Had 4 date options on Sat in my mid 40s. Everyone who says 40swomen can't get male interest is crazy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one is saying that.

The difficulty is for those men and women who seek long-term partners, marriage and perhaps children, in their 40s. That is a much more challenging proposition.

You are unbelievably stupid if you confuse the two.

+1 read the thread about lonely young men.

It's easy for women, even 40s women to find a man who wants to have sex with them. Trying to find someone great to have a LTR, maybe kids/marriage, that's a lot harder.

I'm mid-50s and have dated so many women who wasted their 40s trying to get commitment out of men. Relationships last 2-6 years, then dead-end, then get repeated. Plenty of those women are permanently broken because of their experiences.

[Anonymous]

I think it's more about the quality than the quantity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one is saying that.

The difficulty is for those men and women who seek long-term partners, marriage and perhaps children, in their 40s. That is a much more challenging proposition.

You are unbelievably stupid if you confuse the two.

+1 read the thread about lonely young men.

It's easy for women, even 40s women to find a man who wants to have sex with them. Trying to find someone great to have a LTR, maybe kids/marriage, that's a lot harder.

I am not interested in marriage. I am divorced. People always act like divorced women would be lepers in the dating pool…just not true. I have had men want a serious relationship…I don’t want one. I like long term FWB. Not interested in a serious relationship. No man is never meeting my kids. My post was about sheer attraction to 40s women because people assume that can’t get men for anything. Has nothing to do with marriage or kids at this age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's more about the quality than the quantity.

The quality is excellent. I only date educated and successful men.

[Anonymous]

Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one is saying that.

The difficulty is for those men and women who seek long-term partners, marriage and perhaps children, in their 40s. That is a much more challenging proposition.

You are unbelievably stupid if you confuse the two.

+1 read the thread about lonely young men.

It's easy for women, even 40s women to find a man who wants to have sex with them. Trying to find someone great to have a LTR, maybe kids/marriage, that's a lot harder.

I am not interested in marriage. I am divorced. People always act like divorced women would be lepers in the dating pool…just not true. I have had men want a serious relationship…I don’t want one. I like long term FWB. Not interested in a serious relationship. No man is never meeting my kids. My post was about sheer attraction to 40s women because people assume that can’t get men for anything. Has nothing to do with marriage or kids at this age.

Great. It's all in your head that this was ever an issue. Most women don't want to be you and in fact have to compete with people like you even though we want different things so I really could care less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait and see if they ghost you after you have sex before you feel too triumphant.

Maybe she wants to bang and ghost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one is saying that.

The difficulty is for those men and women who seek long-term partners, marriage and perhaps children, in their 40s. That is a much more challenging proposition.

You are unbelievably stupid if you confuse the two.

+1 read the thread about lonely young men.

It's easy for women, even 40s women to find a man who wants to have sex with them. Trying to find someone great to have a LTR, maybe kids/marriage, that's a lot harder.

I am not interested in marriage. I am divorced. People always act like divorced women would be lepers in the dating pool…just not true. I have had men want a serious relationship…I don’t want one. I like long term FWB. Not interested in a serious relationship. No man is never meeting my kids. My post was about sheer attraction to 40s women because people assume that can’t get men for anything. Has nothing to do with marriage or kids at this age.

Great. It's all in your head that this was ever an issue. Most women don't want to be you and in fact have to compete with people like you even though we want different things so I really could care less.

DP. It's "couldn't care less," unless you mean to say it bothers you. Though if you meant what you said about "in fact have to compete with people like you," I suppose I can see why you would be bothered by it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one is saying that.

The difficulty is for those men and women who seek long-term partners, marriage and perhaps children, in their 40s. That is a much more challenging proposition.

You are unbelievably stupid if you confuse the two.

You say that like you think it’s a common or default goal for people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's more about the quality than the quantity.

The quality is excellent. I only date educated and successful men.

Because none of them could be aholes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.

Lol. The irony is delicious.

What does it matter if you get attention from men you have no interest in? Is attention the end in itself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40’s/50’s want to play the field and hook up. They’re fine with hooking up with 40’s women

+1 if you’re a woman and also looking for hookups/FWB, it’s great! If you’re looking for a long term exclusive relationship leading to marriage, not so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait and see if they ghost you after you have sex before you feel too triumphant.

OP here. I have not had men ghost me after I have sex. This has been true since I divorced and true in my 20s. It literally has never happened to me. Not concerned. Most men want a relationship…opposite of ghosting. I am also not one to have sex right away.

OP how long do you wait to ensure that they don't want to hit and run?

There are a lot of middle age divorced men that just want to get laid, probably serial cheaters during their marriages, now they are off the chain. There are also a lot of younger guys (20's-30's) that pursue women in their 40's because they think they are super horny, seasoned and no commitment type of older women. Keep your eyes open OP.

[Anonymous]

Women in their mid-40’s are great. They’re not dealing with toddlers, many are very fit and in good shape, and they still love sex especially if they came out of a sexless marriage. LTR’s are in the future after they become empty nesters but they really enjoy male companionship. Women in their 30’s may be hotter but they can be far too busy with young kids to make it worth the effort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am just saying. I am just commenting to try to dispel the myth that a woman would not get interest from men if they are divorced and over 40. It is just not true. And the men are not losers. (I am still not really interested though). I just wanted to share this info because everyone assumes it is hard for women later...and it is very far from the truth. It is not 20 years ago, and I think many people have not caught up to the way things are now.

Lol. The irony is delicious.

What does it matter if you get attention from men you have no interest in? Is attention the end in itself?

I did not say I did not have interest. I said that they are not losers because that is what people would assume.