Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

Never had an STD here so I must be doing something right.

I doubt you test regularly.

I doubt you know shit about how I live my life so there is that.

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Not sure why people think that women over a certain age do not get attention from men. I am 50, and I get plenty of unwanted attention. They're just going to hit on you whether you like it or not, so you have to shut them down immediately. I am straight-up blunt and just tell them I am not interested. They're not stupid enough to push the issue. A woman like me isn't playing. I have a man, and his attention is all I need. Everyone else can just move on. If I have to hurt some feelings, shouldn't be so easily hurt. I do not need or want the validation.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

Of course they have. Since time immemorial, women have been depressed, persecuted, shamed and killed. You’re a miserable woman hater deep down no matter what you tell yourself every morning.

-NP, happily married 43 y.o. woman

WTF? This is a thread about a woman who has sex all around town, sometimes with depressed men in marriages, and somehow you are some married 43 year old woman with nothing to do saying it's better for her to go out and have sex on the sly with your husband rather than being single? The world has gone mad. Why are you on here? Why do you care what any single woman does much less one not having sex with anyone?

No, that's what YOU want the thread to be about. The fact is that there are several women responding (me, and I'm not OP) about having prospects even though we are in our 40s, don't want a lifelong commitment from a man and enjoy sex. You INTERPRETED that from at least my posts that that means I'm having sex with anything that walks and am somehow an unpaid prostitute. You are trying your damnest to vilify anyone who dares to be free of your judgment for the way we choose to live our life.

So here it is for you again, I am 43 F, I don't need or want a lifelong commitment from a man. Maybe that will change at some point, who knows. I have raised my kid, I have a great job, I own my home, I enjoy sex. The fact remains that I can still get quality dates from desirable men. If that's somehow threatening to your way of life, I suggest therapy.

So you are married and have sex? One post you are married. Another single. Whichever. Society and women are not going to care too much about men who are just lonely for sex and nothing more. We all know they need to curb that habit like they need to curb the alcohol and sugar. And because we know so many men just want to hook up, it is assumed that most women can find sex whenever they want it even at age 90. So why start a thread to basically boast what everyone already knows? I'm more impressed that you are able to maintain your weight or afford nice dinners out. "Everyone who says 40s women can't get male interest is crazy" was misinterpreted by you. What people meant was that it was hard to get a good man to settle down with you after age 40 because your looks are lesser than younger women and men that age like to play the field. We have no idea the quality of men for long-term relationships you are going after because you don't stay long enough, so who knows if other women wanting commitment care about these men. They probably don't. At least not with this mentality. You're just boasting about something that isn't a problem to be fixed.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

Of course they have. Since time immemorial, women have been depressed, persecuted, shamed and killed. You’re a miserable woman hater deep down no matter what you tell yourself every morning.

-NP, happily married 43 y.o. woman

WTF? This is a thread about a woman who has sex all around town, sometimes with depressed men in marriages, and somehow you are some married 43 year old woman with nothing to do saying it's better for her to go out and have sex on the sly with your husband rather than being single? The world has gone mad. Why are you on here? Why do you care what any single woman does much less one not having sex with anyone?

No, that's what YOU want the thread to be about. The fact is that there are several women responding (me, and I'm not OP) about having prospects even though we are in our 40s, don't want a lifelong commitment from a man and enjoy sex. You INTERPRETED that from at least my posts that that means I'm having sex with anything that walks and am somehow an unpaid prostitute. You are trying your damnest to vilify anyone who dares to be free of your judgment for the way we choose to live our life.

So here it is for you again, I am 43 F, I don't need or want a lifelong commitment from a man. Maybe that will change at some point, who knows. I have raised my kid, I have a great job, I own my home, I enjoy sex. The fact remains that I can still get quality dates from desirable men. If that's somehow threatening to your way of life, I suggest therapy.

So you are married and have sex? One post you are married. Another single. Whichever. Society and women are not going to care too much about men who are just lonely for sex and nothing more. We all know they need to curb that habit like they need to curb the alcohol and sugar. And because we know so many men just want to hook up, it is assumed that most women can find sex whenever they want it even at age 90. So why start a thread to basically boast what everyone already knows? I'm more impressed that you are able to maintain your weight or afford nice dinners out. "Everyone who says 40s women can't get male interest is crazy" was misinterpreted by you. What people meant was that it was hard to get a good man to settle down with you after age 40 because your looks are lesser than younger women and men that age like to play the field. We have no idea the quality of men for long-term relationships you are going after because you don't stay long enough, so who knows if other women wanting commitment care about these men. They probably don't. At least not with this mentality. You're just boasting about something that isn't a problem to be fixed.

Reading comprehension is not your strong suit. There are several posters here. I am single and never claimed to be married or sleep with married men.

Also, again, I don't want a lifelong commitment from a man. Why do you keep insisting that's the pinnacle of happiness and achievement? I've said that in almost every post and you keep harping on it because you don't have a leg to stand on.

Every one of your posts reeks of contempt for women "women in their 40s are less desirable, don't look as good, etc." THAT is why OP posted. It's simply not true. I'm not looking for a 20 year old guy. Men my age have no objections to the way I look.

If you are a happily married man/woman why are you so threatened by me?

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

Of course they have. Since time immemorial, women have been depressed, persecuted, shamed and killed. You’re a miserable woman hater deep down no matter what you tell yourself every morning.

-NP, happily married 43 y.o. woman

WTF? This is a thread about a woman who has sex all around town, sometimes with depressed men in marriages, and somehow you are some married 43 year old woman with nothing to do saying it's better for her to go out and have sex on the sly with your husband rather than being single? The world has gone mad. Why are you on here? Why do you care what any single woman does much less one not having sex with anyone?

No, that's what YOU want the thread to be about. The fact is that there are several women responding (me, and I'm not OP) about having prospects even though we are in our 40s, don't want a lifelong commitment from a man and enjoy sex. You INTERPRETED that from at least my posts that that means I'm having sex with anything that walks and am somehow an unpaid prostitute. You are trying your damnest to vilify anyone who dares to be free of your judgment for the way we choose to live our life.

So here it is for you again, I am 43 F, I don't need or want a lifelong commitment from a man. Maybe that will change at some point, who knows. I have raised my kid, I have a great job, I own my home, I enjoy sex. The fact remains that I can still get quality dates from desirable men. If that's somehow threatening to your way of life, I suggest therapy.

So you are married and have sex? One post you are married. Another single. Whichever. Society and women are not going to care too much about men who are just lonely for sex and nothing more. We all know they need to curb that habit like they need to curb the alcohol and sugar. And because we know so many men just want to hook up, it is assumed that most women can find sex whenever they want it even at age 90. So why start a thread to basically boast what everyone already knows? I'm more impressed that you are able to maintain your weight or afford nice dinners out. "Everyone who says 40s women can't get male interest is crazy" was misinterpreted by you. What people meant was that it was hard to get a good man to settle down with you after age 40 because your looks are lesser than younger women and men that age like to play the field. We have no idea the quality of men for long-term relationships you are going after because you don't stay long enough, so who knows if other women wanting commitment care about these men. They probably don't. At least not with this mentality. You're just boasting about something that isn't a problem to be fixed.

Reading comprehension is not your strong suit. There are several posters here. I am single and never claimed to be married or sleep with married men.

Also, again, I don't want a lifelong commitment from a man. Why do you keep insisting that's the pinnacle of happiness and achievement? I've said that in almost every post and you keep harping on it because you don't have a leg to stand on.

Every one of your posts reeks of contempt for women "women in their 40s are less desirable, don't look as good, etc." THAT is why OP posted. It's simply not true. I'm not looking for a 20 year old guy. Men my age have no objections to the way I look.

If you are a happily married man/woman why are you so threatened by me?

Well then you clearly responded to a comment without reading the thread from it and pretended to be the person I was responding to. I'm not a man and I don't care about you or your thoughts. You make stupid assumptions. Good bye.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

Of course they have. Since time immemorial, women have been depressed, persecuted, shamed and killed. You’re a miserable woman hater deep down no matter what you tell yourself every morning.

-NP, happily married 43 y.o. woman

WTF? This is a thread about a woman who has sex all around town, sometimes with depressed men in marriages, and somehow you are some married 43 year old woman with nothing to do saying it's better for her to go out and have sex on the sly with your husband rather than being single? The world has gone mad. Why are you on here? Why do you care what any single woman does much less one not having sex with anyone?

No, that's what YOU want the thread to be about. The fact is that there are several women responding (me, and I'm not OP) about having prospects even though we are in our 40s, don't want a lifelong commitment from a man and enjoy sex. You INTERPRETED that from at least my posts that that means I'm having sex with anything that walks and am somehow an unpaid prostitute. You are trying your damnest to vilify anyone who dares to be free of your judgment for the way we choose to live our life.

So here it is for you again, I am 43 F, I don't need or want a lifelong commitment from a man. Maybe that will change at some point, who knows. I have raised my kid, I have a great job, I own my home, I enjoy sex. The fact remains that I can still get quality dates from desirable men. If that's somehow threatening to your way of life, I suggest therapy.

I think you sound great and I bet you're pretty happy.
Don't listen to Prudence.

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I'm fine being called Prudence. It's a positive trait.

[Anonymous]

Wow, lots of defensive women on this thread who aren't sure if being married is the right choice after all. Leave the single women alone, harpies.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

Of course they have. Since time immemorial, women have been depressed, persecuted, shamed and killed. You’re a miserable woman hater deep down no matter what you tell yourself every morning.

-NP, happily married 43 y.o. woman

WTF? This is a thread about a woman who has sex all around town, sometimes with depressed men in marriages, and somehow you are some married 43 year old woman with nothing to do saying it's better for her to go out and have sex on the sly with your husband rather than being single? The world has gone mad. Why are you on here? Why do you care what any single woman does much less one not having sex with anyone?

I wrote I was an Np (new poster). You’ve been talking to the single 43f. I agree with her that you’re off your rocker.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

Of course they have. Since time immemorial, women have been depressed, persecuted, shamed and killed. You’re a miserable woman hater deep down no matter what you tell yourself every morning.

-NP, happily married 43 y.o. woman

WTF? This is a thread about a woman who has sex all around town, sometimes with depressed men in marriages, and somehow you are some married 43 year old woman with nothing to do saying it's better for her to go out and have sex on the sly with your husband rather than being single? The world has gone mad. Why are you on here? Why do you care what any single woman does much less one not having sex with anyone?

I wrote I was an Np (new poster). You’ve been talking to the single 43f. I agree with her that you’re off your rocker.

When I was happily married, I was not on this forum at all. Not once. I doubt you are really a happily married woman. Why this thread would interest you is beyond me.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

Of course they have. Since time immemorial, women have been depressed, persecuted, shamed and killed. You’re a miserable woman hater deep down no matter what you tell yourself every morning.

-NP, happily married 43 y.o. woman

WTF? This is a thread about a woman who has sex all around town, sometimes with depressed men in marriages, and somehow you are some married 43 year old woman with nothing to do saying it's better for her to go out and have sex on the sly with your husband rather than being single? The world has gone mad. Why are you on here? Why do you care what any single woman does much less one not having sex with anyone?

I wrote I was an Np (new poster). You’ve been talking to the single 43f. I agree with her that you’re off your rocker.

When I was happily married, I was not on this forum at all. Not once. I doubt you are really a happily married woman. Why this thread would interest you is beyond me.

Wait, so women on DCUM are now unhappy single sluts? What are you doing here, PP?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the hate.

I divorced at 42 after ex blew up the entire family. My 3 teenage kids and I were completely blindsided. I had always been faithful and had always pictured myself being with my ex till the day I die.

I really thought my life was over and had a mental picture of myself alone sitting in a rocking chair with cats around me, because it was what it seemed like what happened with divorced women in the 40s and 50s. I felt like a used dirty kitchen rag. After years of mental abuse and lack of intimacy, I didn't even see myself slightly attractive, forget about feeling sexy at all. I was useless and pointless after breeding 3 awesome children, or that was what the society made me feel.

When I finally started healing and forcing myself to get out there, I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of men I went on dates with. My priority, for now, is my 3 children, as they are the biggest victims in this traumatic divorce, and the man I've been dating for the last 1.5 years understands and respects me for that. I have no desire to blend family and make my life any more complicated.

I don't understand the hate for women in our situation, mocking us like we're just old women with baggage.

I mean, there are "loser" men at any age, right? Or men who just want to have sex?

We have very similar stories! I’m 5 years out and just now in my first real relationship- he’s 5 years younger than me at 42.

This forum is really really unkind to single moms- even the ones like us who do everything “right” in keeping new partners from our kids and working hard to not blend families, and to focus first and foremost on doin go right by our kids. It’s hurtful.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

Of course they have. Since time immemorial, women have been depressed, persecuted, shamed and killed. You’re a miserable woman hater deep down no matter what you tell yourself every morning.

-NP, happily married 43 y.o. woman

WTF? This is a thread about a woman who has sex all around town, sometimes with depressed men in marriages, and somehow you are some married 43 year old woman with nothing to do saying it's better for her to go out and have sex on the sly with your husband rather than being single? The world has gone mad. Why are you on here? Why do you care what any single woman does much less one not having sex with anyone?

I wrote I was an Np (new poster). You’ve been talking to the single 43f. I agree with her that you’re off your rocker.

When I was happily married, I was not on this forum at all. Not once. I doubt you are really a happily married woman. Why this thread would interest you is beyond me.

Wait, so women on DCUM are now unhappy single sluts? What are you doing here, PP?

Not sure exactly. I came on here because it was in response to the lonely men thread. I started coming here when I went through a divorce but always participated in other forums. Though there might be some normal people on here over 40 divorced, healthy, not sex crazed or anti-sex, and having a healthy respect for their own sex and the other. Disappointed. Should probably stick to other forums.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

This is true. You could have 50 lovers if you don't care about commitment or exclusivity

Except that none of them love her, and quite a few don't respect or like her.

Precisely. I don’t know how women can count having multiple men without love and certainly without respect as a win. Literally any toothless hobo with a wet hole can get that. Unnattached male sexual attention is the cheapest, most abundant resource in the world.

I know this might blow your mind, but it's because that kind of attention serves a purpose at a time in our lives when we don't want anything more.

Well you might get an std or you could just go to therapy.

I could suggest the same to you. Sexual repression is not healthy.

No one has gotten sick or died from it.

ha.. tell that to men who claim they need sex

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the hate.

I divorced at 42 after ex blew up the entire family. My 3 teenage kids and I were completely blindsided. I had always been faithful and had always pictured myself being with my ex till the day I die.

I really thought my life was over and had a mental picture of myself alone sitting in a rocking chair with cats around me, because it was what it seemed like what happened with divorced women in the 40s and 50s. I felt like a used dirty kitchen rag. After years of mental abuse and lack of intimacy, I didn't even see myself slightly attractive, forget about feeling sexy at all. I was useless and pointless after breeding 3 awesome children, or that was what the society made me feel.

When I finally started healing and forcing myself to get out there, I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of men I went on dates with. My priority, for now, is my 3 children, as they are the biggest victims in this traumatic divorce, and the man I've been dating for the last 1.5 years understands and respects me for that. I have no desire to blend family and make my life any more complicated.

I don't understand the hate for women in our situation, mocking us like we're just old women with baggage.

I mean, there are "loser" men at any age, right? Or men who just want to have sex?

You sound normal. This woman posting isn't you. She's just going around like the men getting laid and then boasting about it as if it's a plus to her and her men and we should all respect them for their ability to find an F buddy.

I am the OP. I am not having sex. I could but I am not. All I said was I had four men ask me out on Sat. night. I was never boasting about having sex. I was commenting that it is nonsense that people assume women my age can’t get decent male attention. Way to make assumptions!!!