First dates feel like job interviews

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter always suggests they go for a run. Then she dumps them if they run too slow. Not sure exactly what she is screening for - maybe someday having kids who run real fast??

This is actually pretty smart. I always dated overweight guys because they were “nice”, and there were always major problems - low energy, couldn’t get it up, health issues, lazy, etc.

I’m now divorced and in my 40s, and exclusively date men with 6 packs. It’s so much better. Their stamina in bed is incredible, they have energy to do things, they don’t expect me to just come over and hang out while they play video games, we have fun dates.

lol at least try to troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am just looking for help/advice on how to have better dates and connect with people.

You seem sincere but might get bad advice on a forum full of women because women do not have experience planning dates. Experiment with dating different types of women. Warning - women in their young thirties tend to be anxious and hyper-focused on marriage.

How are you meeting these women? Your dating profile probably needs more charisma and less career.

Dates should be in the evening, casual and flexible, and involve alcohol. They should end near your place. No sit-down dinners. Maybe drinks and appetizers. Sit next to her, e.g., at a bar, high-top table, or in a booth. If she sits across from you, then tell her to look at a photo on your phone and sit next to her.

Good dates: Ice skating, bowling, carnival games like Skee-Ball or Whack-a-Mole, dancing, street food festival, drinks, free Kennedy Center shows (most days at 6:00). Then bounce for (more) drinks. Learn to play games such as Marry-Shag-Kill. Do not submit to boring interview questions. If a woman asks formulaic questions, then you can tell her you are not there to audition. Or just say "boring!" Or ignore it. If a women turns your date into an interview or multilevel marketing pitch then she has violated the social contract. You are paying and should not tolerate this. Be prepared to eject on 10% of dates.

This attitude is empowering because it impels you to manage and save the date. So you will pick a flexible, casual spot. You will pick an engaging activity. If things get ominously boring, then you will say "let's play a game!". Then do something else.

Be fun. I told prospective dates that I needed to verify they were (cis-) women. Sometimes this was a pretext to get their phone numbers. Other times I just asked what they call a make-up kit with a mirror. The answer is "a compact", but most men don't know it. The point is that I managed the frame and demanded that women meet some minimal standards. They appreciated this instead of boring supplication.

Your dating profile is a blank canvas. It is your job to fill it. If you just copy/paste your LinkedIn data and show up to a restaurant in a suit or boring khakis, then you deserve a lame job interview. If you post creative pictures, wear tight jeans and boots, or go jet skiing, then you create a completely different experience. Seize this opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am just looking for help/advice on how to have better dates and connect with people.

You seem sincere but might get bad advice on a forum full of women because women do not have experience planning dates. Experiment with dating different types of women. Warning - women in their young thirties tend to be anxious and hyper-focused on marriage.

How are you meeting these women? Your dating profile probably needs more charisma and less career.

Dates should be in the evening, casual and flexible, and involve alcohol. They should end near your place. No sit-down dinners. Maybe drinks and appetizers. Sit next to her, e.g., at a bar, high-top table, or in a booth. If she sits across from you, then tell her to look at a photo on your phone and sit next to her.

Good dates: Ice skating, bowling, carnival games like Skee-Ball or Whack-a-Mole, dancing, street food festival, drinks, free Kennedy Center shows (most days at 6:00). Then bounce for (more) drinks. Learn to play games such as Marry-Shag-Kill. Do not submit to boring interview questions. If a woman asks formulaic questions, then you can tell her you are not there to audition. Or just say "boring!" Or ignore it. If a women turns your date into an interview or multilevel marketing pitch then she has violated the social contract. You are paying and should not tolerate this. Be prepared to eject on 10% of dates.

This attitude is empowering because it impels you to manage and save the date. So you will pick a flexible, casual spot. You will pick an engaging activity. If things get ominously boring, then you will say "let's play a game!". Then do something else.

Be fun. I told prospective dates that I needed to verify they were (cis-) women. Sometimes this was a pretext to get their phone numbers. Other times I just asked what they call a make-up kit with a mirror. The answer is "a compact", but most men don't know it. The point is that I managed the frame and demanded that women meet some minimal standards. They appreciated this instead of boring supplication.

Your dating profile is a blank canvas. It is your job to fill it. If you just copy/paste your LinkedIn data and show up to a restaurant in a suit or boring khakis, then you deserve a lame job interview. If you post creative pictures, wear tight jeans and boots, or go jet skiing, then you create a completely different experience. Seize this opportunity.

This is awful advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am just looking for help/advice on how to have better dates and connect with people.

You seem sincere but might get bad advice on a forum full of women because women do not have experience planning dates. Experiment with dating different types of women. Warning - women in their young thirties tend to be anxious and hyper-focused on marriage.

How are you meeting these women? Your dating profile probably needs more charisma and less career.

Dates should be in the evening, casual and flexible, and involve alcohol. They should end near your place. No sit-down dinners. Maybe drinks and appetizers. Sit next to her, e.g., at a bar, high-top table, or in a booth. If she sits across from you, then tell her to look at a photo on your phone and sit next to her.

Good dates: Ice skating, bowling, carnival games like Skee-Ball or Whack-a-Mole, dancing, street food festival, drinks, free Kennedy Center shows (most days at 6:00). Then bounce for (more) drinks. Learn to play games such as Marry-Shag-Kill. Do not submit to boring interview questions. If a woman asks formulaic questions, then you can tell her you are not there to audition. Or just say "boring!" Or ignore it. If a women turns your date into an interview or multilevel marketing pitch then she has violated the social contract. You are paying and should not tolerate this. Be prepared to eject on 10% of dates.

This attitude is empowering because it impels you to manage and save the date. So you will pick a flexible, casual spot. You will pick an engaging activity. If things get ominously boring, then you will say "let's play a game!". Then do something else.

Be fun. I told prospective dates that I needed to verify they were (cis-) women. Sometimes this was a pretext to get their phone numbers. Other times I just asked what they call a make-up kit with a mirror. The answer is "a compact", but most men don't know it. The point is that I managed the frame and demanded that women meet some minimal standards. They appreciated this instead of boring supplication.

Your dating profile is a blank canvas. It is your job to fill it. If you just copy/paste your LinkedIn data and show up to a restaurant in a suit or boring khakis, then you deserve a lame job interview. If you post creative pictures, wear tight jeans and boots, or go jet skiing, then you create a completely different experience. Seize this opportunity.

Ewwwww

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am just looking for help/advice on how to have better dates and connect with people.

You seem sincere but might get bad advice on a forum full of women because women do not have experience planning dates. Experiment with dating different types of women. Warning - women in their young thirties tend to be anxious and hyper-focused on marriage.

How are you meeting these women? Your dating profile probably needs more charisma and less career.

Dates should be in the evening, casual and flexible, and involve alcohol. They should end near your place. No sit-down dinners. Maybe drinks and appetizers. Sit next to her, e.g., at a bar, high-top table, or in a booth. If she sits across from you, then tell her to look at a photo on your phone and sit next to her.

Good dates: Ice skating, bowling, carnival games like Skee-Ball or Whack-a-Mole, dancing, street food festival, drinks, free Kennedy Center shows (most days at 6:00). Then bounce for (more) drinks. Learn to play games such as Marry-Shag-Kill. Do not submit to boring interview questions. If a woman asks formulaic questions, then you can tell her you are not there to audition. Or just say "boring!" Or ignore it. If a women turns your date into an interview or multilevel marketing pitch then she has violated the social contract. You are paying and should not tolerate this. Be prepared to eject on 10% of dates.

This attitude is empowering because it impels you to manage and save the date. So you will pick a flexible, casual spot. You will pick an engaging activity. If things get ominously boring, then you will say "let's play a game!". Then do something else.

Be fun. I told prospective dates that I needed to verify they were (cis-) women. Sometimes this was a pretext to get their phone numbers. Other times I just asked what they call a make-up kit with a mirror. The answer is "a compact", but most men don't know it. The point is that I managed the frame and demanded that women meet some minimal standards. They appreciated this instead of boring supplication.

Your dating profile is a blank canvas. It is your job to fill it. If you just copy/paste your LinkedIn data and show up to a restaurant in a suit or boring khakis, then you deserve a lame job interview. If you post creative pictures, wear tight jeans and boots, or go jet skiing, then you create a completely different experience. Seize this opportunity.

You mean “ask her,” right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am just looking for help/advice on how to have better dates and connect with people.

You seem sincere but might get bad advice on a forum full of women because women do not have experience planning dates. Experiment with dating different types of women. Warning - women in their young thirties tend to be anxious and hyper-focused on marriage.

How are you meeting these women? Your dating profile probably needs more charisma and less career.

Dates should be in the evening, casual and flexible, and involve alcohol. They should end near your place. No sit-down dinners. Maybe drinks and appetizers. Sit next to her, e.g., at a bar, high-top table, or in a booth. If she sits across from you, then tell her to look at a photo on your phone and sit next to her.

Good dates: Ice skating, bowling, carnival games like Skee-Ball or Whack-a-Mole, dancing, street food festival, drinks, free Kennedy Center shows (most days at 6:00). Then bounce for (more) drinks. Learn to play games such as Marry-Shag-Kill. Do not submit to boring interview questions. If a woman asks formulaic questions, then you can tell her you are not there to audition. Or just say "boring!" Or ignore it. If a women turns your date into an interview or multilevel marketing pitch then she has violated the social contract. You are paying and should not tolerate this. Be prepared to eject on 10% of dates.

This attitude is empowering because it impels you to manage and save the date. So you will pick a flexible, casual spot. You will pick an engaging activity. If things get ominously boring, then you will say "let's play a game!". Then do something else.

Be fun. I told prospective dates that I needed to verify they were (cis-) women. Sometimes this was a pretext to get their phone numbers. Other times I just asked what they call a make-up kit with a mirror. The answer is "a compact", but most men don't know it. The point is that I managed the frame and demanded that women meet some minimal standards. They appreciated this instead of boring supplication.

Your dating profile is a blank canvas. It is your job to fill it. If you just copy/paste your LinkedIn data and show up to a restaurant in a suit or boring khakis, then you deserve a lame job interview. If you post creative pictures, wear tight jeans and boots, or go jet skiing, then you create a completely different experience. Seize this opportunity.

Do not listen to this man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would try dating women in their thirties. Perhaps women in their twenties have the time and energy to be a bit more strict and focused about the college/career of the men they are considering, while women in their thirties have dated enough to realize that isn't what always matters the most in a partner. I say this as a woman.

When we're in our twenties, we're striving for a dream man; when we're in our thirties, we're searching for a good man.

I’m 40m it’s the opposite

It’s like pulling teeth trying to date attractive women in their 30s

It’s relatively easier to go on casual dates with attractive women 24-28.

The latter are way more willing to give someone a chance and get a nice coffee, walk, bop around in a book store, down for whatever

Also it’s a supply issue. There is straight up way more of the latter than former.

Found the guy who lies about his age on the apps and then says he "doesnt know how to change it" lolol. Loser.

I don’t date online - in person only.

Also, a few other women on here corroborated what I said - 20’s are way more chill than 30’s

45+ are also great dates also. Super chill.

College-28 and early 40s to late 40s are the best windows if you want low stress, fun and chill women to date/hook up whatever

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
When we're in our twenties, we're striving for a dream man; when we're in our thirties, we're searching for a good man.

So what are you doing in your 40s when you get even pickier but your market value is plummeting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am just looking for help/advice on how to have better dates and connect with people.

You seem sincere but might get bad advice on a forum full of women because women do not have experience planning dates. Experiment with dating different types of women. Warning - women in their young thirties tend to be anxious and hyper-focused on marriage.

How are you meeting these women? Your dating profile probably needs more charisma and less career.

Dates should be in the evening, casual and flexible, and involve alcohol. They should end near your place. No sit-down dinners. Maybe drinks and appetizers. Sit next to her, e.g., at a bar, high-top table, or in a booth. If she sits across from you, then tell her to look at a photo on your phone and sit next to her.

Good dates: Ice skating, bowling, carnival games like Skee-Ball or Whack-a-Mole, dancing, street food festival, drinks, free Kennedy Center shows (most days at 6:00). Then bounce for (more) drinks. Learn to play games such as Marry-Shag-Kill. Do not submit to boring interview questions. If a woman asks formulaic questions, then you can tell her you are not there to audition. Or just say "boring!" Or ignore it. If a women turns your date into an interview or multilevel marketing pitch then she has violated the social contract. You are paying and should not tolerate this. Be prepared to eject on 10% of dates.

This attitude is empowering because it impels you to manage and save the date. So you will pick a flexible, casual spot. You will pick an engaging activity. If things get ominously boring, then you will say "let's play a game!". Then do something else.

Be fun. I told prospective dates that I needed to verify they were (cis-) women. Sometimes this was a pretext to get their phone numbers. Other times I just asked what they call a make-up kit with a mirror. The answer is "a compact", but most men don't know it. The point is that I managed the frame and demanded that women meet some minimal standards. They appreciated this instead of boring supplication.

Your dating profile is a blank canvas. It is your job to fill it. If you just copy/paste your LinkedIn data and show up to a restaurant in a suit or boring khakis, then you deserve a lame job interview. If you post creative pictures, wear tight jeans and boots, or go jet skiing, then you create a completely different experience. Seize this opportunity.

I'm a man and I 100% endorse this, especially the third paragraph. Never, ever ever have a sit down dinner with a woman until you have sex with her. Period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I’m now divorced and in my 40s, and exclusively date men with 6 packs.

Yes, I bet you do. In other news: pigs apparently fly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Translation: Women are transactional commodities to me.

"I would never date a man who made less than me. In fact, I only date guys who make at least twice what I do."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am just looking for help/advice on how to have better dates and connect with people.

You seem sincere but might get bad advice on a forum full of women because women do not have experience planning dates. Experiment with dating different types of women. Warning - women in their young thirties tend to be anxious and hyper-focused on marriage.

How are you meeting these women? Your dating profile probably needs more charisma and less career.

Dates should be in the evening, casual and flexible, and involve alcohol. They should end near your place. No sit-down dinners. Maybe drinks and appetizers. Sit next to her, e.g., at a bar, high-top table, or in a booth. If she sits across from you, then tell her to look at a photo on your phone and sit next to her.

Good dates: Ice skating, bowling, carnival games like Skee-Ball or Whack-a-Mole, dancing, street food festival, drinks, free Kennedy Center shows (most days at 6:00). Then bounce for (more) drinks. Learn to play games such as Marry-Shag-Kill. Do not submit to boring interview questions. If a woman asks formulaic questions, then you can tell her you are not there to audition. Or just say "boring!" Or ignore it. If a women turns your date into an interview or multilevel marketing pitch then she has violated the social contract. You are paying and should not tolerate this. Be prepared to eject on 10% of dates.

This attitude is empowering because it impels you to manage and save the date. So you will pick a flexible, casual spot. You will pick an engaging activity. If things get ominously boring, then you will say "let's play a game!". Then do something else.

Be fun. I told prospective dates that I needed to verify they were (cis-) women. Sometimes this was a pretext to get their phone numbers. Other times I just asked what they call a make-up kit with a mirror. The answer is "a compact", but most men don't know it. The point is that I managed the frame and demanded that women meet some minimal standards. They appreciated this instead of boring supplication.

Your dating profile is a blank canvas. It is your job to fill it. If you just copy/paste your LinkedIn data and show up to a restaurant in a suit or boring khakis, then you deserve a lame job interview. If you post creative pictures, wear tight jeans and boots, or go jet skiing, then you create a completely different experience. Seize this opportunity.

Do not listen to this man.

I agree with this man’s overall principle which seems to be - to have a fun date, you must be in a fun atmosphere and be a fun person. That’s great advice. His suggestion for execution are much less so.

[Anonymous]

Is this the same loser op?
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1287535.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am just looking for help/advice on how to have better dates and connect with people.

You seem sincere but might get bad advice on a forum full of women because women do not have experience planning dates. Experiment with dating different types of women. Warning - women in their young thirties tend to be anxious and hyper-focused on marriage.

How are you meeting these women? Your dating profile probably needs more charisma and less career.

Dates should be in the evening, casual and flexible, and involve alcohol. They should end near your place. No sit-down dinners. Maybe drinks and appetizers. Sit next to her, e.g., at a bar, high-top table, or in a booth. If she sits across from you, then tell her to look at a photo on your phone and sit next to her.

Good dates: Ice skating, bowling, carnival games like Skee-Ball or Whack-a-Mole, dancing, street food festival, drinks, free Kennedy Center shows (most days at 6:00). Then bounce for (more) drinks. Learn to play games such as Marry-Shag-Kill. Do not submit to boring interview questions. If a woman asks formulaic questions, then you can tell her you are not there to audition. Or just say "boring!" Or ignore it. If a women turns your date into an interview or multilevel marketing pitch then she has violated the social contract. You are paying and should not tolerate this. Be prepared to eject on 10% of dates.

This attitude is empowering because it impels you to manage and save the date. So you will pick a flexible, casual spot. You will pick an engaging activity. If things get ominously boring, then you will say "let's play a game!". Then do something else.

Be fun. I told prospective dates that I needed to verify they were (cis-) women. Sometimes this was a pretext to get their phone numbers. Other times I just asked what they call a make-up kit with a mirror. The answer is "a compact", but most men don't know it. The point is that I managed the frame and demanded that women meet some minimal standards. They appreciated this instead of boring supplication.

Your dating profile is a blank canvas. It is your job to fill it. If you just copy/paste your LinkedIn data and show up to a restaurant in a suit or boring khakis, then you deserve a lame job interview. If you post creative pictures, wear tight jeans and boots, or go jet skiing, then you create a completely different experience. Seize this opportunity.

Ewwwww

Right? if a man's response to a simple question on a date was an immature "BORING!" I'd dump him immediately.

The transphobia is a whole thing, too.

This guy doesn't get laid, and won't, because ewwwww. Yikes.

[Anonymous]

Some of these guys seem to have confused dating and prostitution.