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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]After reading all these posts, I feel like the people who aren't having sex by their own choice can never be happy for those who are having sex.  Those who have taken an AP are braggi g a bit, happy to be getti g it again while rubbing it in the face of those who wish them to be celibite.  It's like we live in two different worlds. A sex less world and one with sex. Drag someone into a world where they don't belong and they will scheme to escape to the other world. [/quote]

Not really.  I don't think the first part of this is true in that people not having sex can never be happy for those who are.  First, don't assume that people who object to cheating don't have sex.  That would be an incorrect assumption for sure.  Second, many cheaters are having sex with their spouses and so cheaters don't just cheat for no-sex situation at home.  Finally, even if it is a no-sex situation, there are other ways of dealing with it.  Not sure it's 2 different worlds either.  [/quote]

When one makes excuses to live a double life of cheating and lying to their family that person is solely to blame.

Get counseling, or get divorced and have all the sex you want. That's what the majority are trying to convey to you. Sadly, you are trying to spin it completely wrong to validate your bad and sick behavior. 
[/quote]Thanks but, I'm already having all the sex I want without having to go through all that.[/quote]

But you can go and date a lot of women if you're divorced. Also, you'll have plenty of time to date if you divorce since you'll have kids o only half the time.  Also, you would be doing the right thing as well.  Just move on.  Don't you have any sense of right and wrong?  Do you ever want to do the right thing or do you do it only when it can make you look bad otherwise?  [/quote]Thanks for your concern. I like my current arrangement. I'm not looking to date a bunch of women. Just have regular sex with one.  My W would be my first choice but she has chosen another path for us as far as sex goes. I have no desire to divorce her and I'm not "visiting" my children every other week.  This arrangement that you see as sick behavior  keeps our family and my marriage together.  [/quote]

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