Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the hate.

I divorced at 42 after ex blew up the entire family. My 3 teenage kids and I were completely blindsided. I had always been faithful and had always pictured myself being with my ex till the day I die.

I really thought my life was over and had a mental picture of myself alone sitting in a rocking chair with cats around me, because it was what it seemed like what happened with divorced women in the 40s and 50s. I felt like a used dirty kitchen rag. After years of mental abuse and lack of intimacy, I didn't even see myself slightly attractive, forget about feeling sexy at all. I was useless and pointless after breeding 3 awesome children, or that was what the society made me feel.

When I finally started healing and forcing myself to get out there, I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of men I went on dates with. My priority, for now, is my 3 children, as they are the biggest victims in this traumatic divorce, and the man I've been dating for the last 1.5 years understands and respects me for that. I have no desire to blend family and make my life any more complicated.

I don't understand the hate for women in our situation, mocking us like we're just old women with baggage.

I mean, there are "loser" men at any age, right? Or men who just want to have sex?

You sound normal. This woman posting isn't you. She's just going around like the men getting laid and then boasting about it as if it's a plus to her and her men and we should all respect them for their ability to find an F buddy.

I am the OP. I am not having sex. I could but I am not. All I said was I had four men ask me out on Sat. night. I was never boasting about having sex. I was commenting that it is nonsense that people assume women my age can’t get decent male attention. Way to make assumptions!!!

Why OP do you keep pretending you are this same woman? This woman obviously is having sex. She admits it.
No, that's what YOU want the thread to be about. The fact is that there are several women responding (me, and I'm not OP) about having prospects even though we are in our 40s, don't want a lifelong commitment from a man and enjoy sex. You INTERPRETED that from at least my posts that that means I'm having sex with anything that walks and am somehow an unpaid prostitute. You are trying your damnest to vilify anyone who dares to be free of your judgment for the way we choose to live our life.

What?? I am the OP. I said I was asked out by 4 men on Saturday night. I am dating. I am not sleeping with anyone right now. If I am exclusive with someone, I will. I have done the exclusive but not serious situation before.

But you keep responding to my texts when I'm clearly conversing with the woman who is sleeping around.

My bad then, I guess.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

Hahahaha!

Yeah.

So.

OP...this is amazing for you, but you are attractive, look young for your age, make a good salary, and either seem to have a co-parent in the picture to make the kids "not relevant" or be able to afford a babysitter or baby-sitters to do the same.

So, yeah. You have options.

Why is it hard to understand that is not the case for most women in their 40s?

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

Hahahaha!

Yeah.

So.

OP...this is amazing for you, but you are attractive, look young for your age, make a good salary, and either seem to have a co-parent in the picture to make the kids "not relevant" or be able to afford a babysitter or baby-sitters to do the same.

So, yeah. You have options.

Why is it hard to understand that is not the case for most women in their 40s?

Is it that unusual? A woman with a well paid job is not that unusual anymore. And divorces when both partners are similar earning capacity tend to be easier than when there is an imbalance where one person has very little earning capacity. OP is definitely a catch but I don’t think she is a unicorn

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

Hahahaha!

Yeah.

So.

OP...this is amazing for you, but you are attractive, look young for your age, make a good salary, and either seem to have a co-parent in the picture to make the kids "not relevant" or be able to afford a babysitter or baby-sitters to do the same.

So, yeah. You have options.

Why is it hard to understand that is not the case for most women in their 40s?

I would disagree with you. It is the case for most women in their 40s if they are educated and live in this area. I know plenty of women in the same situation. It is probably not the case for women in their 40s TEN years ago...but it is different now than it was in the past. Get with the times.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

Hahahaha!

Yeah.

So.

OP...this is amazing for you, but you are attractive, look young for your age, make a good salary, and either seem to have a co-parent in the picture to make the kids "not relevant" or be able to afford a babysitter or baby-sitters to do the same.

So, yeah. You have options.

Why is it hard to understand that is not the case for most women in their 40s?

Is it that unusual? A woman with a well paid job is not that unusual anymore. And divorces when both partners are similar earning capacity tend to be easier than when there is an imbalance where one person has very little earning capacity. OP is definitely a catch but I don’t think she is a unicorn

+1 OP here. I am not a unicorn. Other women just like me exist. People just get understand it because they are trapped in a time warp. Most of my friends were always equal earners to their husbands or ex-husbands. It is not that rare at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

Hahahaha!

Yeah.

So.

OP...this is amazing for you, but you are attractive, look young for your age, make a good salary, and either seem to have a co-parent in the picture to make the kids "not relevant" or be able to afford a babysitter or baby-sitters to do the same.

So, yeah. You have options.

Why is it hard to understand that is not the case for most women in their 40s?

Is it that unusual? A woman with a well paid job is not that unusual anymore. And divorces when both partners are similar earning capacity tend to be easier than when there is an imbalance where one person has very little earning capacity. OP is definitely a catch but I don’t think she is a unicorn

+1 OP here. I am not a unicorn. Other women just like me exist. People just get understand it because they are trapped in a time warp. Most of my friends were always equal earners to their husbands or ex-husbands. It is not that rare at all.

Typo: People just can't understand it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was very wary about dating at first because you do have to put yourself out there

OMG, how hard and scary for you to only have to dress decently and have mail suitors asks you on dates. How did you ever manage the courage to try this?

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

Hahahaha!

Yeah.

So.

OP...this is amazing for you, but you are attractive, look young for your age, make a good salary, and either seem to have a co-parent in the picture to make the kids "not relevant" or be able to afford a babysitter or baby-sitters to do the same.

So, yeah. You have options.

Why is it hard to understand that is not the case for most women in their 40s?

Is it that unusual? A woman with a well paid job is not that unusual anymore. And divorces when both partners are similar earning capacity tend to be easier than when there is an imbalance where one person has very little earning capacity. OP is definitely a catch but I don’t think she is a unicorn

+1 OP here. I am not a unicorn. Other women just like me exist. People just get understand it because they are trapped in a time warp. Most of my friends were always equal earners to their husbands or ex-husbands. It is not that rare at all.

Sorry, I haven't seen it. Not among college or grad school friends, or among neighbors or co-workers. My ex-wife had 2 PhDs and I still made 50 percent more than she did.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

Hahahaha!

Yeah.

So.

OP...this is amazing for you, but you are attractive, look young for your age, make a good salary, and either seem to have a co-parent in the picture to make the kids "not relevant" or be able to afford a babysitter or baby-sitters to do the same.

So, yeah. You have options.

Why is it hard to understand that is not the case for most women in their 40s?

Is it that unusual? A woman with a well paid job is not that unusual anymore. And divorces when both partners are similar earning capacity tend to be easier than when there is an imbalance where one person has very little earning capacity. OP is definitely a catch but I don’t think she is a unicorn

+1 OP here. I am not a unicorn. Other women just like me exist. People just get understand it because they are trapped in a time warp. Most of my friends were always equal earners to their husbands or ex-husbands. It is not that rare at all.

Sorry, I haven't seen it. Not among college or grad school friends, or among neighbors or co-workers. My ex-wife had 2 PhDs and I still made 50 percent more than she did.

OP here: I have 3 friends who are divorced who are exactly like me. My neighbor paid her ex husband alimony.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

Hahahaha!

Yeah.

So.

OP...this is amazing for you, but you are attractive, look young for your age, make a good salary, and either seem to have a co-parent in the picture to make the kids "not relevant" or be able to afford a babysitter or baby-sitters to do the same.

So, yeah. You have options.

Why is it hard to understand that is not the case for most women in their 40s?

Is it that unusual? A woman with a well paid job is not that unusual anymore. And divorces when both partners are similar earning capacity tend to be easier than when there is an imbalance where one person has very little earning capacity. OP is definitely a catch but I don’t think she is a unicorn

+1 OP here. I am not a unicorn. Other women just like me exist. People just get understand it because they are trapped in a time warp. Most of my friends were always equal earners to their husbands or ex-husbands. It is not that rare at all.

Sorry, I haven't seen it. Not among college or grad school friends, or among neighbors or co-workers. My ex-wife had 2 PhDs and I still made 50 percent more than she did.

DP.

Your statement does not mean much.

So your ex wife makes 100k and you make 150K? You are equal earners.
Your ex wife makes 150K and you make 225K? You are equal earners.
Your ex wife makes 200K and you make 300k? You are equal earners.

You get the jist. None of this women should struggle financially. The children might no longer live in the mansion in Bethesda/McClean, But they are not struggling financially to the point where it will affect their dating options. All else being equal (attractiveness, personality etc), they should have similar dating options to OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

Hahahaha!

Yeah.

So.

OP...this is amazing for you, but you are attractive, look young for your age, make a good salary, and either seem to have a co-parent in the picture to make the kids "not relevant" or be able to afford a babysitter or baby-sitters to do the same.

So, yeah. You have options.

Why is it hard to understand that is not the case for most women in their 40s?

Is it that unusual? A woman with a well paid job is not that unusual anymore. And divorces when both partners are similar earning capacity tend to be easier than when there is an imbalance where one person has very little earning capacity. OP is definitely a catch but I don’t think she is a unicorn

+1 OP here. I am not a unicorn. Other women just like me exist. People just get understand it because they are trapped in a time warp. Most of my friends were always equal earners to their husbands or ex-husbands. It is not that rare at all.

Sorry, I haven't seen it. Not among college or grad school friends, or among neighbors or co-workers. My ex-wife had 2 PhDs and I still made 50 percent more than she did.

OP here: I have 3 friends who are divorced who are exactly like me. My neighbor paid her ex husband alimony.

Thank I have to ask, why are all of you marrying losers?

[Anonymous]

I’m so amused by men deadset on taking women down a notch, I guess to assuage their own inflated egos. What losers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

Hahahaha!

Yeah.

So.

OP...this is amazing for you, but you are attractive, look young for your age, make a good salary, and either seem to have a co-parent in the picture to make the kids "not relevant" or be able to afford a babysitter or baby-sitters to do the same.

So, yeah. You have options.

Why is it hard to understand that is not the case for most women in their 40s?

Is it that unusual? A woman with a well paid job is not that unusual anymore. And divorces when both partners are similar earning capacity tend to be easier than when there is an imbalance where one person has very little earning capacity. OP is definitely a catch but I don’t think she is a unicorn

+1 OP here. I am not a unicorn. Other women just like me exist. People just get understand it because they are trapped in a time warp. Most of my friends were always equal earners to their husbands or ex-husbands. It is not that rare at all.

Sorry, I haven't seen it. Not among college or grad school friends, or among neighbors or co-workers. My ex-wife had 2 PhDs and I still made 50 percent more than she did.

OP here: I have 3 friends who are divorced who are exactly like me. My neighbor paid her ex husband alimony.

In the US, 99 out of ever 100 dollars of alimony paid are paid by men to women. So you and your buddies are clearly statistical abberations.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this was mentioned but I didn't see it...I'm curious to know if OP has children (and if so many how many and how old), what she looks like (height, weight, skin, hair, etc...), and what she does and how much money she makes. And that's assuming these are high value guys....

OP here. I have kids in elementary school but I do not see how that is relevant: dating and kids are separate.
I look younger than my age and have a nice body. I do not know why my salary is relevant but around 175-200 depending on the year.
All men who asked me out for Sat night have graduate degrees (engineer, doctor, lawyer/entrepreneur and tech). None are divorced.

Hahahaha!

Yeah.

So.

OP...this is amazing for you, but you are attractive, look young for your age, make a good salary, and either seem to have a co-parent in the picture to make the kids "not relevant" or be able to afford a babysitter or baby-sitters to do the same.

So, yeah. You have options.

Why is it hard to understand that is not the case for most women in their 40s?

Is it that unusual? A woman with a well paid job is not that unusual anymore. And divorces when both partners are similar earning capacity tend to be easier than when there is an imbalance where one person has very little earning capacity. OP is definitely a catch but I don’t think she is a unicorn

+1 OP here. I am not a unicorn. Other women just like me exist. People just get understand it because they are trapped in a time warp. Most of my friends were always equal earners to their husbands or ex-husbands. It is not that rare at all.

Sorry, I haven't seen it. Not among college or grad school friends, or among neighbors or co-workers. My ex-wife had 2 PhDs and I still made 50 percent more than she did.

OP here: I have 3 friends who are divorced who are exactly like me. My neighbor paid her ex husband alimony.

Thank I have to ask, why are all of you marrying losers?

Some other men are losers and some of the men aren’t. Some men can be great dad and great sons and terrible husbands. Just because somebody’s divorce doesn’t mean their ex is a loser. They could be a loser but not necessarily some people just are not a good match and you can have a terrible marriage with somebody who is a loser for you but not necessarily a loser in general.

[Anonymous]

This just in. Anyone with female organs can find dates and play guys like fools. There are a couple of women at work who fit the whole educated, attractive, DCUM profile and why men with something going for them out up with their games is beyond me.