First dates feel like job interviews

[Anonymous]

OP - are you looking for something serious? Or just easy sex? Why are your first dates so lame?

[Anonymous]

My daughter always suggests they go for a run. Then she dumps them if they run too slow. Not sure exactly what she is screening for - maybe someday having kids who run real fast??

[Anonymous]

Ha I do that but with golf. Need to make sure that he’s not a jerk on the course and that he can handle losing to me on the regular without being emasculated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter always suggests they go for a run. Then she dumps them if they run too slow. Not sure exactly what she is screening for - maybe someday having kids who run real fast??

Haha. I'll tell my son to take his dates to the gym and if they can't bench press the bar for 10 reps he should dump them fast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter always suggests they go for a run. Then she dumps them if they run too slow. Not sure exactly what she is screening for - maybe someday having kids who run real fast??

This is actually pretty smart. I always dated overweight guys because they were “nice”, and there were always major problems - low energy, couldn’t get it up, health issues, lazy, etc.

I’m now divorced and in my 40s, and exclusively date men with 6 packs. It’s so much better. Their stamina in bed is incredible, they have energy to do things, they don’t expect me to just come over and hang out while they play video games, we have fun dates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never agree to wonder around town with a total stranger that I have zero information about. I'm in my 40s and have a high paying career, my time is very limited and valuable. I pre-screen men over the phone or on a video call before I go out with anyone.

Try to have video intros and phone calls prior to meeting in RL.

What's wrong with them wanting to know your career and degree before they start going out with you? I don't want to waste my time on someone without any aspirations and boring

You misspelled “wander.” You also didn’t finish your final sentence. Seems like you don’t have the time to do anything with care.

[Anonymous]

So let me get this straight. This is a repeated experience in a two-sided conversation in which the only consistent factor is you. Yet it is all the womens’ fault? Ok!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here

I am not only interested in women who are in their mid 20s. I will date a 28 or 29 year old. I am just looking for help/advice on how to have better dates and connect with people. I know DC tends to be career oriented, but my dating experience here seems indistinguishable from a holiday work party that everyone is forced to attend. I was hoping people could give me some advice. I am not going to start screening my potential dates with a video call/zoom meeting.

Why won’t you date women literally your own age? That’s weird.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would never agree to wonder around town with a total stranger that I have zero information about. I'm in my 40s and have a high paying career, my time is very limited and valuable. I pre-screen men over the phone or on a video call before I go out with anyone.

Try to have video intros and phone calls prior to meeting in RL.

What's wrong with them wanting to know your career and degree before they start going out with you? I don't want to waste my time on someone without any aspirations and boring

You sound fun. And I think I know why you’re not married!

You missed - I was married for almost 20 years to one of the wealthiest men on the East Coast. Date similar post divorce. Good luck to you building something remotely close .

Queen.

On the internet, no one knows you’re a dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha I do that but with golf. Need to make sure that he’s not a jerk on the course and that he can handle losing to me on the regular without being emasculated.

Yeah, right. I'm guessing that you're trying to emasculate (whether through golf or anything else).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"coffee dates, meeting at bars, walking dogs at parks, and lunch dates"

Those first dates all sound pretty boring, as PP's have said, which may be leading to the boring conversations. Some of my best dates have been dinner (Kinship), mini golf (Swingers), interesting bar (The Line Hotel), athletic events (Nats game), etc. Also alcohol at night does help lead to a more casual atmosphere rather than a more business feel of daytime and sober.

lol those are all really basic. (And pricey.)

I prefer OP’s idea of first dates but clearly OP is struggling with conversational topics. Maybe continue thinking about more low key outings but make them more something that is interesting and helps break the ice like a bike ride. Sitting across a table and staring at someone over coffee that you do not know is not always the best setting for conversation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Attractive women have options at any age. I have a queue of 3-4 men for every one I turn down and I'm late 40s.

False. Women are like milk. The longer it is on the shelf, the less attractive it becomes. Given a choice of one week vs. four weeks of milk expiration date, nobody wants to pickup milk with one week of expiration date.

Boy you hate women. No wonder you have trouble dating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ha I do that but with golf. Need to make sure that he’s not a jerk on the course and that he can handle losing to me on the regular without being emasculated.

Yeah, right. I'm guessing that you're trying to emasculate (whether through golf or anything else).

lol. Way to prove the point. (In case you missed is - a woman beating a man at a game is not “emasculating”.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ha I do that but with golf. Need to make sure that he’s not a jerk on the course and that he can handle losing to me on the regular without being emasculated.

Yeah, right. I'm guessing that you're trying to emasculate (whether through golf or anything else).

?????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why won’t you date women your own age? Maybe they’re icked out at you and pick out your red flags early.

That was my reaction.