Dating Strategy: Late Thirties Female

[Anonymous]

Please help. I am looking to marry and have a child within the next few years.

I’m looking for the following in a man:
- character and integrity
- intelligence
- income 200k+ ( I make 150k)
- wants family and a child
- interested in health and fitness
- emotionally regulated
- interested in travel

Where and how can I find my person in the dev area? Any specific professions? Neighborhoods? Places of gathering?

I’m 38, slender and am told I’m pretty and look 32. Only dates I’ve met comment on how young I look and how nice my legs are. I’ve also been told I’m “elegant” and that they want to take me to a gala.

I don’t know what that says about me.

Please help! Any guidance would be amazing!

[Anonymous]

everything could be ok but why you didn't have family by this age. You do understand that men who want kids and family would go for younger so you should be ok in dating single dads too.

[Anonymous]

They are married already

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:everything could be ok but why you didn't have family by this age. You do understand that men who want kids and family would go for younger so you should be ok in dating single dads too.

This is my question. What went wrong in previous relationships? Why aren't you already married?

[Anonymous]

If your brother who met all your criteria wanted a family and biological children, would you advice him to date a 38 year old?

[Anonymous]

International agency folks probably skew older as singles due to career building in their 20s and 30s. All of the 30s men I know are married. Would you go to someone in their 20s or at the other end 40s? The 40s men are usually divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please help. I am looking to marry and have a child within the next few years.

I’m looking for the following in a man:
- character and integrity
- intelligence
- income 200k+ ( I make 150k)
- wants family and a child
- interested in health and fitness
- emotionally regulated
- interested in travel

Where and how can I find my person in the dev area? Any specific professions? Neighborhoods? Places of gathering?

I’m 38, slender and am told I’m pretty and look 32. Only dates I’ve met comment on how young I look and how nice my legs are. I’ve also been told I’m “elegant” and that they want to take me to a gala.

I don’t know what that says about me.

Please help! Any guidance would be amazing!

So, your 200K plus wants family and child combination is going to rule out about 97% of men. Your audience is largely going to be divorced men and most of them probably won't want to be starting a second family.

The other stuff is just personality.

I'd consider halving your income requirement. From the get-go you've ruled out too many. You're a beggar and beggars can't be choosers, nice legs or no.

You meet them on the apps, btw. Or go play pickleball or some shit like that.

[Anonymous]

Strategy: pick three of those qualities as non-negotiable. The rest would be nice to have.

I’d personally go for an emotional regulated man of high character who wants kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please help. I am looking to marry and have a child within the next few years.

I’m looking for the following in a man:
- character and integrity
- intelligence
- income 200k+ ( I make 150k)
- wants family and a child
- interested in health and fitness
- emotionally regulated
- interested in travel

Where and how can I find my person in the dev area? Any specific professions? Neighborhoods? Places of gathering?

I’m 38, slender and am told I’m pretty and look 32. Only dates I’ve met comment on how young I look and how nice my legs are. I’ve also been told I’m “elegant” and that they want to take me to a gala.

I don’t know what that says about me.

Please help! Any guidance would be amazing!

Honestly only the bolded are mission-critical.

[Anonymous]

I’m looking for a man in Finance. Trust Fund. 6’5. Blue eyes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are married already

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:International agency folks probably skew older as singles due to career building in their 20s and 30s. All of the 30s men I know are married. Would you go to someone in their 20s or at the other end 40s? The 40s men are usually divorced.

who cares? men still want to make sure they are marrying younger women if they are every interested in starting a family.

[Anonymous]

Make the income 100 and the age flexible.

[Anonymous]

Given your salary (and, candidly, not being fat), none of your requirements are insane.

But it is a very small pool who men are single and want kids that also have some disqualifier that means they couldn't attract someone 5-7 years younger.

[Anonymous]

Single mom by choice will be more attainable.