not obtuse, but I was overly optimistic that you were the only racist tool in this thread. Oh well, I guess PP was correct. Your pathetic racism has attracted racists of all types, including the ones who have stereotypical negative feelings toward Black women such as yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am a black woman that is married to a white man, and all I can say is that your post is offensive, and you need to expand your world view and/or life experience, as they both come across as embarrassingly shallow.

Sometimes the truth can be offensive but nonetheless it's the truth. You didn't marry a black man either yet you criticize OP for not wanting to do so. She's honest, you're disingenuous.

Nope, sometimes it's the perceived truth (stereotypes) that are offensive. And I didn't marry a white man because of my preference for white men, I married him because of my preference for him. He is also tall, yet that does not mean that I have a preference for tall men. To me, the physical attributes of men are just surface level things. I get that people have cultural differences and cultural preferences, but the thing is, black men across the country and across the world have VARYING cultures, not simply the stereotypical issues that she presented here. That's why I said to expand her world view/experience. There is not ONE "black culture".

Don't be obtuse. It is very obvious that the posts in question are referring to American black men. Did you really think the OP was about Masai men in Kenya?

How many generations does it take before an immigrant family is considered American?