Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait and see if they ghost you after you have sex before you feel too triumphant.

OP here. I have not had men ghost me after I have sex. This has been true since I divorced and true in my 20s. It literally has never happened to me. Not concerned. Most men want a relationship…opposite of ghosting. I am also not one to have sex right away.

OP how long do you wait to ensure that they don't want to hit and run?

There are a lot of middle age divorced men that just want to get laid, probably serial cheaters during their marriages, now they are off the chain. There are also a lot of younger guys (20's-30's) that pursue women in their 40's because they think they are super horny, seasoned and no commitment type of older women. Keep your eyes open OP.

I am the one who has been divorced a few years. I know. I don’t need a warning. Also, I don’t date divorced men. I don’t need to. Never married men are available. I date late 30s. I am never remarrying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.

Any of them wants to marry you though?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait and see if they ghost you after you have sex before you feel too triumphant.

OP here. I have not had men ghost me after I have sex. This has been true since I divorced and true in my 20s. It literally has never happened to me. Not concerned. Most men want a relationship…opposite of ghosting. I am also not one to have sex right away.

OP how long do you wait to ensure that they don't want to hit and run?

There are a lot of middle age divorced men that just want to get laid, probably serial cheaters during their marriages, now they are off the chain. There are also a lot of younger guys (20's-30's) that pursue women in their 40's because they think they are super horny, seasoned and no commitment type of older women. Keep your eyes open OP.

I am the one who has been divorced a few years. I know. I don’t need a warning. Also, I don’t date divorced men. I don’t need to. Never married men are available. I date late 30s. I am never remarrying.

Be careful with those perpetual bachelors. There is a reason that they are single. Check their background, they may be lying about not being married or they have been in jail for a decade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait and see if they ghost you after you have sex before you feel too triumphant.

OP here. I have not had men ghost me after I have sex. This has been true since I divorced and true in my 20s. It literally has never happened to me. Not concerned. Most men want a relationship…opposite of ghosting. I am also not one to have sex right away.

OP how long do you wait to ensure that they don't want to hit and run?

There are a lot of middle age divorced men that just want to get laid, probably serial cheaters during their marriages, now they are off the chain. There are also a lot of younger guys (20's-30's) that pursue women in their 40's because they think they are super horny, seasoned and no commitment type of older women. Keep your eyes open OP.

I am the one who has been divorced a few years. I know. I don’t need a warning. Also, I don’t date divorced men. I don’t need to. Never married men are available. I date late 30s. I am never remarrying.

Be careful with those perpetual bachelors. There is a reason that they are single. Check their background, they may be lying about not being married or they have been in jail for a decade.

Sigh... Men cannot win.

[Anonymous]

The single one do seem to be losers. It comes out after a few drinks at the bar. I got one who's marriage was in trouble way before we met. They even separated for a year. I will give him plenty of space because I need my space. He is 3 years younger and sex is great.

[Anonymous]

I am 54 and married and I get interest from men. Mostly fat old men, but they definitely show interest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait and see if they ghost you after you have sex before you feel too triumphant.

OP here. I have not had men ghost me after I have sex. This has been true since I divorced and true in my 20s. It literally has never happened to me. Not concerned. Most men want a relationship…opposite of ghosting. I am also not one to have sex right away.

OP how long do you wait to ensure that they don't want to hit and run?

There are a lot of middle age divorced men that just want to get laid, probably serial cheaters during their marriages, now they are off the chain. There are also a lot of younger guys (20's-30's) that pursue women in their 40's because they think they are super horny, seasoned and no commitment type of older women. Keep your eyes open OP.

I am the one who has been divorced a few years. I know. I don’t need a warning. Also, I don’t date divorced men. I don’t need to. Never married men are available. I date late 30s. I am never remarrying.

Be careful with those perpetual bachelors. There is a reason that they are single. Check their background, they may be lying about not being married or they have been in jail for a decade.

This.
They are emotionally defunct / pedos / mommies boys / horrible individuals you'll run a mile from

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.

Any of them wants to marry you though?

I do not want to get married. I never wanted to. I did in my 30s and it was the biggest mistake. Marriage has no appeal to me. I dumped a guy in my 20s I dated for 6 years because he would not stop talking about getting married and proposed a few times. I am not getting married. A man who wants to marry you is not a prize.

[Anonymous]

Why aren’t you interested in any of the guys?

[Anonymous]

I'm a 43 F and have no problem dating. I don't want marriage (been there done that). I don't want any more kids (mine is almost grown and I'm done raising kids). Hell I don't even want a relationship with a man who has very young kids. I don't see me struggling to find dates now or in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait and see if they ghost you after you have sex before you feel too triumphant.

OP here. I have not had men ghost me after I have sex. This has been true since I divorced and true in my 20s. It literally has never happened to me. Not concerned. Most men want a relationship…opposite of ghosting. I am also not one to have sex right away.

OP how long do you wait to ensure that they don't want to hit and run?

There are a lot of middle age divorced men that just want to get laid, probably serial cheaters during their marriages, now they are off the chain. There are also a lot of younger guys (20's-30's) that pursue women in their 40's because they think they are super horny, seasoned and no commitment type of older women. Keep your eyes open OP.

I am the one who has been divorced a few years. I know. I don’t need a warning. Also, I don’t date divorced men. I don’t need to. Never married men are available. I date late 30s. I am never remarrying.

Be careful with those perpetual bachelors. There is a reason that they are single. Check their background, they may be lying about not being married or they have been in jail for a decade.

That is nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.

Any of them wants to marry you though?

I do not want to get married. I never wanted to. I did in my 30s and it was the biggest mistake. Marriage has no appeal to me. I dumped a guy in my 20s I dated for 6 years because he would not stop talking about getting married and proposed a few times. I am not getting married. A man who wants to marry you is not a prize.

This all may be true but you speak about the guy you dated in your 20s as if he is a pathetic loser you “dumped” because he wanted to marry after a six year relationship. His expectations were not unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you interested in any of the guys?

They are always more interested than I am. I do not have the capacity for a relationship. I don’t have time. It is too much to deal with. The point if that if I wanted one, I am sharing that I can find it. I look younger, which probably helps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.

Any of them wants to marry you though?

I do not want to get married. I never wanted to. I did in my 30s and it was the biggest mistake. Marriage has no appeal to me. I dumped a guy in my 20s I dated for 6 years because he would not stop talking about getting married and proposed a few times. I am not getting married. A man who wants to marry you is not a prize.

This all may be true but you speak about the guy you dated in your 20s as if he is a pathetic loser you “dumped” because he wanted to marry after a six year relationship. His expectations were not unreasonable.

He was not a loser. I never said that. I did not want to get married and in my 20s, that was not an unreasonable position to have. Too young. He was the best relationship I had but I am still glad we did not get married. Marriage is not for me. I see no benefit and only drawbacks. I did it and hated it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 43 F and have no problem dating. I don't want marriage (been there done that). I don't want any more kids (mine is almost grown and I'm done raising kids). Hell I don't even want a relationship with a man who has very young kids. I don't see me struggling to find dates now or in the future.

Exactly! I do not know why people can’t wrap their heads around this (OP here).