Woman of color who prefers white men
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Anonymous
Angry black man proves OP's point but is too stupid to realize it.^ |
Anonymous
White women definitely care. They react very poorly to any indication that they are not the gold standard. I have had white waitresses "accidentally" spill water on me or refuse to look at me when taking my order. I have had white female coworkers ask very rude questions like "do you think he has a fetish?" To these women, a man of color dating a white woman is normal, but a white man dating a woman of color must have an unhealthy fetish. Okay then. |
Anonymous
White women are very jealous of Asians because Asians tend to be less prone to eat themselves to gargantuan dimensions. |
Anonymous
Yea, haha, I thought the same thing about that poster. Way to prove the point in the OP by posting such a classless, hateful response. Watch him return and pretend he is not a black man. |
Anonymous
Op here, yes, it is very weird when people point out that my children will have black blood, as if that is a bad thing. I didn't say I object to American black men's African genes. I object to the way they are raised and choose to conduct themselves. I have no idea how my future son's black blood is relevant. |
Anonymous
| Father issues OP? |
Anonymous
No, where do you get that? If anything, it's OP who thinks "it's a curse." |
Anonymous
| The dating market can be very harsh. If you don't measure up the choices will be few. That applies to black men, ugly men, poor men, short men, bald men, old men. White men and asian men too. The reality check is that people are permitted to discriminate in their private lives even if some stranger on the internet can't deal with it. There's nothing wrong with dating based on preferences. It's not "racist" to not want to date black men because of repeated bad experiences when doing so, it's common sense. The fact that you would call common sense "racist" is probably connected to your high level of entitlement and anger. Even more strange is that you think you have the right to dictate who other people should date. You probably also think a woman who dates a black man doesn't have the right to NOT have sex with him because well that would be racist wouldn't it. How many women have you dated and called a racist when they woukdn't have sex with you due to your thuggush, controlling, unreasonable behavior? |
Anonymous
Incredibly ironic. It was you that created drama with your sad diatribe about Black men and the women who want them. While I can't figure out what you wanted from your post, maybe had you focused on you and the negative treatment you have received from others judging the relationship decisions of you and your mate you would have received more comiseration. But instead you wrote about how unworthy Black men are to you. You are the one stiring drama. |
Anonymous
Right. OP wrote black men are unworthy to her based on what she experienced. The only drama is you are emotionally unprepared to accept that black male misbehavior is widespread and you are in denial because you are infantile. To face up to the problem would mean the black community would actually have to own it and fix it rather than blame racism for their problems. That would be too.much hard work for you and we already know about your distaste for that. |
Anonymous
It is not about race at all but this reminded me how where I am from (Europe), women are mad that all these young eastern european 'ladies' come and steal their husbands by being more eager to, hem, please "the man", especially if he has cash. That is the stereotype there. White against white. |
Anonymous
| I think it is about race. Black American males have a disproportionately dysfunctional upbringing and that manifests itself in various ways. Attributing the bad behavior to racism doesn't erase the bad behavior. A thug is a thug even if the reason they became a thug was a poor uobringing due to the history of racism. At some point black men will have to take responsibility for own behavior despite the history of racism. Pretending black male behavior is fine and calling OP a racist for pointing out her personal experiences with black men won't change the bad behavior which they need to do if they are sincere about actually wanting women like OP to date black men ratber than.just insukt her. |
Anonymous
| OP, I am a black woman that is married to a white man, and all I can say is that your post is offensive, and you need to expand your world view and/or life experience, as they both come across as embarrassingly shallow. |
Anonymous
I posted asking why you're focus is on what Black men are lacking for you. I'm an AA woman myself who dates Black and White (and other) men. If someone posted a thread about preferring Black women because White women are slutty and classless and high maintenance, it would come across more as someone with sour grapes about White women than a praise of Black women. You're engaged...yet you're talking about what men who are *not* you're husband are missing. Well, if you're marrying your guy because you're happily in love, who cares??? A PP made a valid point about your future children. I would hope that you have only daughters but then you might teach them to also think like you. There are Black men who speak just as poorly as you do of Black women and you all come across as wounded people pretending to be unbothered. I'm sure you've met some real assholes who are also Black men. Was every man in your family a piece of filth as well? What about Dr. King? (I'd mention Obama, but you'd probably credit his White side.) Like it or not, your son will be viewed as a Black man and he will have to deal with other people's (often negative) perceptions of what his capabilities are. It would be nice if he doesn't have a Black mother who isn't also inherently biased as well. |
Anonymous
Sometimes the truth can be offensive but nonetheless it's the truth. You didn't marry a black man either yet you criticize OP for not wanting to do so. She's honest, you're disingenuous. |