When a friend confides about a really major secret and it changes things...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can you ask her why she shared that with you? Did she need a confessor?

Lots of people have affairs, even "good girls. " many of them realize their mistake and go on to have even stronger marriages.

maybe be less judgmental?

God....imagine if it was a guy having an affair with the au pair. Oh wait. I've seen those a lot. It usually results in the DCUM women crying out to bring the man to burn him at the stake.

Turn this around, and we get "try to be less judgmental." GIVE ME A FREAKING BREAK.

FEMINAZIS. A good amount of this site... Bunch of SAHMs who believe their entitled because other SAHMs (and probably TheView) tells them they should be.

P.S. Men are dogs and should be happy with whatever lackluster sex their wives grace them with. The end.

This is what happens when mentally imbalanced people write on this board. I have no idea what you are talking about. You are responding to my thoughts about how hypocritical the people here are. Especially the women who are probably the majority here.

So, bitches, until you forgo the hypocrisy, you'll never better yourselves.

[Anonymous]

Good for you, OP!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP hasn't responded in a while but I bet 19:26 is serial "meh" poster and 23:13 and 23:15 is serial "unhinged" poster. But I digress.

Here are the facts:

OP is friends with a whore who confessed to her.

Why MOST of you condone this is BEYOND!!! JEALOUS?

I wouldn't let this tramp alone with my husband for two hot seconds.

All of you beating up OP - give it a rest. On the other hand, OP if you don't confront your "friend" and cancel the Cape trip after all of this then you deserve what you get.

Who's condoning? Who's jealous, and what are they jealous about?

Have you considered getting a prescription for a benzo, like Xanax or Valium? You're getting way too worked up about a story that doesn't involve you and may not even be true.

Also, I'm not a serial "meh" poster, but I use it from time to time when I mostly disagree and/or don't give a damn. Are you the weird caps poster who needs to be sedated? OP asked a question and people responded to that question. We sincerely appreciate your thought policing, but you may want to count to 10 or something.

No, I am not familiar with those meds nor do I need them. I think you need to chill dear. Maybe take a few deep breaths. Go pop one of your benzos. You sound like a psycho.

Says the poster who types in all bold....

You are very clever! Wait! Should I have BOLDED clever? That probably would have made you feel better! So super smart, you are! Must be all of that counting to ten and chilling. And eye rolling.

Aside from my comments to the genius above, the FEMINAZI poster should also be ignored/dismissed. Do not feed the trolls.

OP, good luck to you and I hope you get through this and enjoy a good summer and move on without this toxic friend.

[Anonymous]

I would say good bye and good riddens. Chances are her husband will find out and leave her alone high and dry. You can always tell her you tried and did so in vain. People like that are so selfish and generally it does not end well. Truth almost always comes out at some point, if the guilt doesn't' drive her to it first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update (again) I told my husband. I had to it was killing me and really pissing me off that she put me here to begin with.

He was in shock but I totally trust him and we both agreed its between us. He agrees to not take the trip and understands my predicament. She called today and left a snooty message about cancelling the flights/hotel if we are really not going. I left her a message telling her we cannot, didn't expand on it, just very blunt. She KNOWS she is so wrong.

I am sad on one hand as I do care for her and something tell s me her husband will find out. I feel like she is really putting everything on the line for a fun roll in the hay, so not worth it. I really tried to talk her out of it but she has chosen to not listen. It is out of my hands now.

Thanks for your input.

This is BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP hasn't responded in a while but I bet 19:26 is serial "meh" poster and 23:13 and 23:15 is serial "unhinged" poster. But I digress.

Here are the facts:

OP is friends with a whore who confessed to her.

Why MOST of you condone this is BEYOND!!! JEALOUS?

I wouldn't let this tramp alone with my husband for two hot seconds.

All of you beating up OP - give it a rest. On the other hand, OP if you don't confront your "friend" and cancel the Cape trip after all of this then you deserve what you get.

Who's condoning? Who's jealous, and what are they jealous about?

Have you considered getting a prescription for a benzo, like Xanax or Valium? You're getting way too worked up about a story that doesn't involve you and may not even be true.

Also, I'm not a serial "meh" poster, but I use it from time to time when I mostly disagree and/or don't give a damn. Are you the weird caps poster who needs to be sedated? OP asked a question and people responded to that question. We sincerely appreciate your thought policing, but you may want to count to 10 or something.

No, I am not familiar with those meds nor do I need them. I think you need to chill dear. Maybe take a few deep breaths. Go pop one of your benzos. You sound like a psycho.

Says the poster who types in all bold....

You are very clever! Wait! Should I have BOLDED clever? That probably would have made you feel better! So super smart, you are! Must be all of that counting to ten and chilling. And eye rolling.

Aside from my comments to the genius above, the FEMINAZI poster should also be ignored/dismissed. Do not feed the trolls.

OP, good luck to you and I hope you get through this and enjoy a good summer and move on without this toxic friend.

What in the world are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update (again) I told my husband. I had to it was killing me and really pissing me off that she put me here to begin with.

He was in shock but I totally trust him and we both agreed its between us. He agrees to not take the trip and understands my predicament. She called today and left a snooty message about cancelling the flights/hotel if we are really not going. I left her a message telling her we cannot, didn't expand on it, just very blunt. She KNOWS she is so wrong.

I am sad on one hand as I do care for her and something tell s me her husband will find out. I feel like she is really putting everything on the line for a fun roll in the hay, so not worth it. I really tried to talk her out of it but she has chosen to not listen. It is out of my hands now.

Thanks for your input.

OP this is the best place to express your shock, but ever find out that the more right you are the more angry the person gets? So let it go now. Your friend should have known you would tell your DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update (again) I told my husband. I had to it was killing me and really pissing me off that she put me here to begin with.

He was in shock but I totally trust him and we both agreed its between us. He agrees to not take the trip and understands my predicament. She called today and left a snooty message about cancelling the flights/hotel if we are really not going. I left her a message telling her we cannot, didn't expand on it, just very blunt. She KNOWS she is so wrong.

I am sad on one hand as I do care for her and something tell s me her husband will find out. I feel like she is really putting everything on the line for a fun roll in the hay, so not worth it. I really tried to talk her out of it but she has chosen to not listen. It is out of my hands now.

Thanks for your input.

OP this is the best place to express your shock, but ever find out that the more right you are the more angry the person gets? So let it go now. Your friend should have known you would tell your DH.

Yes, as soon as she was scolded on DCUM for lying to and withholding info from her DH. There is some sock puppeting going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update (again) I told my husband. I had to it was killing me and really pissing me off that she put me here to begin with.

He was in shock but I totally trust him and we both agreed its between us. He agrees to not take the trip and understands my predicament. She called today and left a snooty message about cancelling the flights/hotel if we are really not going. I left her a message telling her we cannot, didn't expand on it, just very blunt. She KNOWS she is so wrong.

I am sad on one hand as I do care for her and something tell s me her husband will find out. I feel like she is really putting everything on the line for a fun roll in the hay, so not worth it. I really tried to talk her out of it but she has chosen to not listen. It is out of my hands now.

Thanks for your input.

OP this is the best place to express your shock, but ever find out that the more right you are the more angry the person gets? So let it go now. Your friend should have known you would tell your DH.

Yes, as soon as she was scolded on DCUM for lying to and withholding info from her DH. There is some sock puppeting going on.

No I don't think so. I was in a support group for a tender subject with perhaps 25 members -- all said they would share intimate stuff from the group with their DH. We had a vote on it, and pretty much everyone e admitted that they were telling their DH. It just seemed normal, so we formally voted that it was OK.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update (again) I told my husband. I had to it was killing me and really pissing me off that she put me here to begin with.

He was in shock but I totally trust him and we both agreed its between us. He agrees to not take the trip and understands my predicament. She called today and left a snooty message about cancelling the flights/hotel if we are really not going. I left her a message telling her we cannot, didn't expand on it, just very blunt. She KNOWS she is so wrong.

I am sad on one hand as I do care for her and something tell s me her husband will find out. I feel like she is really putting everything on the line for a fun roll in the hay, so not worth it. I really tried to talk her out of it but she has chosen to not listen. It is out of my hands now.

Thanks for your input.

OP this is the best place to express your shock, but ever find out that the more right you are the more angry the person gets? So let it go now. Your friend should have known you would tell your DH.

Yes, as soon as she was scolded on DCUM for lying to and withholding info from her DH. There is some sock puppeting going on.

No I don't think so. I was in a support group for a tender subject with perhaps 25 members -- all said they would share intimate stuff from the group with their DH. We had a vote on it, and pretty much everyone e admitted that they were telling their DH. It just seemed normal, so we formally voted that it was OK.

Yes, that's my point -- of course you would share. But OP was perfectly fine with lying to her DH and keeping a secret from him as well, until it was pointed out here how wrong that was. Then suddenly she tells him and runs back to breathlessly update everyone on DCUM that she has told her husband. What kind of marriage is that? Seems totally fake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update (again) I told my husband. I had to it was killing me and really pissing me off that she put me here to begin with.

He was in shock but I totally trust him and we both agreed its between us. He agrees to not take the trip and understands my predicament. She called today and left a snooty message about cancelling the flights/hotel if we are really not going. I left her a message telling her we cannot, didn't expand on it, just very blunt. She KNOWS she is so wrong.

I am sad on one hand as I do care for her and something tell s me her husband will find out. I feel like she is really putting everything on the line for a fun roll in the hay, so not worth it. I really tried to talk her out of it but she has chosen to not listen. It is out of my hands now.

Thanks for your input.

OP this is the best place to express your shock, but ever find out that the more right you are the more angry the person gets? So let it go now. Your friend should have known you would tell your DH.

Yes, as soon as she was scolded on DCUM for lying to and withholding info from her DH. There is some sock puppeting going on.

No I don't think so. I was in a support group for a tender subject with perhaps 25 members -- all said they would share intimate stuff from the group with their DH. We had a vote on it, and pretty much everyone e admitted that they were telling their DH. It just seemed normal, so we formally voted that it was OK.

Yes, that's my point -- of course you would share. But OP was perfectly fine with lying to her DH and keeping a secret from him as well, until it was pointed out here how wrong that was. Then suddenly she tells him and runs back to breathlessly update everyone on DCUM that she has told her husband. What kind of marriage is that? Seems totally fake.

Who gives a shit? The point is she told him so chill out. I could understand her dilemma and i think you are being really narrowminded to think otherwise. She told him dealt with it and moved on. i have never met such a judgmental quick to attack group of pricks as i have seen on this board in my life. Get a life.