Are men happier than women in marriage at midlife?

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Anonymous wrote:There is actual research on this - marriage is generally very beneficial for men and not for women. In most marriages the woman is handling so much of what makes a life enjoyable - men benefit from that and women resent the imbalance.

It’s this. Women are over it because they feel like their DH is another child to care for and clean up after. Men are happy because they’ve successfully replaced their mother. They might be unhappy with the amount of sex, but also might recognize that being single at their age doesn’t guarantee much more sex than a reasonable healthy marriage, plus that sex would come with the burden of having to actually put effort into attracting a woman. You think these guys are prepared to romance a woman who doesn’t do all their laundry and make sure their kids have summer childcare and plan their vacations and remember their mom’s birthday and put up with even their shittiest friends? They are not prepared. They know the score and most of these guys are significantly better off staying married, even when it comes to sex.

Meanwhile, women fantasize about joint custody agreements that would force their DHs to actually do childcare, plus living in a home that is not shared with a grown adult who never cleans the bathroom or changes the sheets. There are tons of downsides to divorce but the upsides really target the pressure points for women— too little help with kids and the house, no alone time or true free time.

Men fantasize about dying earlier to get out of the jail known as marriage. Many are able to live that dream.

Marriage overwhelmingly benefits women. Women make less money than men. So many women have low paying, low quality jobs or don't work at all and rely entirely on their husbands for their financial survival. If there's a divorce, they still come out ahead by taking half. Marriage is a terrible proposal for men they leads to financial ruin. No wonder men want to put a lot less effort into it when it is a raw deal to begin with.

Not one sentence this is accurate, except for the part about women having lower-paying jobs. There is a reason for that: gender discrimination, both because of employer bias and the fact that women are usually the ones expected to make career sacrifices so they can better care for their children.

But I see that you are really enjoying your victim mentality here, so I understand it if you want to disregard facts.

Nah, once you actuslly account for the types of jobs actually worked and time worked per year, the gender pay gap is almost non-existent. Women make less because they choose lower paying fields.

Marriage overwhelmingly benefits women because they get the most financially out of it. Go look up the number of marriages where only one spouse works. How many spouses not working are men vs women. There are so many women who don't even work and rely entire on their husbands for financial support. The idea that marriage benefits men more is malarkey.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There are many many terrible wives.

Men just don't say anything about it and stay married. That's why men die earlier. Stress of being married to a terrible wive for decades.

It's a lot cheaper to stay married to a terrible wife than a divorce.

So they just die earlier instead?

Lol, brilliant.

It is..

Who wants to stay in a culturally imposed jail for longer than is necessary?

Nobody. However (and this may come as a shock), death is not the only way out of this culturally imposed jail. I think it's insane to prefer death to divorce if you believe marriage is some horrible, terrible state of being. But hey, if you just want to live miserably until you die just to keep hold of half your assets, be my guest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is actual research on this - marriage is generally very beneficial for men and not for women. In most marriages the woman is handling so much of what makes a life enjoyable - men benefit from that and women resent the imbalance.

It’s this. Women are over it because they feel like their DH is another child to care for and clean up after. Men are happy because they’ve successfully replaced their mother. They might be unhappy with the amount of sex, but also might recognize that being single at their age doesn’t guarantee much more sex than a reasonable healthy marriage, plus that sex would come with the burden of having to actually put effort into attracting a woman. You think these guys are prepared to romance a woman who doesn’t do all their laundry and make sure their kids have summer childcare and plan their vacations and remember their mom’s birthday and put up with even their shittiest friends? They are not prepared. They know the score and most of these guys are significantly better off staying married, even when it comes to sex.

Meanwhile, women fantasize about joint custody agreements that would force their DHs to actually do childcare, plus living in a home that is not shared with a grown adult who never cleans the bathroom or changes the sheets. There are tons of downsides to divorce but the upsides really target the pressure points for women— too little help with kids and the house, no alone time or true free time.

Men fantasize about dying earlier to get out of the jail known as marriage. Many are able to live that dream.

Marriage overwhelmingly benefits women. Women make less money than men. So many women have low paying, low quality jobs or don't work at all and rely entirely on their husbands for their financial survival. If there's a divorce, they still come out ahead by taking half. Marriage is a terrible proposal for men they leads to financial ruin. No wonder men want to put a lot less effort into it when it is a raw deal to begin with.

Not one sentence this is accurate, except for the part about women having lower-paying jobs. There is a reason for that: gender discrimination, both because of employer bias and the fact that women are usually the ones expected to make career sacrifices so they can better care for their children.

But I see that you are really enjoying your victim mentality here, so I understand it if you want to disregard facts.

Nah, once you actuslly account for the types of jobs actually worked and time worked per year, the gender pay gap is almost non-existent. Women make less because they choose lower paying fields.

Marriage overwhelmingly benefits women because they get the most financially out of it. Go look up the number of marriages where only one spouse works. How many spouses not working are men vs women. There are so many women who don't even work and rely entire on their husbands for financial support. The idea that marriage benefits men more is malarkey.

And I'm sure you think that women choose these jobs because they are lazy, yes? And just want to freeload on their husbands? I mentioned above that part of the reason for the gender pay gap is that women choose those lower-paying jobs because women typically are the ones who are expected to make career sacrifices to take care of their kids, but never let facts get in the way of a good sob story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are many many terrible wives.

Men just don't say anything about it and stay married. That's why men die earlier. Stress of being married to a terrible wive for decades.

It's a lot cheaper to stay married to a terrible wife than a divorce.

So they just die earlier instead?

Lol, brilliant.

It is..

Who wants to stay in a culturally imposed jail for longer than is necessary?

Nobody. However (and this may come as a shock), death is not the only way out of this culturally imposed jail. I think it's insane to prefer death to divorce if you believe marriage is some horrible, terrible state of being. But hey, if you just want to live miserably until you die just to keep hold of half your assets, be my guest.

Divorce is overwhelmingly ruinous for men compared to women. Especially if alimony and children are involved. Courts overwhelmingly punish men much more than women. So yeah, staying in the jail of marriage and dying earlier is a better decision than getting divorced, losing half of everything plus insane alimony and child payments, and being forced to live in poverty for years. Besides, dying earlier means late 60s and 70s anyway, when you're at the end and quality of life sucks anyway. Staying married is like taking your daily dose of cod oil everyday. You do it only because you know it is the better financial option. Freedom will eventually come.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is actual research on this - marriage is generally very beneficial for men and not for women. In most marriages the woman is handling so much of what makes a life enjoyable - men benefit from that and women resent the imbalance.

It’s this. Women are over it because they feel like their DH is another child to care for and clean up after. Men are happy because they’ve successfully replaced their mother. They might be unhappy with the amount of sex, but also might recognize that being single at their age doesn’t guarantee much more sex than a reasonable healthy marriage, plus that sex would come with the burden of having to actually put effort into attracting a woman. You think these guys are prepared to romance a woman who doesn’t do all their laundry and make sure their kids have summer childcare and plan their vacations and remember their mom’s birthday and put up with even their shittiest friends? They are not prepared. They know the score and most of these guys are significantly better off staying married, even when it comes to sex.

Meanwhile, women fantasize about joint custody agreements that would force their DHs to actually do childcare, plus living in a home that is not shared with a grown adult who never cleans the bathroom or changes the sheets. There are tons of downsides to divorce but the upsides really target the pressure points for women— too little help with kids and the house, no alone time or true free time.

This seems to be the issue with my unhappy 40-something girlfriends. I married someone who is very helpful around the house - makes beds in the morning, does his share of child care, cleans up after himself and others, makes enough that we can afford all the household help we need between the two of us. Obviously, no one is perfect, but I feel a strong desire to keep him happy with me when I compare our marriage to that of my friends. If I marriage fell apart, I don't think I'd even bother looking because none of my friends are happy anymore.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is actual research on this - marriage is generally very beneficial for men and not for women. In most marriages the woman is handling so much of what makes a life enjoyable - men benefit from that and women resent the imbalance.

It’s this. Women are over it because they feel like their DH is another child to care for and clean up after. Men are happy because they’ve successfully replaced their mother. They might be unhappy with the amount of sex, but also might recognize that being single at their age doesn’t guarantee much more sex than a reasonable healthy marriage, plus that sex would come with the burden of having to actually put effort into attracting a woman. You think these guys are prepared to romance a woman who doesn’t do all their laundry and make sure their kids have summer childcare and plan their vacations and remember their mom’s birthday and put up with even their shittiest friends? They are not prepared. They know the score and most of these guys are significantly better off staying married, even when it comes to sex.

Meanwhile, women fantasize about joint custody agreements that would force their DHs to actually do childcare, plus living in a home that is not shared with a grown adult who never cleans the bathroom or changes the sheets. There are tons of downsides to divorce but the upsides really target the pressure points for women— too little help with kids and the house, no alone time or true free time.

Men fantasize about dying earlier to get out of the jail known as marriage. Many are able to live that dream.

Marriage overwhelmingly benefits women. Women make less money than men. So many women have low paying, low quality jobs or don't work at all and rely entirely on their husbands for their financial survival. If there's a divorce, they still come out ahead by taking half. Marriage is a terrible proposal for men they leads to financial ruin. No wonder men want to put a lot less effort into it when it is a raw deal to begin with.

Not one sentence this is accurate, except for the part about women having lower-paying jobs. There is a reason for that: gender discrimination, both because of employer bias and the fact that women are usually the ones expected to make career sacrifices so they can better care for their children.

But I see that you are really enjoying your victim mentality here, so I understand it if you want to disregard facts.

Nah, once you actuslly account for the types of jobs actually worked and time worked per year, the gender pay gap is almost non-existent. Women make less because they choose lower paying fields.

Marriage overwhelmingly benefits women because they get the most financially out of it. Go look up the number of marriages where only one spouse works. How many spouses not working are men vs women. There are so many women who don't even work and rely entire on their husbands for financial support. The idea that marriage benefits men more is malarkey.

And I'm sure you think that women choose these jobs because they are lazy, yes? And just want to freeload on their husbands? I mentioned above that part of the reason for the gender pay gap is that women choose those lower-paying jobs because women typically are the ones who are expected to make career sacrifices to take care of their kids, but never let facts get in the way of a good sob story.

Oh please.

No go look up the number workplace related injuries and deaths. Men make over over 90+% of all workplace fatalities. Where is your complaining about gender death gaps and gender gap disparities for injuries at work? You don't talk about it because men do the vaaaaaast majority of highly dangerous and dirty jobs. Maybe pay gaps also exist because risks for death and dismemberment are much higher in fields as compared to say a kindergarten teacher or a daycare worker? If you want equality in work, let's start seeing women contribute equally to highly hazardous job and have them starting to up 50% of all workplace fatalities. But nah, you are probably only whining about cushy corporate jobs and easy going white collar professions where you get to sit at a desk all day earnings six figures to push pencils.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are many many terrible wives.

Men just don't say anything about it and stay married. That's why men die earlier. Stress of being married to a terrible wive for decades.

It's a lot cheaper to stay married to a terrible wife than a divorce.

So they just die earlier instead?

Lol, brilliant.

It is..

Who wants to stay in a culturally imposed jail for longer than is necessary?

Nobody. However (and this may come as a shock), death is not the only way out of this culturally imposed jail. I think it's insane to prefer death to divorce if you believe marriage is some horrible, terrible state of being. But hey, if you just want to live miserably until you die just to keep hold of half your assets, be my guest.

Divorce is overwhelmingly ruinous for men compared to women. Especially if alimony and children are involved. Courts overwhelmingly punish men much more than women. So yeah, staying in the jail of marriage and dying earlier is a better decision than getting divorced, losing half of everything plus insane alimony and child payments, and being forced to live in poverty for years. Besides, dying earlier means late 60s and 70s anyway, when you're at the end and quality of life sucks anyway. Staying married is like taking your daily dose of cod oil everyday. You do it only because you know it is the better financial option. Freedom will eventually come.

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Also incorrect regarding money. Women end up poorer after divorce than men but healthier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is actual research on this - marriage is generally very beneficial for men and not for women. In most marriages the woman is handling so much of what makes a life enjoyable - men benefit from that and women resent the imbalance.

It’s this. Women are over it because they feel like their DH is another child to care for and clean up after. Men are happy because they’ve successfully replaced their mother. They might be unhappy with the amount of sex, but also might recognize that being single at their age doesn’t guarantee much more sex than a reasonable healthy marriage, plus that sex would come with the burden of having to actually put effort into attracting a woman. You think these guys are prepared to romance a woman who doesn’t do all their laundry and make sure their kids have summer childcare and plan their vacations and remember their mom’s birthday and put up with even their shittiest friends? They are not prepared. They know the score and most of these guys are significantly better off staying married, even when it comes to sex.

Meanwhile, women fantasize about joint custody agreements that would force their DHs to actually do childcare, plus living in a home that is not shared with a grown adult who never cleans the bathroom or changes the sheets. There are tons of downsides to divorce but the upsides really target the pressure points for women— too little help with kids and the house, no alone time or true free time.

Men fantasize about dying earlier to get out of the jail known as marriage. Many are able to live that dream.

Marriage overwhelmingly benefits women. Women make less money than men. So many women have low paying, low quality jobs or don't work at all and rely entirely on their husbands for their financial survival. If there's a divorce, they still come out ahead by taking half. Marriage is a terrible proposal for men they leads to financial ruin. No wonder men want to put a lot less effort into it when it is a raw deal to begin with.

Not one sentence this is accurate, except for the part about women having lower-paying jobs. There is a reason for that: gender discrimination, both because of employer bias and the fact that women are usually the ones expected to make career sacrifices so they can better care for their children.

But I see that you are really enjoying your victim mentality here, so I understand it if you want to disregard facts.

Nah, once you actuslly account for the types of jobs actually worked and time worked per year, the gender pay gap is almost non-existent. Women make less because they choose lower paying fields.

Marriage overwhelmingly benefits women because they get the most financially out of it. Go look up the number of marriages where only one spouse works. How many spouses not working are men vs women. There are so many women who don't even work and rely entire on their husbands for financial support. The idea that marriage benefits men more is malarkey.

And I'm sure you think that women choose these jobs because they are lazy, yes? And just want to freeload on their husbands? I mentioned above that part of the reason for the gender pay gap is that women choose those lower-paying jobs because women typically are the ones who are expected to make career sacrifices to take care of their kids, but never let facts get in the way of a good sob story.

Oh please.

No go look up the number workplace related injuries and deaths. Men make over over 90+% of all workplace fatalities. Where is your complaining about gender death gaps and gender gap disparities for injuries at work? You don't talk about it because men do the vaaaaaast majority of highly dangerous and dirty jobs. Maybe pay gaps also exist because risks for death and dismemberment are much higher in fields as compared to say a kindergarten teacher or a daycare worker? If you want equality in work, let's start seeing women contribute equally to highly hazardous job and have them starting to up 50% of all workplace fatalities. But nah, you are probably only whining about cushy corporate jobs and easy going white collar professions where you get to sit at a desk all day earnings six figures to push pencils.

HAHAHAH yes, lets review: marriage is better for women because they make less money and some rely entirely on their husbands for financial survival, and they make less money because traditionally female fields don't pay as much, and their fields don't pay as much because some "male" jobs like oil rig worker are dangerous.

Honestly, maybe the reason marriage sucks for you is because you're kinda dumb?

[Anonymous]

They also do work at home. Other cultures just get this. Go live overseas where women are revered for the non-paid work they do and have no income on their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you get to sit at a desk all day earnings six figures to push pencils.

Well there's your problem right there. You think that mental work is just "pushing pencils." The reality is that such work is tougher to accomplish than some job that any meat head can do. Not too dissimilar from people who think that "being a mother" should be highly lucrative. Figure out how to do something that is lucrative. If you're not getting paid enough, go somewhere else or do something else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve also noticed this in my marriage, and I think a lot of it is that we settled down at different ages.

Because I’m female, I felt like I had to start husband hunting pretty much right after I graduate college. Biological clocks and aging and whatnot.

H is almost a decade older, so he had plenty of time to play the field and have fun, and then settled down at almost 40. So it’s almost like he got to live 2 lives - first the fun life of a bachelor and now he’s ready for the steady life of a husband and father. Whereas monogamy and LTRs are really all I know, and I was I had had the time to be single, explore who I was, and get more out of life.

Exactly this. Your ovaries simply do not care that it takes you a fair while to figure out who you REALLY are and what you REALLY want. And even though IVF can prolong fertility for awhile, IVF (1) cannot prolong it beyond certain boundaries; and (2) your ovaries don't shut up even if your brain tells them that science would allow them to be quiet for a few more years. They just SCREAM at you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are many many terrible wives.

Men just don't say anything about it and stay married. That's why men die earlier. Stress of being married to a terrible wive for decades.

It's a lot cheaper to stay married to a terrible wife than a divorce.

So they just die earlier instead?

Lol, brilliant.

It is..

Who wants to stay in a culturally imposed jail for longer than is necessary?

Nobody. However (and this may come as a shock), death is not the only way out of this culturally imposed jail. I think it's insane to prefer death to divorce if you believe marriage is some horrible, terrible state of being. But hey, if you just want to live miserably until you die just to keep hold of half your assets, be my guest.

Divorce is overwhelmingly ruinous for men compared to women. Especially if alimony and children are involved. Courts overwhelmingly punish men much more than women. So yeah, staying in the jail of marriage and dying earlier is a better decision than getting divorced, losing half of everything plus insane alimony and child payments, and being forced to live in poverty for years. Besides, dying earlier means late 60s and 70s anyway, when you're at the end and quality of life sucks anyway. Staying married is like taking your daily dose of cod oil everyday. You do it only because you know it is the better financial option. Freedom will eventually come.

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Also incorrect regarding money. Women end up poorer after divorce than men but healthier.

Divorce can be financially bad for everyone involved. Women can end up poorer after divorce *and* divorce can end up requiring men to pay more than women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are many many terrible wives.

Men just don't say anything about it and stay married. That's why men die earlier. Stress of being married to a terrible wive for decades.

It's a lot cheaper to stay married to a terrible wife than a divorce.

So they just die earlier instead?

Lol, brilliant.

It is..

Who wants to stay in a culturally imposed jail for longer than is necessary?

Nobody. However (and this may come as a shock), death is not the only way out of this culturally imposed jail. I think it's insane to prefer death to divorce if you believe marriage is some horrible, terrible state of being. But hey, if you just want to live miserably until you die just to keep hold of half your assets, be my guest.

Divorce is overwhelmingly ruinous for men compared to women. Especially if alimony and children are involved. Courts overwhelmingly punish men much more than women. So yeah, staying in the jail of marriage and dying earlier is a better decision than getting divorced, losing half of everything plus insane alimony and child payments, and being forced to live in poverty for years. Besides, dying earlier means late 60s and 70s anyway, when you're at the end and quality of life sucks anyway. Staying married is like taking your daily dose of cod oil everyday. You do it only because you know it is the better financial option. Freedom will eventually come.

'


Also incorrect regarding money. Women end up poorer after divorce than men but healthier.

Divorce can be financially bad for everyone involved. Women can end up poorer after divorce *and* divorce can end up requiring men to pay more than women.

Truth. A significantly majority of folks can't afford to comfortably divorce. Women typically end up the poorest in the longterm even when they receive alimony and child support, but men financially suffer as well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is actual research on this - marriage is generally very beneficial for men and not for women. In most marriages the woman is handling so much of what makes a life enjoyable - men benefit from that and women resent the imbalance.

It’s this. Women are over it because they feel like their DH is another child to care for and clean up after. Men are happy because they’ve successfully replaced their mother. They might be unhappy with the amount of sex, but also might recognize that being single at their age doesn’t guarantee much more sex than a reasonable healthy marriage, plus that sex would come with the burden of having to actually put effort into attracting a woman. You think these guys are prepared to romance a woman who doesn’t do all their laundry and make sure their kids have summer childcare and plan their vacations and remember their mom’s birthday and put up with even their shittiest friends? They are not prepared. They know the score and most of these guys are significantly better off staying married, even when it comes to sex.

Meanwhile, women fantasize about joint custody agreements that would force their DHs to actually do childcare, plus living in a home that is not shared with a grown adult who never cleans the bathroom or changes the sheets. There are tons of downsides to divorce but the upsides really target the pressure points for women— too little help with kids and the house, no alone time or true free time.

Men fantasize about dying earlier to get out of the jail known as marriage. Many are able to live that dream.

Marriage overwhelmingly benefits women. Women make less money than men. So many women have low paying, low quality jobs or don't work at all and rely entirely on their husbands for their financial survival. If there's a divorce, they still come out ahead by taking half. Marriage is a terrible proposal for men they leads to financial ruin. No wonder men want to put a lot less effort into it when it is a raw deal to begin with.

Not one sentence this is accurate, except for the part about women having lower-paying jobs. There is a reason for that: gender discrimination, both because of employer bias and the fact that women are usually the ones expected to make career sacrifices so they can better care for their children.

But I see that you are really enjoying your victim mentality here, so I understand it if you want to disregard facts.

Nah, once you actuslly account for the types of jobs actually worked and time worked per year, the gender pay gap is almost non-existent. Women make less because they choose lower paying fields.

Marriage overwhelmingly benefits women because they get the most financially out of it. Go look up the number of marriages where only one spouse works. How many spouses not working are men vs women. There are so many women who don't even work and rely entire on their husbands for financial support. The idea that marriage benefits men more is malarkey.

And I'm sure you think that women choose these jobs because they are lazy, yes? And just want to freeload on their husbands? I mentioned above that part of the reason for the gender pay gap is that women choose those lower-paying jobs because women typically are the ones who are expected to make career sacrifices to take care of their kids, but never let facts get in the way of a good sob story.

Oh please.

No go look up the number workplace related injuries and deaths. Men make over over 90+% of all workplace fatalities. Where is your complaining about gender death gaps and gender gap disparities for injuries at work? You don't talk about it because men do the vaaaaaast majority of highly dangerous and dirty jobs. Maybe pay gaps also exist because risks for death and dismemberment are much higher in fields as compared to say a kindergarten teacher or a daycare worker? If you want equality in work, let's start seeing women contribute equally to highly hazardous job and have them starting to up 50% of all workplace fatalities. But nah, you are probably only whining about cushy corporate jobs and easy going white collar professions where you get to sit at a desk all day earnings six figures to push pencils.

HAHAHAH yes, lets review: marriage is better for women because they make less money and some rely entirely on their husbands for financial survival, and they make less money because traditionally female fields don't pay as much, and their fields don't pay as much because some "male" jobs like oil rig worker are dangerous.

Honestly, maybe the reason marriage sucks for you is because you're kinda dumb?

I bet your husband prays everyday for a quick death to be put out of his misery. Much better than being nibbled to death over decades by a shrew like an inquisition style of torture.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:you get to sit at a desk all day earnings six figures to push pencils.

Well there's your problem right there. You think that mental work is just "pushing pencils." The reality is that such work is tougher to accomplish than some job that any meat head can do. Not too dissimilar from people who think that "being a mother" should be highly lucrative. Figure out how to do something that is lucrative. If you're not getting paid enough, go somewhere else or do something else.

Meanwhile, I bet you couldn't even run electric through your home in order to fix faulty wiring, or fix a drain pipe that those meatheads could fix. As the pandemic showed, the country can easily survive without a huge number of pencil pushers while chaos broke out if the stock boy at Costco didn't show up for work.