Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

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Anonymous wrote:No one is saying that.

The difficulty is for those men and women who seek long-term partners, marriage and perhaps children, in their 40s. That is a much more challenging proposition.

You are unbelievably stupid if you confuse the two.

+1 read the thread about lonely young men.

It's easy for women, even 40s women to find a man who wants to have sex with them. Trying to find someone great to have a LTR, maybe kids/marriage, that's a lot harder.

I am not interested in marriage. I am divorced. People always act like divorced women would be lepers in the dating pool…just not true. I have had men want a serious relationship…I don’t want one. I like long term FWB. Not interested in a serious relationship. No man is never meeting my kids. My post was about sheer attraction to 40s women because people assume that can’t get men for anything. Has nothing to do with marriage or kids at this age.

Great. It's all in your head that this was ever an issue. Most women don't want to be you and in fact have to compete with people like you even though we want different things so I really could care less.

I think you mean you couldn't care less.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

It’s not really mind blowing that a single old woman still out on the dating market is desperate, though. To the OP’s point, nobody ever said 40 year olds couldn’t get sex. But actually finding committed love rather than being a nurse or a purse through old age is the difficult thing. Men are men no matter how old we get.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

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Anonymous wrote:Thread would be much more helpful with pics, both of OP and the men she is dating.

Recently read this thread on hackernews:

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31961992

"By most cultural standards, according to my male friends, I’m smart, beautiful, fit, kind, emotionally mature and doing meaningful work in the world. Not too needy and not a workaholic"

Reading through the thread, you could see she is not quite the prize she claims to be. But then when you look up the picture, BOOM it becomes even more crystal clear. Her friends are lying to her and people on the internet are delusional.

It's not hard for women to get dates/interest. Even in their 40's.

Commitment and quality of men is the real test.

What are you talking about?? She’s really cute. Didn’t know YC hosted this kind of drivel though.

Dig deeper. That pic is like 20 years old

Typical.

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Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.

Any of them wants to marry you though?

I do not want to get married. I never wanted to. I did in my 30s and it was the biggest mistake. Marriage has no appeal to me. I dumped a guy in my 20s I dated for 6 years because he would not stop talking about getting married and proposed a few times. I am not getting married. A man who wants to marry you is not a prize.

So, you are a mid 40s looking for sex/dinner. No wonder you had a lot of choices. I mean dinner for sex is a fair trade-off for men.

I love when I see posts that are so purposefully obtuse. There is nothing wrong with women just wanting to date, have fun and want to have sex. I also pay for my own dinner.

Is the long-term plan to keep banging younger men into your 60s? Like…what happens after menopause?

I’m 61 and post menopause and my husband and I had sex last night. Yes, lube is required and I get no complaints from him when I put it on him.

TMI grandma.

Do you plan on living past 61? Do you plan to just call yourself grandma/grandpa and give up sex?

No but I'd keep it private.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

It’s not really mind blowing that a single old woman still out on the dating market is desperate, though. To the OP’s point, nobody ever said 40 year olds couldn’t get sex. But actually finding committed love rather than being a nurse or a purse through old age is the difficult thing. Men are men no matter how old we get.

Bless your heart. I know you're really trying to make us look desperate and undesirable, but it's not working honey. I'm happy and wish you the same.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

Never had an STD here so I must be doing something right.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

Of course they have. Since time immemorial, women have been depressed, persecuted, shamed and killed. You’re a miserable woman hater deep down no matter what you tell yourself every morning.

-NP, happily married 43 y.o. woman

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

Of course they have. Since time immemorial, women have been depressed, persecuted, shamed and killed. You’re a miserable woman hater deep down no matter what you tell yourself every morning.

-NP, happily married 43 y.o. woman

WTF? This is a thread about a woman who has sex all around town, sometimes with depressed men in marriages, and somehow you are some married 43 year old woman with nothing to do saying it's better for her to go out and have sex on the sly with your husband rather than being single? The world has gone mad. Why are you on here? Why do you care what any single woman does much less one not having sex with anyone?

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

Of course they have. Since time immemorial, women have been depressed, persecuted, shamed and killed. You’re a miserable woman hater deep down no matter what you tell yourself every morning.

-NP, happily married 43 y.o. woman

WTF? This is a thread about a woman who has sex all around town, sometimes with depressed men in marriages, and somehow you are some married 43 year old woman with nothing to do saying it's better for her to go out and have sex on the sly with your husband rather than being single? The world has gone mad. Why are you on here? Why do you care what any single woman does much less one not having sex with anyone?

No, that's what YOU want the thread to be about. The fact is that there are several women responding (me, and I'm not OP) about having prospects even though we are in our 40s, don't want a lifelong commitment from a man and enjoy sex. You INTERPRETED that from at least my posts that that means I'm having sex with anything that walks and am somehow an unpaid prostitute. You are trying your damnest to vilify anyone who dares to be free of your judgment for the way we choose to live our life.

So here it is for you again, I am 43 F, I don't need or want a lifelong commitment from a man. Maybe that will change at some point, who knows. I have raised my kid, I have a great job, I own my home, I enjoy sex. The fact remains that I can still get quality dates from desirable men. If that's somehow threatening to your way of life, I suggest therapy.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

Never had an STD here so I must be doing something right.

I doubt you test regularly.