Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy

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This is dcum. Everyone here looks ten years younger and makes over 200k

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Anonymous wrote:This just in. Anyone with female organs can find dates and play guys like fools. There are a couple of women at work who fit the whole educated, attractive, DCUM profile and why men with something going for them out up with their games is beyond me.

You know why ...

My DH once told me that if women did not exist, most men will not wake up from bed in the morning.

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NP here - I’m recently divorced and ready to start dating. I’m attractive and in good shape and have been told I have a good personality and sense of humor. But having been married to someone who didn’t love me and wasn’t attracted to me for as long as I was I really have lost touch with how to meet men and how to gauge if someone is interested in me.

OP where are you meeting or finding all these options for dates? If you have a specific website you recommend would you mind sharing it? Thanks!

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Anonymous wrote:NP here - I’m recently divorced and ready to start dating. I’m attractive and in good shape and have been told I have a good personality and sense of humor. But having been married to someone who didn’t love me and wasn’t attracted to me for as long as I was I really have lost touch with how to meet men and how to gauge if someone is interested in me.

OP where are you meeting or finding all these options for dates? If you have a specific website you recommend would you mind sharing it? Thanks!

I agree. It's hard to take this post seriously without more detail as to how.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here - I’m recently divorced and ready to start dating. I’m attractive and in good shape and have been told I have a good personality and sense of humor. But having been married to someone who didn’t love me and wasn’t attracted to me for as long as I was I really have lost touch with how to meet men and how to gauge if someone is interested in me.

OP where are you meeting or finding all these options for dates? If you have a specific website you recommend would you mind sharing it? Thanks!

A recently divorced mid-40s friend of ours started using Bumble and ended up with hundreds (maybe thousands?) of “likes” very quickly. She started casually dating several of them.

If you are indeed reasonably attractive, you’ll be swimming in inquiries. Online dating is a woman’s world. However, you have to be able to comb through to find someone that looks to be a good fit, and even then, people lie/exaggerate as much as possible on these sites.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here - I’m recently divorced and ready to start dating. I’m attractive and in good shape and have been told I have a good personality and sense of humor. But having been married to someone who didn’t love me and wasn’t attracted to me for as long as I was I really have lost touch with how to meet men and how to gauge if someone is interested in me.

OP where are you meeting or finding all these options for dates? If you have a specific website you recommend would you mind sharing it? Thanks!

I agree. It's hard to take this post seriously without more detail as to how.

Bumble. It's not hard.

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Who are all you grannies using the word "lover"? I'm assuming that's all one person?

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

Hahahaha!

Yeah.

So.

OP...this is amazing for you, but you are attractive, look young for your age, make a good salary, and either seem to have a co-parent in the picture to make the kids "not relevant" or be able to afford a babysitter or baby-sitters to do the same.

So, yeah. You have options.

Why is it hard to understand that is not the case for most women in their 40s?

Is it that unusual? A woman with a well paid job is not that unusual anymore. And divorces when both partners are similar earning capacity tend to be easier than when there is an imbalance where one person has very little earning capacity. OP is definitely a catch but I don’t think she is a unicorn

Most of the women I know in their 40s that are divorced do not have jobs, for one thing. They are actively looking for jobs because alimony/child support is not enough to keep them in the sort of lifestyle they want.

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Anonymous wrote:This is dcum. Everyone here looks ten years younger and makes over 200k

I read everything on here with a grain of salt.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

Hahahaha!

Yeah.

So.

OP...this is amazing for you, but you are attractive, look young for your age, make a good salary, and either seem to have a co-parent in the picture to make the kids "not relevant" or be able to afford a babysitter or baby-sitters to do the same.

So, yeah. You have options.

Why is it hard to understand that is not the case for most women in their 40s?

Is it that unusual? A woman with a well paid job is not that unusual anymore. And divorces when both partners are similar earning capacity tend to be easier than when there is an imbalance where one person has very little earning capacity. OP is definitely a catch but I don’t think she is a unicorn

Most of the women I know in their 40s that are divorced do not have jobs, for one thing. They are actively looking for jobs because alimony/child support is not enough to keep them in the sort of lifestyle they want.

I am the OP. I don't know any women who don't have jobs. Different circles, I guess. All mom friends have worked the entire time and all of them were about half the income...including me. There is no alimony or child support. Equal earners or very close to equal (both my friends who are married and divorced).

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

Hahahaha!

Yeah.

So.

OP...this is amazing for you, but you are attractive, look young for your age, make a good salary, and either seem to have a co-parent in the picture to make the kids "not relevant" or be able to afford a babysitter or baby-sitters to do the same.

So, yeah. You have options.

Why is it hard to understand that is not the case for most women in their 40s?

Is it that unusual? A woman with a well paid job is not that unusual anymore. And divorces when both partners are similar earning capacity tend to be easier than when there is an imbalance where one person has very little earning capacity. OP is definitely a catch but I don’t think she is a unicorn

Most of the women I know in their 40s that are divorced do not have jobs, for one thing. They are actively looking for jobs because alimony/child support is not enough to keep them in the sort of lifestyle they want.

I am the OP. I don't know any women who don't have jobs. Different circles, I guess. All mom friends have worked the entire time and all of them were about half the income...including me. There is no alimony or child support. Equal earners or very close to equal (both my friends who are married and divorced).

I don’t know how any single woman with a child can survive in DC without a job and only on alimony/child support. COLA is so high that it weeds out those without stable income out to suburbs very quickly. When I got separated from exH I was SAHM but I quickly secured a job for $65k. It’s not much but I have a $200k side gig/own business and a small CS. My gross income is close to $300k and all women in my circle (NW DC neighborhoods) make about same. Married or not married in mid 40s.

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Anonymous wrote:Hey! Unicorn, Loch Ness Monster, and Bigfoot thread!
Kool!! LOL!!

Oh, you’re a child. Go do your homework.

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Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.

Any of them wants to marry you though?

Once again, that is not the goal for many, many women in their 40s.

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the world are people upset that a woman in her 40s is getting asked out? Such a weird response. Is this the Amish forum?

Man here and I find this battle of the sexes strange too. A lot of bitter divorced people projecting anger on strangers that they have for their exes.

Women crowing about how there are so many lonely single men, hoping to scare men into staying in crap relationships because no one wants to date your pudgy, bald self.

Men crowing about bitter, dry cat women that no one wants to treat seriously but will sleep with and discard.

I am mid-40s and in the dating scene. There are wonderful women out there and I have wonderful single male friends. There is plenty of sex and love to go around!

+1 I got divorced at 40 and am now in a really great relationship at 45. I had a lot of fun dating and met a lot of kind, fun, interesting men my age. I don’t understand the idea that all single men or women are broken or sad or only looking for much younger partners, this is not what I experienced in dating.

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Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.

Any of them wants to marry you though?

Once again, that is not the goal for many, many women in their 40s.

For real. I’m married and in my 30s. I do love DH but if we ever divorced my goal would not be to get remarried. I’m one and done when it comes to marriage thankyouverymuch