Can someone explain the mindset of a cheater?

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Anonymous wrote:^^what's expensive sex? Like it or not, you will risk loosing your marriage anytime you don't consider your spouse's needs. Its a gamble that most take.

Sex is what differentiates roommates from a marital relationship.--a woman.

You are missing the point that many male cheaters have a healthy sex life at home. They have mental issues like narcissism, alcohol, addiction and/or childhood trauma.

And, yes, those guys risk losing everything by not taking their spouse’s health, safety, and needs into consideration.

Monogamy isn't an natural construct. Its a cultural one intended to support raising children and securing lineage. Because someone cheats doesn't mean they suffer from some substance/psychological issue. They're probably just bored off their ass and tired of starfish sex.

+1. Or the marriage is not great anyway and they are only staying for kids/finances and are already emotionally checked out. I think it is actually the rarity that they suffer from substance or psychological issues. Often, they are bored, emotionally checked out or their needs are not being met at home emotionally or sexually. I hate how people assume there must be other issues...it is because they don't want to be believe that they (the non-cheating spouse) could never be part of the problem of why they would seek needs elsewhere. The alternative is divorce. Some people do not want a divorce for various reasons.

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Marriages are lasting longer than ever because of longevity. Staying married to the same person for 60+ years is a tall order for most normal humans.

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Anonymous wrote:^^what's expensive sex? Like it or not, you will risk loosing your marriage anytime you don't consider your spouse's needs. Its a gamble that most take.

Sex is what differentiates roommates from a marital relationship.--a woman.

You are missing the point that many male cheaters have a healthy sex life at home. They have mental issues like narcissism, alcohol, addiction and/or childhood trauma.

And, yes, those guys risk losing everything by not taking their spouse’s health, safety, and needs into consideration.

That’s an absurd statement. Very few married men (irrespective of cheating status) have a healthy sex life at home. So if you limit yourself to the small fraction of men who DO (have a healthy sex life at home) on what basis would you think these few men cheat in measurable numbers?

THAT's an absurd statement. All studies say that married men get it more regularly than single men. Do you have anything other than anecdotal evidence?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^^what's expensive sex? Like it or not, you will risk loosing your marriage anytime you don't consider your spouse's needs. Its a gamble that most take.

Sex is what differentiates roommates from a marital relationship.--a woman.

You are missing the point that many male cheaters have a healthy sex life at home. They have mental issues like narcissism, alcohol, addiction and/or childhood trauma.

And, yes, those guys risk losing everything by not taking their spouse’s health, safety, and needs into consideration.

Monogamy isn't an natural construct. Its a cultural one intended to support raising children and securing lineage. Because someone cheats doesn't mean they suffer from some substance/psychological issue. They're probably just bored off their ass and tired of starfish sex.

+1. Or the marriage is not great anyway and they are only staying for kids/finances and are already emotionally checked out. I think it is actually the rarity that they suffer from substance or psychological issues. Often, they are bored, emotionally checked out or their needs are not being met at home emotionally or sexually. I hate how people assume there must be other issues...it is because they don't want to be believe that they (the non-cheating spouse) could never be part of the problem of why they would seek needs elsewhere. The alternative is divorce. Some people do not want a divorce for various reasons.

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Marriages are lasting longer than ever because of longevity. Staying married to the same person for 60+ years is a tall order for most normal humans.

I think it can work for those who can see long term benefits. It's always the same answer: who can see the future and then be patient to work through the today to get to the goals wins (there have been some experiments with young kids that has shown that). There are benefits to you later in life and also to the next generation in staying together. Your happiness is on you and that is the realization that is a game changer. Some of that is also lifecycles when happiness dips at some times and then goes up again over time. Happiness typically rises over time anyway (after mid life) and so would you have become happier with time anyway if you hadn't divorced? Just a different viewpoint to consider.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^^what's expensive sex? Like it or not, you will risk loosing your marriage anytime you don't consider your spouse's needs. Its a gamble that most take.

Sex is what differentiates roommates from a marital relationship.--a woman.

You are missing the point that many male cheaters have a healthy sex life at home. They have mental issues like narcissism, alcohol, addiction and/or childhood trauma.

And, yes, those guys risk losing everything by not taking their spouse’s health, safety, and needs into consideration.

That’s an absurd statement. Very few married men (irrespective of cheating status) have a healthy sex life at home. So if you limit yourself to the small fraction of men who DO (have a healthy sex life at home) on what basis would you think these few men cheat in measurable numbers?

THAT's an absurd statement. All studies say that married men get it more regularly than single men. Do you have anything other than anecdotal evidence?

NP here, that's a useless statement. At what point in a marriage? First couple years? Sure. Ages 45 and up? No way, half of marriages are having sex once a month or less by age 50. That's the age - mid life - when the affairs start happening.

I don't disagree that it's a chicken and egg question of whether the sex died and then the connection, or vice versa.

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Anonymous wrote:After reading all these posts, I feel like the people who aren't having sex by their own choice can never be happy for those who are having sex. Those who have taken an AP are braggi g a bit, happy to be getti g it again while rubbing it in the face of those who wish them to be celibite. It's like we live in two different worlds. A sex less world and one with sex. Drag someone into a world where they don't belong and they will scheme to escape to the other world.

Not really. I don't think the first part of this is true in that people not having sex can never be happy for those who are. First, don't assume that people who object to cheating don't have sex. That would be an incorrect assumption for sure. Second, many cheaters are having sex with their spouses and so cheaters don't just cheat for no-sex situation at home. Finally, even if it is a no-sex situation, there are other ways of dealing with it. Not sure it's 2 different worlds either.

When one makes excuses to live a double life of cheating and lying to their family that person is solely to blame.

Get counseling, or get divorced and have all the sex you want. That's what the majority are trying to convey to you. Sadly, you are trying to spin it completely wrong to validate your bad and sick behavior.

Thanks but, I'm already having all the sex I want without having to go through all that.

But you can go and date a lot of women if you're divorced. Also, you'll have plenty of time to date if you divorce since you'll have kids o only half the time. Also, you would be doing the right thing as well. Just move on. Don't you have any sense of right and wrong? Do you ever want to do the right thing or do you do it only when it can make you look bad otherwise?

Thanks for your concern. I like my current arrangement. I'm not looking to date a bunch of women. Just have regular sex with one. My W would be my first choice but she has chosen another path for us as far as sex goes. I have no desire to divorce her and I'm not "visiting" my children every other week. This arrangement that you see as sick behavior keeps our family and my marriage together.

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Anonymous wrote:After reading all these posts, I feel like the people who aren't having sex by their own choice can never be happy for those who are having sex. Those who have taken an AP are braggi g a bit, happy to be getti g it again while rubbing it in the face of those who wish them to be celibite. It's like we live in two different worlds. A sex less world and one with sex. Drag someone into a world where they don't belong and they will scheme to escape to the other world.

Not really. I don't think the first part of this is true in that people not having sex can never be happy for those who are. First, don't assume that people who object to cheating don't have sex. That would be an incorrect assumption for sure. Second, many cheaters are having sex with their spouses and so cheaters don't just cheat for no-sex situation at home. Finally, even if it is a no-sex situation, there are other ways of dealing with it. Not sure it's 2 different worlds either.

When one makes excuses to live a double life of cheating and lying to their family that person is solely to blame.

Get counseling, or get divorced and have all the sex you want. That's what the majority are trying to convey to you. Sadly, you are trying to spin it completely wrong to validate your bad and sick behavior.

Thanks but, I'm already having all the sex I want without having to go through all that.

But you can go and date a lot of women if you're divorced. Also, you'll have plenty of time to date if you divorce since you'll have kids o only half the time. Also, you would be doing the right thing as well. Just move on. Don't you have any sense of right and wrong? Do you ever want to do the right thing or do you do it only when it can make you look bad otherwise?

Thanks for your concern. I like my current arrangement. I'm not looking to date a bunch of women. Just have regular sex with one. My W would be my first choice but she has chosen another path for us as far as sex goes. I have no desire to divorce her and I'm not "visiting" my children every other week. This arrangement that you see as sick behavior keeps our family and my marriage together.

Your response is only about you and your convenience. Your wants and your happiness is all that counts. Are you going to make sure that you won't divorce your wife later in life and keep her happy otherwise all the time, even after your kids leave home? Are you going to be sure you won't have the "feels" for anyone else? If so, more power to you. Otherwise, you are cheating your wife out of her future. Go have all the sex you want after divorce if you don't want to date anyone else. Let your wife seek her future as well since you are already taking care of your now and future. You are selfish, not altruistic.

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Anonymous wrote:After reading all these posts, I feel like the people who aren't having sex by their own choice can never be happy for those who are having sex. Those who have taken an AP are braggi g a bit, happy to be getti g it again while rubbing it in the face of those who wish them to be celibite. It's like we live in two different worlds. A sex less world and one with sex. Drag someone into a world where they don't belong and they will scheme to escape to the other world.

Not really. I don't think the first part of this is true in that people not having sex can never be happy for those who are. First, don't assume that people who object to cheating don't have sex. That would be an incorrect assumption for sure. Second, many cheaters are having sex with their spouses and so cheaters don't just cheat for no-sex situation at home. Finally, even if it is a no-sex situation, there are other ways of dealing with it. Not sure it's 2 different worlds either.

When one makes excuses to live a double life of cheating and lying to their family that person is solely to blame.

Get counseling, or get divorced and have all the sex you want. That's what the majority are trying to convey to you. Sadly, you are trying to spin it completely wrong to validate your bad and sick behavior.

Thanks but, I'm already having all the sex I want without having to go through all that.

But you can go and date a lot of women if you're divorced. Also, you'll have plenty of time to date if you divorce since you'll have kids o only half the time. Also, you would be doing the right thing as well. Just move on. Don't you have any sense of right and wrong? Do you ever want to do the right thing or do you do it only when it can make you look bad otherwise?

Thanks for your concern. I like my current arrangement. I'm not looking to date a bunch of women. Just have regular sex with one. My W would be my first choice but she has chosen another path for us as far as sex goes. I have no desire to divorce her and I'm not "visiting" my children every other week. This arrangement that you see as sick behavior keeps our family and my marriage together.

Your response is only about you and your convenience. Your wants and your happiness is all that counts. Are you going to make sure that you won't divorce your wife later in life and keep her happy otherwise all the time, even after your kids leave home? Are you going to be sure you won't have the "feels" for anyone else? If so, more power to you. Otherwise, you are cheating your wife out of her future. Go have all the sex you want after divorce if you don't want to date anyone else. Let your wife seek her future as well since you are already taking care of your now and future. You are selfish, not altruistic.

If you're looking for an argument, I don' have one to give. I never said I am altruistic. My cheating is only about me and my desire to have sex. It has nothing to do with her except that she started this ball rolling by completely closing the door to sex. That is all about her just as this is all about me. My wants and happiness is not all that counts. I do what I can to keep her happy and by most every measure, she is happy. And she is very happy to never have sex again and to not have me make an issue of it anymore. Maybe she will come around some day and we can resume. I'm not counting on it but I'll be ready if it happens. The same if she even brings it up and says she wants to work on it. I'll stop cheating immediately and help work it out. There are zero signs of that happening but the door is always open. I'd still rather have sex with my wife than anyone else. Even half as much as I'm getting now.
I'm not cheating her out of her future. She chooses a future that includes a sexless marriage and I'm dealing with that in my own way. I'm not cheating her out of anything in the present that she wants.

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If you're looking for an argument, I don' have one to give. I never said I am altruistic. My cheating is only about me and my desire to have sex. It has nothing to do with her except that she started this ball rolling by completely closing the door to sex. That is all about her just as this is all about me. My wants and happiness is not all that counts. I do what I can to keep her happy and by most every measure, she is happy. And she is very happy to never have sex again and to not have me make an issue of it anymore. Maybe she will come around some day and we can resume. I'm not counting on it but I'll be ready if it happens. The same if she even brings it up and says she wants to work on it. I'll stop cheating immediately and help work it out. There are zero signs of that happening but the door is always open. I'd still rather have sex with my wife than anyone else. Even half as much as I'm getting now.
I'm not cheating her out of her future. She chooses a future that includes a sexless marriage and I'm dealing with that in my own way. I'm not cheating her out of anything in the present that she wants.

Bluntly, you are a selfish, narcissistic axxhole. Men like you remind me how grateful I am to have a husband who is truly a good person with integrity as a partner and parent to my kids. The bottom line is you have a massive character defect and that's all on you and has nothing to do with your wife or how much sex she is interested in having with you. You are not a good partner or even parent, of course she has no interest in sleeping with you. That's a result of your character defect, not the cause of it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After reading all these posts, I feel like the people who aren't having sex by their own choice can never be happy for those who are having sex. Those who have taken an AP are braggi g a bit, happy to be getti g it again while rubbing it in the face of those who wish them to be celibite. It's like we live in two different worlds. A sex less world and one with sex. Drag someone into a world where they don't belong and they will scheme to escape to the other world.

Not really. I don't think the first part of this is true in that people not having sex can never be happy for those who are. First, don't assume that people who object to cheating don't have sex. That would be an incorrect assumption for sure. Second, many cheaters are having sex with their spouses and so cheaters don't just cheat for no-sex situation at home. Finally, even if it is a no-sex situation, there are other ways of dealing with it. Not sure it's 2 different worlds either.

When one makes excuses to live a double life of cheating and lying to their family that person is solely to blame.

Get counseling, or get divorced and have all the sex you want. That's what the majority are trying to convey to you. Sadly, you are trying to spin it completely wrong to validate your bad and sick behavior.

Thanks but, I'm already having all the sex I want without having to go through all that.

But you can go and date a lot of women if you're divorced. Also, you'll have plenty of time to date if you divorce since you'll have kids o only half the time. Also, you would be doing the right thing as well. Just move on. Don't you have any sense of right and wrong? Do you ever want to do the right thing or do you do it only when it can make you look bad otherwise?

Thanks for your concern. I like my current arrangement. I'm not looking to date a bunch of women. Just have regular sex with one. My W would be my first choice but she has chosen another path for us as far as sex goes. I have no desire to divorce her and I'm not "visiting" my children every other week. This arrangement that you see as sick behavior keeps our family and my marriage together.

Your response is only about you and your convenience. Your wants and your happiness is all that counts. Are you going to make sure that you won't divorce your wife later in life and keep her happy otherwise all the time, even after your kids leave home? Are you going to be sure you won't have the "feels" for anyone else? If so, more power to you. Otherwise, you are cheating your wife out of her future. Go have all the sex you want after divorce if you don't want to date anyone else. Let your wife seek her future as well since you are already taking care of your now and future. You are selfish, not altruistic.

If you're looking for an argument, I don' have one to give. I never said I am altruistic. My cheating is only about me and my desire to have sex. It has nothing to do with her except that she started this ball rolling by completely closing the door to sex. That is all about her just as this is all about me. My wants and happiness is not all that counts. I do what I can to keep her happy and by most every measure, she is happy. And she is very happy to never have sex again and to not have me make an issue of it anymore. Maybe she will come around some day and we can resume. I'm not counting on it but I'll be ready if it happens. The same if she even brings it up and says she wants to work on it. I'll stop cheating immediately and help work it out. There are zero signs of that happening but the door is always open. I'd still rather have sex with my wife than anyone else. Even half as much as I'm getting now.
I'm not cheating her out of her future. She chooses a future that includes a sexless marriage and I'm dealing with that in my own way. I'm not cheating her out of anything in the present that she wants.

Listen, simple questions: Q1: will you make sure you won't divorce your wife later in life and keep her happy (as you state you do) all the time, even after your kids leave home? Q2: Are you sure you won't have the "feels" for anyone else in the future? If you are uncertain about either of these answers, you need to tell your wife and give your wife choices. You aren't doing right by her even though you state you are. You don't value her at all. It's a horrible way to treat your wife.

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If you're looking for an argument, I don' have one to give. I never said I am altruistic. My cheating is only about me and my desire to have sex. It has nothing to do with her except that she started this ball rolling by completely closing the door to sex. That is all about her just as this is all about me. My wants and happiness is not all that counts. I do what I can to keep her happy and by most every measure, she is happy. And she is very happy to never have sex again and to not have me make an issue of it anymore. Maybe she will come around some day and we can resume. I'm not counting on it but I'll be ready if it happens. The same if she even brings it up and says she wants to work on it. I'll stop cheating immediately and help work it out. There are zero signs of that happening but the door is always open. I'd still rather have sex with my wife than anyone else. Even half as much as I'm getting now.
I'm not cheating her out of her future. She chooses a future that includes a sexless marriage and I'm dealing with that in my own way. I'm not cheating her out of anything in the present that she wants.

Bluntly, you are a selfish, narcissistic axxhole. Men like you remind me how grateful I am to have a husband who is truly a good person with integrity as a partner and parent to my kids. The bottom line is you have a massive character defect and that's all on you and has nothing to do with your wife or how much sex she is interested in having with you. You are not a good partner or even parent, of course she has no interest in sleeping with you. That's a result of your character defect, not the cause of it.

Exactly. He wants to frame this as he's doing this for the good of his wife and family. Just no. He's just selfish and is an a-hole to his wife.

[Anonymous]

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If you're looking for an argument, I don' have one to give. I never said I am altruistic. My cheating is only about me and my desire to have sex. It has nothing to do with her except that she started this ball rolling by completely closing the door to sex. That is all about her just as this is all about me. My wants and happiness is not all that counts. I do what I can to keep her happy and by most every measure, she is happy. And she is very happy to never have sex again and to not have me make an issue of it anymore. Maybe she will come around some day and we can resume. I'm not counting on it but I'll be ready if it happens. The same if she even brings it up and says she wants to work on it. I'll stop cheating immediately and help work it out. There are zero signs of that happening but the door is always open. I'd still rather have sex with my wife than anyone else. Even half as much as I'm getting now.
I'm not cheating her out of her future. She chooses a future that includes a sexless marriage and I'm dealing with that in my own way. I'm not cheating her out of anything in the present that she wants.

Bluntly, you are a selfish, narcissistic axxhole. Men like you remind me how grateful I am to have a husband who is truly a good person with integrity as a partner and parent to my kids. The bottom line is you have a massive character defect and that's all on you and has nothing to do with your wife or how much sex she is interested in having with you. You are not a good partner or even parent, of course she has no interest in sleeping with you. That's a result of your character defect, not the cause of it.

This is how ALL normal men with normal libidos think. And lots of women with healthy libidos too would agree. Nothing wrong with his integrity. It’s really just YOU who are the anomaly, thinking that a spouse can stop having sex and still have a lasting monogamous marriage?!?!! Nope. Any abnormal sexless spouse who “objects to cheating” must initiate divorce, otherwise it’s a de-facto DADT marriage just like PP has. His wife must be grateful for the affair partner responsible for saving their marriage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:After reading all these posts, I feel like the people who aren't having sex by their own choice can never be happy for those who are having sex. Those who have taken an AP are braggi g a bit, happy to be getti g it again while rubbing it in the face of those who wish them to be celibite. It's like we live in two different worlds. A sex less world and one with sex. Drag someone into a world where they don't belong and they will scheme to escape to the other world.

Not really. I don't think the first part of this is true in that people not having sex can never be happy for those who are. First, don't assume that people who object to cheating don't have sex. That would be an incorrect assumption for sure. Second, many cheaters are having sex with their spouses and so cheaters don't just cheat for no-sex situation at home. Finally, even if it is a no-sex situation, there are other ways of dealing with it. Not sure it's 2 different worlds either.

When one makes excuses to live a double life of cheating and lying to their family that person is solely to blame.

Get counseling, or get divorced and have all the sex you want. That's what the majority are trying to convey to you. Sadly, you are trying to spin it completely wrong to validate your bad and sick behavior.

Thanks but, I'm already having all the sex I want without having to go through all that.

But you can go and date a lot of women if you're divorced. Also, you'll have plenty of time to date if you divorce since you'll have kids o only half the time. Also, you would be doing the right thing as well. Just move on. Don't you have any sense of right and wrong? Do you ever want to do the right thing or do you do it only when it can make you look bad otherwise?

Thanks for your concern. I like my current arrangement. I'm not looking to date a bunch of women. Just have regular sex with one. My W would be my first choice but she has chosen another path for us as far as sex goes. I have no desire to divorce her and I'm not "visiting" my children every other week. This arrangement that you see as sick behavior keeps our family and my marriage together.

Your response is only about you and your convenience. Your wants and your happiness is all that counts. Are you going to make sure that you won't divorce your wife later in life and keep her happy otherwise all the time, even after your kids leave home? Are you going to be sure you won't have the "feels" for anyone else? If so, more power to you. Otherwise, you are cheating your wife out of her future. Go have all the sex you want after divorce if you don't want to date anyone else. Let your wife seek her future as well since you are already taking care of your now and future. You are selfish, not altruistic.

If you're looking for an argument, I don' have one to give. I never said I am altruistic. My cheating is only about me and my desire to have sex. It has nothing to do with her except that she started this ball rolling by completely closing the door to sex. That is all about her just as this is all about me. My wants and happiness is not all that counts. I do what I can to keep her happy and by most every measure, she is happy. And she is very happy to never have sex again and to not have me make an issue of it anymore. Maybe she will come around some day and we can resume. I'm not counting on it but I'll be ready if it happens. The same if she even brings it up and says she wants to work on it. I'll stop cheating immediately and help work it out. There are zero signs of that happening but the door is always open. I'd still rather have sex with my wife than anyone else. Even half as much as I'm getting now.
I'm not cheating her out of her future. She chooses a future that includes a sexless marriage and I'm dealing with that in my own way. I'm not cheating her out of anything in the present that she wants.

Listen, simple questions: Q1: will you make sure you won't divorce your wife later in life and keep her happy (as you state you do) all the time, even after your kids leave home? Q2: Are you sure you won't have the "feels" for anyone else in the future? If you are uncertain about either of these answers, you need to tell your wife and give your wife choices. You aren't doing right by her even though you state you are. You don't value her at all. It's a horrible way to treat your wife.

If he still needs a platonic room mate female friend and he remains content with a sex only affair, then maybe their marriage can last after the kids are gone? But who knows maybe he gets attached to the woman he’s sleeping with. Nobody can be certain how this plays out. His sexless wife maybe should have considered these issues herself, prior to being “done with sex” but she’s made her choice and time will tell how that goes for her. Not really your concern, and you cannot blame him for her decisions.

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This is how ALL normal men with normal libidos think. And lots of women with healthy libidos too would agree. Nothing wrong with his integrity. It’s really just YOU who are the anomaly, thinking that a spouse can stop having sex and still have a lasting monogamous marriage?!?!! Nope. Any abnormal sexless spouse who “objects to cheating” must initiate divorce, otherwise it’s a de-facto DADT marriage just like PP has. His wife must be grateful for the affair partner responsible for saving their marriage.

Your analysis is embarrassing and reflects low intellect. What you set up is a false dichotomy. Any spouse unhappy with their sex life is free to ask for a divorce or some other disclosed arrangement. How thick are you? Why can't you understand that?

[Anonymous]

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This is how ALL normal men with normal libidos think. And lots of women with healthy libidos too would agree. Nothing wrong with his integrity. It’s really just YOU who are the anomaly, thinking that a spouse can stop having sex and still have a lasting monogamous marriage?!?!! Nope. Any abnormal sexless spouse who “objects to cheating” must initiate divorce, otherwise it’s a de-facto DADT marriage just like PP has. His wife must be grateful for the affair partner responsible for saving their marriage.

Your analysis is embarrassing and reflects low intellect. What you set up is a false dichotomy. Any spouse unhappy with their sex life is free to ask for a divorce or some other disclosed arrangement. How thick are you? Why can't you understand that?

I don't even respond to that guy anymore because his logic is faulty and he is a troll. I just ignore his comments since he's a troll.

[Anonymous]

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This is how ALL normal men with normal libidos think. And lots of women with healthy libidos too would agree. Nothing wrong with his integrity. It’s really just YOU who are the anomaly, thinking that a spouse can stop having sex and still have a lasting monogamous marriage?!?!! Nope. Any abnormal sexless spouse who “objects to cheating” must initiate divorce, otherwise it’s a de-facto DADT marriage just like PP has. His wife must be grateful for the affair partner responsible for saving their marriage.

Your analysis is embarrassing and reflects low intellect. What you set up is a false dichotomy. Any spouse unhappy with their sex life is free to ask for a divorce or some other disclosed arrangement. How thick are you? Why can't you understand that?

Yes either spouse is equally free to ask for a divorce, or to take unilateral action in regards to sex. Just as she lost interest in sex, he lost interest in monogamy. No dichotomy at all. It’s equal freedom for both spouses

Why would he divorce? She’s a good room mate and she wants to stay married.