Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.

Any of them wants to marry you though?

I do not want to get married. I never wanted to. I did in my 30s and it was the biggest mistake. Marriage has no appeal to me. I dumped a guy in my 20s I dated for 6 years because he would not stop talking about getting married and proposed a few times. I am not getting married. A man who wants to marry you is not a prize.

So, you are a mid 40s looking for sex/dinner. No wonder you had a lot of choices. I mean dinner for sex is a fair trade-off for men.

I love when I see posts that are so purposefully obtuse. There is nothing wrong with women just wanting to date, have fun and want to have sex. I also pay for my own dinner.

Is the long-term plan to keep banging younger men into your 60s? Like…what happens after menopause?

I am in menopause and still banging younger men. WHat is your point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the hate.

I divorced at 42 after ex blew up the entire family. My 3 teenage kids and I were completely blindsided. I had always been faithful and had always pictured myself being with my ex till the day I die.

I really thought my life was over and had a mental picture of myself alone sitting in a rocking chair with cats around me, because it was what it seemed like what happened with divorced women in the 40s and 50s. I felt like a used dirty kitchen rag. After years of mental abuse and lack of intimacy, I didn't even see myself slightly attractive, forget about feeling sexy at all. I was useless and pointless after breeding 3 awesome children, or that was what the society made me feel.

When I finally started healing and forcing myself to get out there, I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of men I went on dates with. My priority, for now, is my 3 children, as they are the biggest victims in this traumatic divorce, and the man I've been dating for the last 1.5 years understands and respects me for that. I have no desire to blend family and make my life any more complicated.

I don't understand the hate for women in our situation, mocking us like we're just old women with baggage.

I mean, there are "loser" men at any age, right? Or men who just want to have sex?

You sound normal. This woman posting isn't you. She's just going around like the men getting laid and then boasting about it as if it's a plus to her and her men and we should all respect them for their ability to find an F buddy.

You say that like it's a bad thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the hate.

I divorced at 42 after ex blew up the entire family. My 3 teenage kids and I were completely blindsided. I had always been faithful and had always pictured myself being with my ex till the day I die.

I really thought my life was over and had a mental picture of myself alone sitting in a rocking chair with cats around me, because it was what it seemed like what happened with divorced women in the 40s and 50s. I felt like a used dirty kitchen rag. After years of mental abuse and lack of intimacy, I didn't even see myself slightly attractive, forget about feeling sexy at all. I was useless and pointless after breeding 3 awesome children, or that was what the society made me feel.

When I finally started healing and forcing myself to get out there, I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of men I went on dates with. My priority, for now, is my 3 children, as they are the biggest victims in this traumatic divorce, and the man I've been dating for the last 1.5 years understands and respects me for that. I have no desire to blend family and make my life any more complicated.

I don't understand the hate for women in our situation, mocking us like we're just old women with baggage.

I mean, there are "loser" men at any age, right? Or men who just want to have sex?

You sound normal. This woman posting isn't you. She's just going around like the men getting laid and then boasting about it as if it's a plus to her and her men and we should all respect them for their ability to find an F buddy.

You say that like it's a bad thing.

What's good about it for society and for themselves and their partners? Especially when they are seeing married people and lying about their wishes? To me it's a bad thing. For both women and men. It's called slutty behavior.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the hate.

I divorced at 42 after ex blew up the entire family. My 3 teenage kids and I were completely blindsided. I had always been faithful and had always pictured myself being with my ex till the day I die.

I really thought my life was over and had a mental picture of myself alone sitting in a rocking chair with cats around me, because it was what it seemed like what happened with divorced women in the 40s and 50s. I felt like a used dirty kitchen rag. After years of mental abuse and lack of intimacy, I didn't even see myself slightly attractive, forget about feeling sexy at all. I was useless and pointless after breeding 3 awesome children, or that was what the society made me feel.

When I finally started healing and forcing myself to get out there, I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of men I went on dates with. My priority, for now, is my 3 children, as they are the biggest victims in this traumatic divorce, and the man I've been dating for the last 1.5 years understands and respects me for that. I have no desire to blend family and make my life any more complicated.

I don't understand the hate for women in our situation, mocking us like we're just old women with baggage.

I mean, there are "loser" men at any age, right? Or men who just want to have sex?

You sound normal. This woman posting isn't you. She's just going around like the men getting laid and then boasting about it as if it's a plus to her and her men and we should all respect them for their ability to find an F buddy.

You say that like it's a bad thing.

What's good about it for society and for themselves and their partners? Especially when they are seeing married people and lying about their wishes? To me it's a bad thing. For both women and men. It's called slutty behavior.

You are really funny. You always can tell when people know they don't have a point when they start making ship up.

Literally, no one said they are banging married people and having affairs. Me having sex in my 40s with whomever I please is none of yours or society's business. Two adults enjoying each other's company in which ever way they please is never a bad thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the hate.

I divorced at 42 after ex blew up the entire family. My 3 teenage kids and I were completely blindsided. I had always been faithful and had always pictured myself being with my ex till the day I die.

I really thought my life was over and had a mental picture of myself alone sitting in a rocking chair with cats around me, because it was what it seemed like what happened with divorced women in the 40s and 50s. I felt like a used dirty kitchen rag. After years of mental abuse and lack of intimacy, I didn't even see myself slightly attractive, forget about feeling sexy at all. I was useless and pointless after breeding 3 awesome children, or that was what the society made me feel.

When I finally started healing and forcing myself to get out there, I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of men I went on dates with. My priority, for now, is my 3 children, as they are the biggest victims in this traumatic divorce, and the man I've been dating for the last 1.5 years understands and respects me for that. I have no desire to blend family and make my life any more complicated.

I don't understand the hate for women in our situation, mocking us like we're just old women with baggage.

I mean, there are "loser" men at any age, right? Or men who just want to have sex?

You sound normal. This woman posting isn't you. She's just going around like the men getting laid and then boasting about it as if it's a plus to her and her men and we should all respect them for their ability to find an F buddy.

You say that like it's a bad thing.

What's good about it for society and for themselves and their partners? Especially when they are seeing married people and lying about their wishes? To me it's a bad thing. For both women and men. It's called slutty behavior.

That might work on a 15 year old insecure school girl, but I quite enjoy being slutty. You should try it sometime. It's very freeing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the hate.

I divorced at 42 after ex blew up the entire family. My 3 teenage kids and I were completely blindsided. I had always been faithful and had always pictured myself being with my ex till the day I die.

I really thought my life was over and had a mental picture of myself alone sitting in a rocking chair with cats around me, because it was what it seemed like what happened with divorced women in the 40s and 50s. I felt like a used dirty kitchen rag. After years of mental abuse and lack of intimacy, I didn't even see myself slightly attractive, forget about feeling sexy at all. I was useless and pointless after breeding 3 awesome children, or that was what the society made me feel.

When I finally started healing and forcing myself to get out there, I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of men I went on dates with. My priority, for now, is my 3 children, as they are the biggest victims in this traumatic divorce, and the man I've been dating for the last 1.5 years understands and respects me for that. I have no desire to blend family and make my life any more complicated.

I don't understand the hate for women in our situation, mocking us like we're just old women with baggage.

I mean, there are "loser" men at any age, right? Or men who just want to have sex?

You sound normal. This woman posting isn't you. She's just going around like the men getting laid and then boasting about it as if it's a plus to her and her men and we should all respect them for their ability to find an F buddy.

You say that like it's a bad thing.

What's good about it for society and for themselves and their partners? Especially when they are seeing married people and lying about their wishes? To me it's a bad thing. For both women and men. It's called slutty behavior.

That might work on a 15 year old insecure school girl, but I quite enjoy being slutty. You should try it sometime. It's very freeing.

No thanks. Already have heard the horror stories and sicknesses from it. Enjoy. Above there was a comment about someone seeing a person who was in an unahappy marriage, so there was a reference to being an affair partner.

Either way, I don't see what the huge boast is about starting this page. You are basically a free prostitute. Whatever. Enjoy your life. I don't look up to you as a woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

[Anonymous]

Good for you! I don't know why so many people, including some women, are hating on your good fortune.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the hate.

I divorced at 42 after ex blew up the entire family. My 3 teenage kids and I were completely blindsided. I had always been faithful and had always pictured myself being with my ex till the day I die.

I really thought my life was over and had a mental picture of myself alone sitting in a rocking chair with cats around me, because it was what it seemed like what happened with divorced women in the 40s and 50s. I felt like a used dirty kitchen rag. After years of mental abuse and lack of intimacy, I didn't even see myself slightly attractive, forget about feeling sexy at all. I was useless and pointless after breeding 3 awesome children, or that was what the society made me feel.

When I finally started healing and forcing myself to get out there, I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of men I went on dates with. My priority, for now, is my 3 children, as they are the biggest victims in this traumatic divorce, and the man I've been dating for the last 1.5 years understands and respects me for that. I have no desire to blend family and make my life any more complicated.

I don't understand the hate for women in our situation, mocking us like we're just old women with baggage.

I mean, there are "loser" men at any age, right? Or men who just want to have sex?

You sound normal. This woman posting isn't you. She's just going around like the men getting laid and then boasting about it as if it's a plus to her and her men and we should all respect them for their ability to find an F buddy.

You say that like it's a bad thing.

What's good about it for society and for themselves and their partners? Especially when they are seeing married people and lying about their wishes? To me it's a bad thing. For both women and men. It's called slutty behavior.

That might work on a 15 year old insecure school girl, but I quite enjoy being slutty. You should try it sometime. It's very freeing.

No thanks. Already have heard the horror stories and sicknesses from it. Enjoy. Above there was a comment about someone seeing a person who was in an unahappy marriage, so there was a reference to being an affair partner.

Either way, I don't see what the huge boast is about starting this page. You are basically a free prostitute. Whatever. Enjoy your life. I don't look up to you as a woman.

You have some serious issues, lady.

I don't care if you chose to sleep with one person for the rest of your life or choose to be celibate. More power to you. Do what makes you happy. But you're the only one calling people names for doing what makes them happy and hurts absolutely no one. You should really think about why what I'm doing is bothering you so much.

[Anonymous]

Thread would be much more helpful with pics, both of OP and the men she is dating.

Recently read this thread on hackernews:

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31961992

"By most cultural standards, according to my male friends, I’m smart, beautiful, fit, kind, emotionally mature and doing meaningful work in the world. Not too needy and not a workaholic"

Reading through the thread, you could see she is not quite the prize she claims to be. But then when you look up the picture, BOOM it becomes even more crystal clear. Her friends are lying to her and people on the internet are delusional.

It's not hard for women to get dates/interest. Even in their 40's.

Commitment and quality of men is the real test.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the hate.

I divorced at 42 after ex blew up the entire family. My 3 teenage kids and I were completely blindsided. I had always been faithful and had always pictured myself being with my ex till the day I die.

I really thought my life was over and had a mental picture of myself alone sitting in a rocking chair with cats around me, because it was what it seemed like what happened with divorced women in the 40s and 50s. I felt like a used dirty kitchen rag. After years of mental abuse and lack of intimacy, I didn't even see myself slightly attractive, forget about feeling sexy at all. I was useless and pointless after breeding 3 awesome children, or that was what the society made me feel.

When I finally started healing and forcing myself to get out there, I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of men I went on dates with. My priority, for now, is my 3 children, as they are the biggest victims in this traumatic divorce, and the man I've been dating for the last 1.5 years understands and respects me for that. I have no desire to blend family and make my life any more complicated.

I don't understand the hate for women in our situation, mocking us like we're just old women with baggage.

I mean, there are "loser" men at any age, right? Or men who just want to have sex?

You sound normal. This woman posting isn't you. She's just going around like the men getting laid and then boasting about it as if it's a plus to her and her men and we should all respect them for their ability to find an F buddy.

You say that like it's a bad thing.

What's good about it for society and for themselves and their partners? Especially when they are seeing married people and lying about their wishes? To me it's a bad thing. For both women and men. It's called slutty behavior.

That might work on a 15 year old insecure school girl, but I quite enjoy being slutty. You should try it sometime. It's very freeing.

No thanks. Already have heard the horror stories and sicknesses from it. Enjoy. Above there was a comment about someone seeing a person who was in an unahappy marriage, so there was a reference to being an affair partner.

Either way, I don't see what the huge boast is about starting this page. You are basically a free prostitute. Whatever. Enjoy your life. I don't look up to you as a woman.

I went through a slutty phase for about six months after my divorce but then I got over it thankfully. I know I’m not the only woman, or man, to do this and I certainly have my regrets but at the time it was liberating. Now I’m in a LTR and life is much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thread would be much more helpful with pics, both of OP and the men she is dating.

Recently read this thread on hackernews:

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31961992

"By most cultural standards, according to my male friends, I’m smart, beautiful, fit, kind, emotionally mature and doing meaningful work in the world. Not too needy and not a workaholic"

Reading through the thread, you could see she is not quite the prize she claims to be. But then when you look up the picture, BOOM it becomes even more crystal clear. Her friends are lying to her and people on the internet are delusional.

It's not hard for women to get dates/interest. Even in their 40's.

Commitment and quality of men is the real test.

What are you talking about?? She’s really cute. Didn’t know YC hosted this kind of drivel though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thread would be much more helpful with pics, both of OP and the men she is dating.

Recently read this thread on hackernews:

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31961992

"By most cultural standards, according to my male friends, I’m smart, beautiful, fit, kind, emotionally mature and doing meaningful work in the world. Not too needy and not a workaholic"

Reading through the thread, you could see she is not quite the prize she claims to be. But then when you look up the picture, BOOM it becomes even more crystal clear. Her friends are lying to her and people on the internet are delusional.

It's not hard for women to get dates/interest. Even in their 40's.

Commitment and quality of men is the real test.

Of course that's assuming she wants commitment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.

Any of them wants to marry you though?

I do not want to get married. I never wanted to. I did in my 30s and it was the biggest mistake. Marriage has no appeal to me. I dumped a guy in my 20s I dated for 6 years because he would not stop talking about getting married and proposed a few times. I am not getting married. A man who wants to marry you is not a prize.

So, you are a mid 40s looking for sex/dinner. No wonder you had a lot of choices. I mean dinner for sex is a fair trade-off for men.

I love when I see posts that are so purposefully obtuse. There is nothing wrong with women just wanting to date, have fun and want to have sex. I also pay for my own dinner.

Is the long-term plan to keep banging younger men into your 60s? Like…what happens after menopause?

I’m 61 and post menopause and my husband and I had sex last night. Yes, lube is required and I get no complaints from him when I put it on him.

TMI grandma.

Do you plan on living past 61? Do you plan to just call yourself grandma/grandpa and give up sex?