Dating Strategy: Late Thirties Female

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not suggesting you'd be willing to change your perspective, or even capable of it. However, something for you to consider. I'll offer you the life hack to finding a great guy and having a happy marriage.

My tall, great looking, slim, very fit and smart Caucasian son is 37 and makes well above your income requirement in a non-Al threatened industry. Also within a finger of proposing to his Latina 38 gf. Make no mistake about it, there is no one that would describe her as slender, nor anyone on the planet that would say she has nice legs/ass. She's almost a foot shorter, a professional that makes a fraction of his income and lets it all slip thru her fingers. To top it all off, she's in bad health with an acute illness.
You know what she does have. A sweet and gracious personality to everyone. A desire to have a child. Is feminine and makes him feel like a man (and that ladies is the life hack). I'm not happy about the odds stacked towards having an ugly grandkid, but hey, the child will be loved unconditionally and be bilingual and hopefully a great personality.

He's experienced lots of very attractive and gorgeous gf's, most were liberal leaning because that's the majority in the age range. Lots of feminist that want to compete and not compromise with some really whacky ideas on what's wrong with our culture. Attractive women that are more interested in social media than a real life. A woman that want's a man to support her dreams instead of shared dreams.

He's a conservative that believes in traditional roles. It took him a long time, but he finally found a woman that's beautiful on the inside.

Could that be you ? It's not for very many women these days apparently.
Good luck to you

Ignore this idiot MAGA twat. She is lying to you. Men don’t really want subservient partners.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not suggesting you'd be willing to change your perspective, or even capable of it. However, something for you to consider. I'll offer you the life hack to finding a great guy and having a happy marriage.

My tall, great looking, slim, very fit and smart Caucasian son is 37 and makes well above your income requirement in a non-Al threatened industry. Also within a finger of proposing to his Latina 38 gf. Make no mistake about it, there is no one that would describe her as slender, nor anyone on the planet that would say she has nice legs/ass. She's almost a foot shorter, a professional that makes a fraction of his income and lets it all slip thru her fingers. To top it all off, she's in bad health with an acute illness.
You know what she does have. A sweet and gracious personality to everyone. A desire to have a child. Is feminine and makes him feel like a man (and that ladies is the life hack). I'm not happy about the odds stacked towards having an ugly grandkid, but hey, the child will be loved unconditionally and be bilingual and hopefully a great personality.

He's experienced lots of very attractive and gorgeous gf's, most were liberal leaning because that's the majority in the age range. Lots of feminist that want to compete and not compromise with some really whacky ideas on what's wrong with our culture. Attractive women that are more interested in social media than a real life. A woman that want's a man to support her dreams instead of shared dreams.

He's a conservative that believes in traditional roles. It took him a long time, but he finally found a woman that's beautiful on the inside.

Could that be you ? It's not for very many women these days apparently.
Good luck to you

There are lots and lots of conservative, beautiful women, even in this area. A lot of them are marrying early as the cream of the crop conservative men snatch them up without hesitation while your son sucks his finger from a finger away.

He just wasn't mature enough to find one early as most of his mates did. And he is tall and great looking too? He definitely has some issues to have been searching for so long. Hope he figured it out before marrying that beautiful woman. Otherwise, she is in for a surprise.

You are missing PP's point. She is talking about an actually conservative woman. Not a politically conservative MAGA type. She is talking about a genuinely conservative, family and home oriented woman. Not Erika Kirk. Not Sarah Palin. Not Brett Cooper. Not the DC "conservative" or Mar a Lago-looking social climber types. What her son found is extraordinarily rare in DMV.

Go to any big church in DC and you'll find young women who are attractive, self-supporting, and want to be SAHMs. There are more of them than there men who are looking for that, in part because the cost of living is so high here. But wanting to marry a rich guy and not work if you weren't capable of taking care of yourself to begin with isn't inherently conservative, and someone who struggles like that probably is going to struggle with the responsibilities of taking care of kids.

No you won’t. Only geriatrics attend church.

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Anonymous wrote:In DC, I think you should look for 150k or higher. A lot of government jobs top out around 176k

Op here. I only have the income requirement because this is a very HCOL area and I’m targeting men 36+ given my age. At this point it’s not crazy to want someone to make a little more money than me. Given the track I’m on, I’ll easily make 200k myself in a few years.

As for why I’m here: I am recently divorced due to a cheating spouse who did not want kids.

At this point it is not crazy that almost all the men left who meet your criteria are only dating women 36 and younger. Everything will have to go perfectly well for you to have two kids in marriage. You'd have to meet your person today, date and be engaged after a year, married after 1.5 - 2 years, no fertility issues, no early menopause etc. Why would a man do that when he could date a woman with all your attributes who is 33 or 35?

It's different if a man has already fallen for you, say someone from work, school or your childhood, who has been waiting and praying for you to be single ( have a friend who had two men ready to pounce when she left her cheating DH). But a man who is looking to have biological children and has never met you will probably not be interested.

Now there might be some men who lie about wanting children just to get married and those who don't mind not having any but will have 1 or 2 if that is what it takes to marry a beautiful woman. You can hope to find these, but you can end up with one who will be actively praying for you not to get pregnant. That will be a mess.

Op here. You are so cruel. I’ve been dating for 3 months and I’ve already met multiple men who meet this criteria who have wanted to date me and with whom I didn’t proceed for one or another reason. Stop with the unhelpful doomsday scenarios.

People aren’t dead after 35!

Look lady, you want kids. I’m not sure if you aren’t aware of basic biology, but after 35 you’re not dead but your child bearing years aren’t exactly in front of you. Is it possible? Absolutely. Is it easy? Maybe, if you’re lucky. But acting like being 38 and not even with a man at this point isn’t a big deal is some serious delusion.

She knows it’s a bid deal; that’s why she posted for years and years in her unhappy marriage; she was scared of leaving and starting over.

Nonetheless, what she wants is not unreasonable. She can give herself a timeline for freezing eggs as a backup but she’s not over-the-hill, FFS. Would you be so harsh toward someone you care about IRL? A sister of friend?

But I mentioned in my PP that the salary requirement is too high. There are wonderful teachers, feds, etc who make less than 200k but are bright and care about the work they do. It’s far more important that they share similar values. OP is ruling out a lot of worthwhile suitors.

[Anonymous]

OP, here’s the thing. You still want the same guy you wanted in your 20s. Most likely that ship has sailed, for both of you. At this age if you want someone earning over $200K, shoot older or younger, and accept divorced, short or overweight.
However also realize that if your goal is marriage and children, you are still better off with a nice, helpful, faithful devoted guy who makes $170K AND is a good partner, than you are alone or marrying some douche who makes more. Bc you don’t want to be a single mom (whether divorced or by choice) in your 40s. That’s a much worse financial and parenting position than a lower-earning (than you—I didn’t say marry a poor man) but supportive partner.

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Remember OP, if you and your $150K a year partner both max out your retirement plans for 20+ years, you should have $4-5 million by retirement even if you never do anything else.