If you aren't sexually attracted to your spouse

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Have an affair. Life is too short not to. You owe it to your sex life.

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Anonymous wrote:Have an affair. Life is too short not to. You owe it to your sex life.

I agree. The female spouses who can no longer get turned on by their nasty husbands should at least be getting SOMETHING on the side.

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Anonymous wrote:Have an affair. Life is too short not to. You owe it to your sex life.

I agree. The female spouses who can no longer get turned on by their nasty husbands should at least be getting SOMETHING on the side.

Yes, absolutely. Go forth and have sex....

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Anonymous wrote: Sorry guys, you just don't get her motor running anymore, hell, some of you never did. Fuck house work, kids and all that nonsense, excuses upon excuses.

I'm a DW, and my husband, bless his heart, physically doesn't turn me on. Come to think of it, I don't think he finds the sight of me naked arousing either but that's marriage I guess.

No weight gain or sudden ugliness arose. Our attraction to each other was never that strong even in the beginning and naturally, the passage of time has made it decline.

It would have hurt like hell, but if that's the reason for my low-sex marriage, I wish my wife would have told me up front that I didn't turn her on. I could have moved on then.

In my case, it wasn't something that was an issue in the beginning. I was just happy to meet a good man and be in a stable zero drama relationship. We moved in together, got engaged and had a baby in very short order, not really a forethought. But now that the dust has settled, how do you break up your child's home because you're not sexually attracted to his father. Kinda silly, no?

That should be his choice.

Do you think the lack of drama is a cause of the lack of sexual attraction? Is anxiety, uncertainty, etc. a source of sexual stimulation?

Yes, absolutely. It's security that kills a woman's sex drive. Lot's of studies on this. I don't think women do this consciously. It is what it is. That is why a husband has to make sure his wife sees that he is still attractive to other women.

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Anonymous wrote: Sorry guys, you just don't get her motor running anymore, hell, some of you never did. Fuck house work, kids and all that nonsense, excuses upon excuses.

I'm a DW, and my husband, bless his heart, physically doesn't turn me on. Come to think of it, I don't think he finds the sight of me naked arousing either but that's marriage I guess.

No weight gain or sudden ugliness arose. Our attraction to each other was never that strong even in the beginning and naturally, the passage of time has made it decline.

It would have hurt like hell, but if that's the reason for my low-sex marriage, I wish my wife would have told me up front that I didn't turn her on. I could have moved on then.

In my case, it wasn't something that was an issue in the beginning. I was just happy to meet a good man and be in a stable zero drama relationship. We moved in together, got engaged and had a baby in very short order, not really a forethought. But now that the dust has settled, how do you break up your child's home because you're not sexually attracted to his father. Kinda silly, no?

That should be his choice.

Do you think the lack of drama is a cause of the lack of sexual attraction? Is anxiety, uncertainty, etc. a source of sexual stimulation?

Yes, absolutely. It's security that kills a woman's sex drive. Lot's of studies on this. I don't think women do this consciously. It is what it is. That is why a husband has to make sure his wife sees that he is still attractive to other women.

Nah, it doesnt have to do with drama. Women are just more turned on by new partners than men are. Sorry, nothing can change that. Women like fucking new people more than men. It's biology.

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If you weren't attracted to each other in the first place and you got married anyway, you likely fall into the category of "losers." I mean, unless you are an anchor wife or something.

Anonymous wrote: Sorry guys, you just don't get her motor running anymore, hell, some of you never did. Fuck house work, kids and all that nonsense, excuses upon excuses.

I'm a DW, and my husband, bless his heart, physically doesn't turn me on. Come to think of it, I don't think he finds the sight of me naked arousing either but that's marriage I guess.

No weight gain or sudden ugliness arose. Our attraction to each other was never that strong even in the beginning and naturally, the passage of time has made it decline.

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Anonymous wrote: Sorry guys, you just don't get her motor running anymore, hell, some of you never did. Fuck house work, kids and all that nonsense, excuses upon excuses.

I'm a DW, and my husband, bless his heart, physically doesn't turn me on. Come to think of it, I don't think he finds the sight of me naked arousing either but that's marriage I guess.

No weight gain or sudden ugliness arose. Our attraction to each other was never that strong even in the beginning and naturally, the passage of time has made it decline.

It would have hurt like hell, but if that's the reason for my low-sex marriage, I wish my wife would have told me up front that I didn't turn her on. I could have moved on then.

In my case, it wasn't something that was an issue in the beginning. I was just happy to meet a good man and be in a stable zero drama relationship. We moved in together, got engaged and had a baby in very short order, not really a forethought. But now that the dust has settled, how do you break up your child's home because you're not sexually attracted to his father. Kinda silly, no?

That should be his choice.

Do you think the lack of drama is a cause of the lack of sexual attraction? Is anxiety, uncertainty, etc. a source of sexual stimulation?

Yes, absolutely. It's security that kills a woman's sex drive. Lot's of studies on this. I don't think women do this consciously. It is what it is. That is why a husband has to make sure his wife sees that he is still attractive to other women.

Nah, it doesnt have to do with drama. Women are just more turned on by new partners than men are. Sorry, nothing can change that. Women like fucking new people more than men. It's biology.

Men are just as turned on by new partners as women. But they are also turned on by old partners. That's the difference. Over time, men want to fuck both their wives and other women. Whereas women lose their desire to sleep with the old partner. Obviously, exceptions apply.

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Anonymous wrote: Sorry guys, you just don't get her motor running anymore, hell, some of you never did. Fuck house work, kids and all that nonsense, excuses upon excuses.

I'm a DW, and my husband, bless his heart, physically doesn't turn me on. Come to think of it, I don't think he finds the sight of me naked arousing either but that's marriage I guess.

No weight gain or sudden ugliness arose. Our attraction to each other was never that strong even in the beginning and naturally, the passage of time has made it decline.

It would have hurt like hell, but if that's the reason for my low-sex marriage, I wish my wife would have told me up front that I didn't turn her on. I could have moved on then.

In my case, it wasn't something that was an issue in the beginning. I was just happy to meet a good man and be in a stable zero drama relationship. We moved in together, got engaged and had a baby in very short order, not really a forethought. But now that the dust has settled, how do you break up your child's home because you're not sexually attracted to his father. Kinda silly, no?

That should be his choice.

Do you think the lack of drama is a cause of the lack of sexual attraction? Is anxiety, uncertainty, etc. a source of sexual stimulation?

Yes, absolutely. It's security that kills a woman's sex drive. Lot's of studies on this. I don't think women do this consciously. It is what it is. That is why a husband has to make sure his wife sees that he is still attractive to other women.

Nah, it doesnt have to do with drama. Women are just more turned on by new partners than men are. Sorry, nothing can change that. Women like fucking new people more than men. It's biology.

Men are just as turned on by new partners as women. But they are also turned on by old partners. That's the difference. Over time, men want to fuck both their wives and other women. Whereas women lose their desire to sleep with the old partner. Obviously, exceptions apply.

Right. Women need novelty more than men. It's biology.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife & I stopped having sex about 10 yrs ago. I got tired of begging to get laid. We went from crazy fucking anywhere to zip. Fuck it, I gave up & don't care what she thinks.
I jerkoff in bed next to her often. I have no idea what she does for relief

I would do this too. After she would say no for the million'th time, I just said f'ck it and started jacking off in bed while she was next to me. She just ignores me. Took 20 years to get to this. I used to do it often. Jack off and then go to sleep. And I don't think she ever had sex, even by herself. no affairs, no masturbation, nothing. like any need for sex was shutoff for good.

Now we are separated and I feel a huge relief. no more sex, but a huge relief.

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Anonymous wrote: Sorry guys, you just don't get her motor running anymore, hell, some of you never did. Fuck house work, kids and all that nonsense, excuses upon excuses.

I'm a DW, and my husband, bless his heart, physically doesn't turn me on. Come to think of it, I don't think he finds the sight of me naked arousing either but that's marriage I guess.

No weight gain or sudden ugliness arose. Our attraction to each other was never that strong even in the beginning and naturally, the passage of time has made it decline.

It would have hurt like hell, but if that's the reason for my low-sex marriage, I wish my wife would have told me up front that I didn't turn her on. I could have moved on then.

In my case, it wasn't something that was an issue in the beginning. I was just happy to meet a good man and be in a stable zero drama relationship. We moved in together, got engaged and had a baby in very short order, not really a forethought. But now that the dust has settled, how do you break up your child's home because you're not sexually attracted to his father. Kinda silly, no?

Pple here, actually thought about that and no, I would freely grant him an open marriage if he asked for it. I think he knows that on some level but he hasn't asked and I haven't offered. Our marriage operates on walking by the giant elephant in the room day in day out as if it isn't there.
Why not open the marriage? Would you even be jealous if he had sex with another woman?

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Anonymous wrote:My wife & I stopped having sex about 10 yrs ago. I got tired of begging to get laid. We went from crazy fucking anywhere to zip. Fuck it, I gave up & don't care what she thinks.
I jerkoff in bed next to her often. I have no idea what she does for relief

I would do this too. After she would say no for the million'th time, I just said f'ck it and started jacking off in bed while she was next to me. She just ignores me. Took 20 years to get to this. I used to do it often. Jack off and then go to sleep. And I don't think she ever had sex, even by herself. no affairs, no masturbation, nothing. like any need for sex was shutoff for good.

Now we are separated and I feel a huge relief. no more sex, but a huge relief.

I'm sure she's glad that you aren't jerking off next to her. Seriously, I can't think of a more clueless, gross, socially dense thing to do.

Loser.

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Anonymous wrote:If you weren't attracted to each other in the first place and you got married anyway, you likely fall into the category of "losers." I mean, unless you are an anchor wife or something.

Anonymous wrote: Sorry guys, you just don't get her motor running anymore, hell, some of you never did. Fuck house work, kids and all that nonsense, excuses upon excuses.

I'm a DW, and my husband, bless his heart, physically doesn't turn me on. Come to think of it, I don't think he finds the sight of me naked arousing either but that's marriage I guess.

No weight gain or sudden ugliness arose. Our attraction to each other was never that strong even in the beginning and naturally, the passage of time has made it decline.

Losers? Perhaps. We got pregnant immediately after getting engaged. It was unexpected and unplanned. We got married right after that (courthouse, lowkey) for practical reasons, insurance purposes, etc. Getting married felt like the right thing to do for our kid

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Yes, absolutely. It's security that kills a woman's sex drive. Lot's of studies on this. I don't think women do this consciously. It is what it is. That is why a husband has to make sure his wife sees that he is still attractive to other women.

Nah, it doesnt have to do with drama. Women are just more turned on by new partners than men are. Sorry, nothing can change that. Women like fucking new people more than men. It's biology.

Men are just as turned on by new partners as women. But they are also turned on by old partners. That's the difference. Over time, men want to fuck both their wives and other women. Whereas women lose their desire to sleep with the old partner. Obviously, exceptions apply.

Right. Women need novelty more than men. It's biology.

So we agree that women lose their desire!
The end result is the same: married couples not having sex with each other, instead both are cheating.
The man however wastes a year or 3 wondering why she won't fuck him.
Meanwhile she is being dishonest, claims he "doesn't support her emotionally", or "is an unequal partner outside the bedroom", meanwhile it just her biology and she needs novelty.

So men: skip the step where you try to "win her back" by being more attentive, making yourself more attractive, improving your sexual skills, doing more housework.
Just go directly to the cheating stage, because your wife is probably already there.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife & I stopped having sex about 10 yrs ago. I got tired of begging to get laid. We went from crazy fucking anywhere to zip. Fuck it, I gave up & don't care what she thinks.
I jerkoff in bed next to her often. I have no idea what she does for relief

I would do this too. After she would say no for the million'th time, I just said f'ck it and started jacking off in bed while she was next to me. She just ignores me. Took 20 years to get to this. I used to do it often. Jack off and then go to sleep. And I don't think she ever had sex, even by herself. no affairs, no masturbation, nothing. like any need for sex was shutoff for good.

Now we are separated and I feel a huge relief. no more sex, but a huge relief.

I'm sure she's glad that you aren't jerking off next to her. Seriously, I can't think of a more clueless, gross, socially dense thing to do.

Loser.

He should go into the bathroom?

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Anonymous wrote:My wife & I stopped having sex about 10 yrs ago. I got tired of begging to get laid. We went from crazy fucking anywhere to zip. Fuck it, I gave up & don't care what she thinks.
I jerkoff in bed next to her often. I have no idea what she does for relief

I would do this too. After she would say no for the million'th time, I just said f'ck it and started jacking off in bed while she was next to me. She just ignores me. Took 20 years to get to this. I used to do it often. Jack off and then go to sleep. And I don't think she ever had sex, even by herself. no affairs, no masturbation, nothing. like any need for sex was shutoff for good.

Now we are separated and I feel a huge relief. no more sex, but a huge relief.

I'm sure she's glad that you aren't jerking off next to her. Seriously, I can't think of a more clueless, gross, socially dense thing to do.

Loser.

He should go into the bathroom?

She should go to the bathroom. "Excuse me honey, I know my sexual desires are a source of inconvenience for you. So, could you be a dear and hang out in the bathroom for 15-20 minutes while I rub one out?"