Woman of color who prefers white men

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't think white women are typically upset by white men dating outside of their race. The ones that do get upset are mostly like racist in general.

Of all races, I think whites are the most accepting of interracial dating (in modern times, not 30+ years ago) despite the widespread perception that whites are the most racist people of all.

You must be stupid. Please report to the thread on biracial/bicultural marriages to read of white tolerance.

This is women we are talking about, the claws come out and often. If the white man that the minority woman is dating is successful and good looking, it is unavoidable to experience the attitude and looks and quite often rude remarks about the minority woman by his side. That said, I've experienced the same with black women when dating a handsome black man.

Women tear each other down all the time and that is a sad fact.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't think white women are typically upset by white men dating outside of their race. The ones that do get upset are mostly like racist in general.

Of all races, I think whites are the most accepting of interracial dating (in modern times, not 30+ years ago) despite the widespread perception that whites are the most racist people of all.

I'm curious...are you white? Can't say that I agree with that statement.

PP here. Yes.

As a b/w biracial woman who has witnessed my parents' marriage as well as dated men of all backgrounds, I agree with the PP. For example, when black men see me with a white man, I get waaaaay more uncomfortable looks from black men (and some women) than from white people...white people for the most part (at least pretend) not to care. However, growing up it was the white side of my family that was outwardly uncomfortable and vocally disapproving of my parents' marriage. I think their reservations (now 30+ years later) would be a lot less today, because a lot of their concerns (where will you live, what kind of job will you be able to get, people will shun you for having a black spouse, etc) aren't as valid since times have (and still are) changing...and any racist thoughts they might have would be kept to themselves because they know it's not socially acceptable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't think white women are typically upset by white men dating outside of their race. The ones that do get upset are mostly like racist in general.

Of all races, I think whites are the most accepting of interracial dating (in modern times, not 30+ years ago) despite the widespread perception that whites are the most racist people of all.

I'm curious...are you white? Can't say that I agree with that statement.

PP here. Yes.

As a b/w biracial woman who has witnessed my parents' marriage as well as dated men of all backgrounds, I agree with the PP. For example, when black men see me with a white man, I get waaaaay more uncomfortable looks from black men (and some women) than from white people...white people for the most part (at least pretend) not to care. However, growing up it was the white side of my family that was outwardly uncomfortable and vocally disapproving of my parents' marriage. I think their reservations (now 30+ years later) would be a lot less today, because a lot of their concerns (where will you live, what kind of job will you be able to get, people will shun you for having a black spouse, etc) aren't as valid since times have (and still are) changing...and any racist thoughts they might have would be kept to themselves because they know it's not socially acceptable.

I am a black woman married to a white man and I can attest to the fact that white people's attitudes have NOT changed. White people have proven to be the most disapproving, racist stumbling blocks. Once white people realize a white person is actually going to marry a person of color, as opposed to just having a fling, all bets are off. Polls confirm that white people are still by far the least approving of interracial marriage.

[Anonymous]

I think whites are very accepting of biracial marriage- some posters just need to imagine a world of bigotry so they can feel superior

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think whites are very accepting of biracial marriage- some posters just need to imagine a world of bigotry so they can feel superior

Feel free to go drown in the nearest gutter. How's that?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't think white women are typically upset by white men dating outside of their race. The ones that do get upset are mostly like racist in general.

Of all races, I think whites are the most accepting of interracial dating (in modern times, not 30+ years ago) despite the widespread perception that whites are the most racist people of all.

I'm curious...are you white? Can't say that I agree with that statement.

PP here. Yes.

As a b/w biracial woman who has witnessed my parents' marriage as well as dated men of all backgrounds, I agree with the PP. For example, when black men see me with a white man, I get waaaaay more uncomfortable looks from black men (and some women) than from white people...white people for the most part (at least pretend) not to care. However, growing up it was the white side of my family that was outwardly uncomfortable and vocally disapproving of my parents' marriage. I think their reservations (now 30+ years later) would be a lot less today, because a lot of their concerns (where will you live, what kind of job will you be able to get, people will shun you for having a black spouse, etc) aren't as valid since times have (and still are) changing...and any racist thoughts they might have would be kept to themselves because they know it's not socially acceptable.

I am a black woman married to a white man and I can attest to the fact that white people's attitudes have NOT changed. White people have proven to be the most disapproving, racist stumbling blocks. Once white people realize a white person is actually going to marry a person of color, as opposed to just having a fling, all bets are off. Polls confirm that white people are still by far the least approving of interracial marriage.

I'm also a black woman married to a white man and my experience leans more toward the biracial PP. I think that both sides have really come a long way toward accepting interracial marriage, and that whites usually APPEAR to be the most accepting of it (I cannot speak to what is actually in their hearts, only their actions directly toward me). I think that most whites (unless they are really uneducated), if they have any issue with it, do not express their racism directly toward me or my husband because they know they would be looked down on for being "racist"...which no one wants to be called. They know it is taboo in most circles to say anything disparaging about a minority group. Whereas, it is more comfortable for blacks to say disparaging things about whites (even in mixed company) because blacks are still so marginalized in society, and will often even have other white people nodding their heads in agreement. So it's easier for blacks to feel comfortable saying things like, "I only date black people" and not having people calling them racist, vs. if a white person said that, people would be giving them the side-eye or worse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't think white women are typically upset by white men dating outside of their race. The ones that do get upset are mostly like racist in general.

Of all races, I think whites are the most accepting of interracial dating (in modern times, not 30+ years ago) despite the widespread perception that whites are the most racist people of all.

I'm curious...are you white? Can't say that I agree with that statement.

PP here. Yes.

As a b/w biracial woman who has witnessed my parents' marriage as well as dated men of all backgrounds, I agree with the PP. For example, when black men see me with a white man, I get waaaaay more uncomfortable looks from black men (and some women) than from white people...white people for the most part (at least pretend) not to care. However, growing up it was the white side of my family that was outwardly uncomfortable and vocally disapproving of my parents' marriage. I think their reservations (now 30+ years later) would be a lot less today, because a lot of their concerns (where will you live, what kind of job will you be able to get, people will shun you for having a black spouse, etc) aren't as valid since times have (and still are) changing...and any racist thoughts they might have would be kept to themselves because they know it's not socially acceptable.

I am a black woman married to a white man and I can attest to the fact that white people's attitudes have NOT changed. White people have proven to be the most disapproving, racist stumbling blocks. Once white people realize a white person is actually going to marry a person of color, as opposed to just having a fling, all bets are off. Polls confirm that white people are still by far the least approving of interracial marriage.

I'm the "I'm curious" poster and this is why I feel that way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't think white women are typically upset by white men dating outside of their race. The ones that do get upset are mostly like racist in general.

Of all races, I think whites are the most accepting of interracial dating (in modern times, not 30+ years ago) despite the widespread perception that whites are the most racist people of all.

I'm curious...are you white? Can't say that I agree with that statement.

PP here. Yes.

As a b/w biracial woman who has witnessed my parents' marriage as well as dated men of all backgrounds, I agree with the PP. For example, when black men see me with a white man, I get waaaaay more uncomfortable looks from black men (and some women) than from white people...white people for the most part (at least pretend) not to care. However, growing up it was the white side of my family that was outwardly uncomfortable and vocally disapproving of my parents' marriage. I think their reservations (now 30+ years later) would be a lot less today, because a lot of their concerns (where will you live, what kind of job will you be able to get, people will shun you for having a black spouse, etc) aren't as valid since times have (and still are) changing...and any racist thoughts they might have would be kept to themselves because they know it's not socially acceptable.

I am a black woman married to a white man and I can attest to the fact that white people's attitudes have NOT changed. White people have proven to be the most disapproving, racist stumbling blocks. Once white people realize a white person is actually going to marry a person of color, as opposed to just having a fling, all bets are off. Polls confirm that white people are still by far the least approving of interracial marriage.

What polls?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't think white women are typically upset by white men dating outside of their race. The ones that do get upset are mostly like racist in general.

Of all races, I think whites are the most accepting of interracial dating (in modern times, not 30+ years ago) despite the widespread perception that whites are the most racist people of all.

I'm curious...are you white? Can't say that I agree with that statement.

PP here. Yes.

As a b/w biracial woman who has witnessed my parents' marriage as well as dated men of all backgrounds, I agree with the PP. For example, when black men see me with a white man, I get waaaaay more uncomfortable looks from black men (and some women) than from white people...white people for the most part (at least pretend) not to care. However, growing up it was the white side of my family that was outwardly uncomfortable and vocally disapproving of my parents' marriage. I think their reservations (now 30+ years later) would be a lot less today, because a lot of their concerns (where will you live, what kind of job will you be able to get, people will shun you for having a black spouse, etc) aren't as valid since times have (and still are) changing...and any racist thoughts they might have would be kept to themselves because they know it's not socially acceptable.

I am a black woman married to a white man and I can attest to the fact that white people's attitudes have NOT changed. White people have proven to be the most disapproving, racist stumbling blocks. Once white people realize a white person is actually going to marry a person of color, as opposed to just having a fling, all bets are off. Polls confirm that white people are still by far the least approving of interracial marriage.

What polls?

Is google.com blocked on your computer?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't think white women are typically upset by white men dating outside of their race. The ones that do get upset are mostly like racist in general.

Of all races, I think whites are the most accepting of interracial dating (in modern times, not 30+ years ago) despite the widespread perception that whites are the most racist people of all.

I'm curious...are you white? Can't say that I agree with that statement.

PP here. Yes.

As a b/w biracial woman who has witnessed my parents' marriage as well as dated men of all backgrounds, I agree with the PP. For example, when black men see me with a white man, I get waaaaay more uncomfortable looks from black men (and some women) than from white people...white people for the most part (at least pretend) not to care. However, growing up it was the white side of my family that was outwardly uncomfortable and vocally disapproving of my parents' marriage. I think their reservations (now 30+ years later) would be a lot less today, because a lot of their concerns (where will you live, what kind of job will you be able to get, people will shun you for having a black spouse, etc) aren't as valid since times have (and still are) changing...and any racist thoughts they might have would be kept to themselves because they know it's not socially acceptable.

I am a black woman married to a white man and I can attest to the fact that white people's attitudes have NOT changed. White people have proven to be the most disapproving, racist stumbling blocks. Once white people realize a white person is actually going to marry a person of color, as opposed to just having a fling, all bets are off. Polls confirm that white people are still by far the least approving of interracial marriage.

What polls?

Is google.com blocked on your computer?

I'm the poster from 12:49, and I'm here to stop this back and forth once and for all...kindly turn your attention to this 2007 poll: http://www.gallup.com/poll/28417/most-americans-approve-interracial-marriages.aspx
It shows that among the 18-49 age group, that 86% of whites approve of interracial marriage and 89% of blacks approve. Not a big difference there, and considering that this was almost a decade ago, the numbers are probably even better today (they've been trending upward with both groups since the polling began over 50 years ago). So, let's stop with "who's more racist" when it comes to interracial marriage. We know that many old folks are lost causes (and the polls reflect that). But let's focus on the younger generations...the future. Things are looking up. Still a lot of work to do, but both sides are clearly majority approval.