First dates feel like job interviews

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I am not only interested in women who are in their mid 20s. I will date a 28 or 29 year old. I am just looking for help/advice on how to have better dates and connect with people. I know DC tends to be career oriented, but my dating experience here seems indistinguishable from a holiday work party that everyone is forced to attend. I was hoping people could give me some advice. I am not going to start screening my potential dates with a video call/zoom meeting.

Why will you date a 29 year old but not a 30 year old?

29 is old for a woman if you’re a man with options who wants a family. If I were a single early 30’s man and couldn’t land a mid 20’s woman in the US I’d go abroad to find one before I settled down with an older woman from here.

Ew, no one wants to hear about your sex tourism and how the only women interested in you are poor, uneducated, impoverished women who see nothing but a green card.

Your attitude is why men go abroad in the first place.

The poor uneducated impoverished women you pay to have sex with also aren’t interested, they just like your passport.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here

I am not only interested in women who are in their mid 20s. I will date a 28 or 29 year old. I am just looking for help/advice on how to have better dates and connect with people. I know DC tends to be career oriented, but my dating experience here seems indistinguishable from a holiday work party that everyone is forced to attend. I was hoping people could give me some advice. I am not going to start screening my potential dates with a video call/zoom meeting.

Why will you date a 29 year old but not a 30 year old?

29 is old for a woman if you’re a man with options who wants a family. If I were a single early 30’s man and couldn’t land a mid 20’s woman in the US I’d go abroad to find one before I settled down with an older woman from here.

Smart man. After returning to DC after living in Latin America for 2 years, I tried dating here but it was just a waste of time. Not only did every date feel like a job interview, but they were just not fun to be around. They were frumpy, masculine, and wanted to talk about politics or where they went to school. And of course their job! They always had to brag about how they're somebody really important.

I don't know why you are not successful on the apps. As a mom of a young son in his 20s, he tells me there are many pretty women in DC. Plenty of young grads come to work at WB, IMF, IFC as well. A lot of them are foreign, from the same Latin America countries or European. Probably they just don't match you on the apps for some reason

Maybe your son likes the women in DC because he has nothing to compare them to? I have ok success in terms of matches and going on dates, but I think the cold demeanor is the biggest turn off.

Have you tried dating the international expats crowd in DC? These are literally women from Latin America. They should have happy demeanor according to your theory.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here

I am not only interested in women who are in their mid 20s. I will date a 28 or 29 year old. I am just looking for help/advice on how to have better dates and connect with people. I know DC tends to be career oriented, but my dating experience here seems indistinguishable from a holiday work party that everyone is forced to attend. I was hoping people could give me some advice. I am not going to start screening my potential dates with a video call/zoom meeting.

Why will you date a 29 year old but not a 30 year old?

29 is old for a woman if you’re a man with options who wants a family. If I were a single early 30’s man and couldn’t land a mid 20’s woman in the US I’d go abroad to find one before I settled down with an older woman from here.

Ew, no one wants to hear about your sex tourism and how the only women interested in you are poor, uneducated, impoverished women who see nothing but a green card.

Your attitude is why men go abroad in the first place.

The poor uneducated impoverished women you pay to have sex with also aren’t interested, they just like your passport.

Must suck that your knowledge and experience is limited to watching 90 Day Fiance and social media.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Have you considered your alumni group, both college and high school?
It's hard to meet new people but someone with a shared background doesn't present an insurmountable stranger-ness.

Might be hard to find someone a decade younger

Not if the man is in any reasonable shape at all, 10-15 years is about right for age gap, since men age and mature much more slowly than women.

More than 20 years age gap is difficult and requires some really good looks or great charm.

It’s always old gross losers who seem to push this narrative.

It's only older often low-looks women who say it isn't so and refuse to believe it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here

I am not only interested in women who are in their mid 20s. I will date a 28 or 29 year old. I am just looking for help/advice on how to have better dates and connect with people. I know DC tends to be career oriented, but my dating experience here seems indistinguishable from a holiday work party that everyone is forced to attend. I was hoping people could give me some advice. I am not going to start screening my potential dates with a video call/zoom meeting.

Why will you date a 29 year old but not a 30 year old?

29 is old for a woman if you’re a man with options who wants a family. If I were a single early 30’s man and couldn’t land a mid 20’s woman in the US I’d go abroad to find one before I settled down with an older woman from here.

Smart man. After returning to DC after living in Latin America for 2 years, I tried dating here but it was just a waste of time. Not only did every date feel like a job interview, but they were just not fun to be around. They were frumpy, masculine, and wanted to talk about politics or where they went to school. And of course their job! They always had to brag about how they're somebody really important.

I don't know why you are not successful on the apps. As a mom of a young son in his 20s, he tells me there are many pretty women in DC. Plenty of young grads come to work at WB, IMF, IFC as well. A lot of them are foreign, from the same Latin America countries or European. Probably they just don't match you on the apps for some reason

Because apps are terrible for men especially in the US unless you’re exceptionally above average in most categories

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here

I am not only interested in women who are in their mid 20s. I will date a 28 or 29 year old. I am just looking for help/advice on how to have better dates and connect with people. I know DC tends to be career oriented, but my dating experience here seems indistinguishable from a holiday work party that everyone is forced to attend. I was hoping people could give me some advice. I am not going to start screening my potential dates with a video call/zoom meeting.

Why will you date a 29 year old but not a 30 year old?

29 is old for a woman if you’re a man with options who wants a family. If I were a single early 30’s man and couldn’t land a mid 20’s woman in the US I’d go abroad to find one before I settled down with an older woman from here.

Smart man. After returning to DC after living in Latin America for 2 years, I tried dating here but it was just a waste of time. Not only did every date feel like a job interview, but they were just not fun to be around. They were frumpy, masculine, and wanted to talk about politics or where they went to school. And of course their job! They always had to brag about how they're somebody really important.

I don't know why you are not successful on the apps. As a mom of a young son in his 20s, he tells me there are many pretty women in DC. Plenty of young grads come to work at WB, IMF, IFC as well. A lot of them are foreign, from the same Latin America countries or European. Probably they just don't match you on the apps for some reason

Because apps are terrible for men especially in the US unless you’re exceptionally above average in most categories

Oh, so you admit you’re a loser.

[Anonymous]

The best first dates I've been on were with women where we started out as friends then eventually took it to the next level. Especially my first date with my wife. But I'm old and maybe people don't hang out as groups of friends anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The best first dates I've been on were with women where we started out as friends then eventually took it to the next level. Especially my first date with my wife. But I'm old and maybe people don't hang out as groups of friends anymore.

Yeah, men don't really seem to do "friendships" these days. It's all transactional; they want a particular outcome. It's not friendly at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The best first dates I've been on were with women where we started out as friends then eventually took it to the next level. Especially my first date with my wife. But I'm old and maybe people don't hang out as groups of friends anymore.

Yeah, men don't really seem to do "friendships" these days. It's all transactional; they want a particular outcome. It's not friendly at all.

Because most men on apps don’t want to build an actual relationship. Friendship, companion, chemistry grow slowly. They are in a rush to secure a f..k and move on

[Anonymous]

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I’m a normal person who is allergic to any sign of gender stereotyping, so I follow the Ms Manners rules of whoever invited does the paying. If it is mutual then split/take turns.

Yeah, I bet. How many guys have you invited out for a first or second date to dinner?

There's an exception to every rule. It's you.

Women spend more on dating by investing in their looks and wardrobe. It would be economically unfair if they also split dinners. Go out with homey women in T-shirts they might pay for you dinners.

You mean like the woman who admits she shows up to dates in gym clothes? What an investment there.

[Anonymous]

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I’m a normal person who is allergic to any sign of gender stereotyping, so I follow the Ms Manners rules of whoever invited does the paying. If it is mutual then split/take turns.

Yeah, I bet. How many guys have you invited out for a first or second date to dinner?

There's an exception to every rule. It's you.

Women spend more on dating by investing in their looks and wardrobe. It would be economically unfair if they also split dinners. Go out with homey women in T-shirts they might pay for you dinners.

You mean like the woman who admits she shows up to dates in gym clothes? What an investment there.

Unless you are looking to date a “fitness woman.”

[Anonymous]

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I’m a normal person who is allergic to any sign of gender stereotyping, so I follow the Ms Manners rules of whoever invited does the paying. If it is mutual then split/take turns.

Yeah, I bet. How many guys have you invited out for a first or second date to dinner?

There's an exception to every rule. It's you.

Women spend more on dating by investing in their looks and wardrobe. It would be economically unfair if they also split dinners. Go out with homey women in T-shirts they might pay for you dinners.

You mean like the woman who admits she shows up to dates in gym clothes? What an investment there.

I’m that woman who posted that. I said my first dates are coffee at a cafe on my way to the gym. I also wear really sexy and expensive gym clothes with low cut top, sneakers, and my hair&makeup is done for these coffee dates. To show the assets.
If there is a second date with a man I like, I’ll be dressed out to my teeth. But I try the first intro to be practically free for the man and my goal is to see if we like each other in low key standard daily life situation

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The best first dates I've been on were with women where we started out as friends then eventually took it to the next level. Especially my first date with my wife. But I'm old and maybe people don't hang out as groups of friends anymore.

Yeah, men don't really seem to do "friendships" these days. It's all transactional; they want a particular outcome. It's not friendly at all.

Because most men on apps don’t want to build an actual relationship. Friendship, companion, chemistry grow slowly. They are in a rush to secure a f..k and move on

The saddest thing is, if they'd just be honest about that, they'd find what they're looking for. There are plenty of women who don't want to put in the effort to provide "the girlfriend experience" and just want to get laid. But men who lead with lies are obvious and it's a massive turn-off.

[Anonymous]

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I’m a normal person who is allergic to any sign of gender stereotyping, so I follow the Ms Manners rules of whoever invited does the paying. If it is mutual then split/take turns.

Yeah, I bet. How many guys have you invited out for a first or second date to dinner?

There's an exception to every rule. It's you.

Women spend more on dating by investing in their looks and wardrobe. It would be economically unfair if they also split dinners. Go out with homey women in T-shirts they might pay for you dinners.

You mean like the woman who admits she shows up to dates in gym clothes? What an investment there.

Welp. You get what you pay for, amirite? You want a woman to go all-out, don't ask for a coffee date. No self-respecting woman is going to wear gym clothes to a nice restaurant or a show. But you don't want to pay for that. So that PP found a way to give you what your budget can afford, and you're still complaining.

Entitled ass.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
I’m a normal person who is allergic to any sign of gender stereotyping, so I follow the Ms Manners rules of whoever invited does the paying. If it is mutual then split/take turns.

Yeah, I bet. How many guys have you invited out for a first or second date to dinner?

There's an exception to every rule. It's you.

Women spend more on dating by investing in their looks and wardrobe. It would be economically unfair if they also split dinners. Go out with homey women in T-shirts they might pay for you dinners.

You mean like the woman who admits she shows up to dates in gym clothes? What an investment there.

Welp. You get what you pay for, amirite? You want a woman to go all-out, don't ask for a coffee date. No self-respecting woman is going to wear gym clothes to a nice restaurant or a show. But you don't want to pay for that. So that PP found a way to give you what your budget can afford, and you're still complaining.

Entitled ass.

Besides, men love tight leggings and low cut tops. I come to first intro dressed like a gym fitness babe. Essentially it looks like that:

https://shop.lululemon.com/p/women-sports-bras/lululemon-Align-Halter-Bra-Light-C-D-MD/_/prod11771034?color=0002&locale=en_US&sl=US&sz=8&cid=Google_SHOP_US_NAT_EN_X_BrandShop_Incr-All_OMNI_GEN_Y24_ag-SHOP_G_US_EN_DM_W_GEN_NO_Bras&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21471260535&gbraid=0AAAAADL8Avk3mVetn7M20ILILWBhOOzvg