Dating Strategy: Late Thirties Female

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Anonymous wrote:Please help. I am looking to marry and have a child within the next few years.

I’m looking for the following in a man:
- character and integrity
- intelligence
- income 200k+ ( I make 150k)
- wants family and a child
- interested in health and fitness
- emotionally regulated
- interested in travel

Where and how can I find my person in the dev area? Any specific professions? Neighborhoods? Places of gathering?

I’m 38, slender and am told I’m pretty and look 32. Only dates I’ve met comment on how young I look and how nice my legs are. I’ve also been told I’m “elegant” and that they want to take me to a gala.

I don’t know what that says about me.

Please help! Any guidance would be amazing!

Just one data point. I meet your criteria. Been very focused on my career, so single, no drama, no baggage, aged 39. I date 25 to 32, no exceptions, because biology is a fact of life. Sorry to bear the news, but a few similarly situated male friends have the same rule. And all my other friends are married with kids. Good luck, though.

Why is a 39 year old single guy hanging out on DCUM? I call bs.

There is no way I would have dated a 39 year old when I was that young. I wouldn't have dated a 39 year old till I was at least 34. I remember going on a date with a 39 year old when I was 31 and feeling like he was way too old.

At 31 you were only a catch in your own damn head.

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Anonymous wrote:This is how I did it in 18 months, fresh off a divorce. I was 37. I went on many dates with multiple men using, OLD, friend introductions, and IRL happenstance. I wasnt afraid to tell people I'm looking. I basically went on a date every weeknight and 2 on Saturday. Sunday was a day of rest.

About 4 months into it, I met someone and we dated exclusively for 6 months and got engaged. We had the wedding a few months later. I did IVF, and now I have a wonderful family.

What really helped was therapy and working through all my issues before getting married. You want to start off with a fresh slate.

As a man I am surprised this is what it takes women to find a man wow. I guessed I lucked out because no way I would be have been able to take dating that seriously just to find the right one forget it.

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I'm divorced and I hooked up with a 39 years old woman last month. When we were about to have sex we didn't have condoms so we just made out. Now wait stay with me now. Tell me why this woman tried to get me to f***k her row after she told me she wasn't on the pill and she was desperate to have a child married or not.

The desire to have a child just drive some women to extreme and stupid decisions.

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Anonymous wrote:They are married already

Ladies, meet men in college or graduate school. Better yet law school or medical college.

Or come from family money and connections

[Anonymous]

I'm not suggesting you'd be willing to change your perspective, or even capable of it. However, something for you to consider. I'll offer you the life hack to finding a great guy and having a happy marriage.

My tall, great looking, slim, very fit and smart Caucasian son is 37 and makes well above your income requirement in a non-Al threatened industry. Also within a finger of proposing to his Latina 38 gf. Make no mistake about it, there is no one that would describe her as slender, nor anyone on the planet that would say she has nice legs/ass. She's almost a foot shorter, a professional that makes a fraction of his income and lets it all slip thru her fingers. To top it all off, she's in bad health with an acute illness.
You know what she does have. A sweet and gracious personality to everyone. A desire to have a child. Is feminine and makes him feel like a man (and that ladies is the life hack). I'm not happy about the odds stacked towards having an ugly grandkid, but hey, the child will be loved unconditionally and be bilingual and hopefully a great personality.

He's experienced lots of very attractive and gorgeous gf's, most were liberal leaning because that's the majority in the age range. Lots of feminist that want to compete and not compromise with some really whacky ideas on what's wrong with our culture. Attractive women that are more interested in social media than a real life. A woman that want's a man to support her dreams instead of shared dreams.

He's a conservative that believes in traditional roles. It took him a long time, but he finally found a woman that's beautiful on the inside.

Could that be you ? It's not for very many women these days apparently.
Good luck to you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not suggesting you'd be willing to change your perspective, or even capable of it. However, something for you to consider. I'll offer you the life hack to finding a great guy and having a happy marriage.

My tall, great looking, slim, very fit and smart Caucasian son is 37 and makes well above your income requirement in a non-Al threatened industry. Also within a finger of proposing to his Latina 38 gf. Make no mistake about it, there is no one that would describe her as slender, nor anyone on the planet that would say she has nice legs/ass. She's almost a foot shorter, a professional that makes a fraction of his income and lets it all slip thru her fingers. To top it all off, she's in bad health with an acute illness.
You know what she does have. A sweet and gracious personality to everyone. A desire to have a child. Is feminine and makes him feel like a man (and that ladies is the life hack). I'm not happy about the odds stacked towards having an ugly grandkid, but hey, the child will be loved unconditionally and be bilingual and hopefully a great personality.

He's experienced lots of very attractive and gorgeous gf's, most were liberal leaning because that's the majority in the age range. Lots of feminist that want to compete and not compromise with some really whacky ideas on what's wrong with our culture. Attractive women that are more interested in social media than a real life. A woman that want's a man to support her dreams instead of shared dreams.

He's a conservative that believes in traditional roles. It took him a long time, but he finally found a woman that's beautiful on the inside.

Could that be you ? It's not for very many women these days apparently.
Good luck to you

You nailed it. He's exactly right to choose her and yes, it's exactly what men want. She's probably a hoot in the sack, too. He'll be happy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is how I did it in 18 months, fresh off a divorce. I was 37. I went on many dates with multiple men using, OLD, friend introductions, and IRL happenstance. I wasnt afraid to tell people I'm looking. I basically went on a date every weeknight and 2 on Saturday. Sunday was a day of rest.

About 4 months into it, I met someone and we dated exclusively for 6 months and got engaged. We had the wedding a few months later. I did IVF, and now I have a wonderful family.

What really helped was therapy and working through all my issues before getting married. You want to start off with a fresh slate.

As a man I am surprised this is what it takes women to find a man wow. I guessed I lucked out because no way I would be have been able to take dating that seriously just to find the right one forget it.

I am not sure how you lucked out here. Men are generally stupid and end up marrying just anyone because they don't take these things seriously. Marriage is arguable one of the most significant decisions most people make in their lifetimes. Go see your fellow men cry about losing half of everything in a divorce on other threads.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not suggesting you'd be willing to change your perspective, or even capable of it. However, something for you to consider. I'll offer you the life hack to finding a great guy and having a happy marriage.

My tall, great looking, slim, very fit and smart Caucasian son is 37 and makes well above your income requirement in a non-Al threatened industry. Also within a finger of proposing to his Latina 38 gf. Make no mistake about it, there is no one that would describe her as slender, nor anyone on the planet that would say she has nice legs/ass. She's almost a foot shorter, a professional that makes a fraction of his income and lets it all slip thru her fingers. To top it all off, she's in bad health with an acute illness.
You know what she does have. A sweet and gracious personality to everyone. A desire to have a child. Is feminine and makes him feel like a man (and that ladies is the life hack). I'm not happy about the odds stacked towards having an ugly grandkid, but hey, the child will be loved unconditionally and be bilingual and hopefully a great personality.

He's experienced lots of very attractive and gorgeous gf's, most were liberal leaning because that's the majority in the age range. Lots of feminist that want to compete and not compromise with some really whacky ideas on what's wrong with our culture. Attractive women that are more interested in social media than a real life. A woman that want's a man to support her dreams instead of shared dreams.

He's a conservative that believes in traditional roles. It took him a long time, but he finally found a woman that's beautiful on the inside.

Could that be you ? It's not for very many women these days apparently.
Good luck to you

God, imagine being such a catch of a woman and this is your in-law! Could you really unconditionally love such an ugly mixed-race child with a such fat, broke mom PP?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not suggesting you'd be willing to change your perspective, or even capable of it. However, something for you to consider. I'll offer you the life hack to finding a great guy and having a happy marriage.

My tall, great looking, slim, very fit and smart Caucasian son is 37 and makes well above your income requirement in a non-Al threatened industry. Also within a finger of proposing to his Latina 38 gf. Make no mistake about it, there is no one that would describe her as slender, nor anyone on the planet that would say she has nice legs/ass. She's almost a foot shorter, a professional that makes a fraction of his income and lets it all slip thru her fingers. To top it all off, she's in bad health with an acute illness.
You know what she does have. A sweet and gracious personality to everyone. A desire to have a child. Is feminine and makes him feel like a man (and that ladies is the life hack). I'm not happy about the odds stacked towards having an ugly grandkid, but hey, the child will be loved unconditionally and be bilingual and hopefully a great personality.

He's experienced lots of very attractive and gorgeous gf's, most were liberal leaning because that's the majority in the age range. Lots of feminist that want to compete and not compromise with some really whacky ideas on what's wrong with our culture. Attractive women that are more interested in social media than a real life. A woman that want's a man to support her dreams instead of shared dreams.

He's a conservative that believes in traditional roles. It took him a long time, but he finally found a woman that's beautiful on the inside.

Could that be you ? It's not for very many women these days apparently.
Good luck to you

There are lots and lots of conservative, beautiful women, even in this area. A lot of them are marrying early as the cream of the crop conservative men snatch them up without hesitation while your son sucks his finger from a finger away.

He just wasn't mature enough to find one early as most of his mates did. And he is tall and great looking too? He definitely has some issues to have been searching for so long. Hope he figured it out before marrying that beautiful woman. Otherwise, she is in for a surprise.

[Anonymous]

Hire a matchmaker and speed dating

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not suggesting you'd be willing to change your perspective, or even capable of it. However, something for you to consider. I'll offer you the life hack to finding a great guy and having a happy marriage.

My tall, great looking, slim, very fit and smart Caucasian son is 37 and makes well above your income requirement in a non-Al threatened industry. Also within a finger of proposing to his Latina 38 gf. Make no mistake about it, there is no one that would describe her as slender, nor anyone on the planet that would say she has nice legs/ass. She's almost a foot shorter, a professional that makes a fraction of his income and lets it all slip thru her fingers. To top it all off, she's in bad health with an acute illness.
You know what she does have. A sweet and gracious personality to everyone. A desire to have a child. Is feminine and makes him feel like a man (and that ladies is the life hack). I'm not happy about the odds stacked towards having an ugly grandkid, but hey, the child will be loved unconditionally and be bilingual and hopefully a great personality.

He's experienced lots of very attractive and gorgeous gf's, most were liberal leaning because that's the majority in the age range. Lots of feminist that want to compete and not compromise with some really whacky ideas on what's wrong with our culture. Attractive women that are more interested in social media than a real life. A woman that want's a man to support her dreams instead of shared dreams.

He's a conservative that believes in traditional roles. It took him a long time, but he finally found a woman that's beautiful on the inside.

Could that be you ? It's not for very many women these days apparently.
Good luck to you

God, imagine being such a catch of a woman and this is your in-law! Could you really unconditionally love such an ugly mixed-race child with a such fat, broke mom PP?

She is not a catch if she believes her hesitant boyfriend who is still a finger away from marrying her searched the earth for 37 years and couldn't find a good conservative woman. She is marrying a psycho who is still latched unto his mommy's teat.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not suggesting you'd be willing to change your perspective, or even capable of it. However, something for you to consider. I'll offer you the life hack to finding a great guy and having a happy marriage.

My tall, great looking, slim, very fit and smart Caucasian son is 37 and makes well above your income requirement in a non-Al threatened industry. Also within a finger of proposing to his Latina 38 gf. Make no mistake about it, there is no one that would describe her as slender, nor anyone on the planet that would say she has nice legs/ass. She's almost a foot shorter, a professional that makes a fraction of his income and lets it all slip thru her fingers. To top it all off, she's in bad health with an acute illness.
You know what she does have. A sweet and gracious personality to everyone. A desire to have a child. Is feminine and makes him feel like a man (and that ladies is the life hack). I'm not happy about the odds stacked towards having an ugly grandkid, but hey, the child will be loved unconditionally and be bilingual and hopefully a great personality.

He's experienced lots of very attractive and gorgeous gf's, most were liberal leaning because that's the majority in the age range. Lots of feminist that want to compete and not compromise with some really whacky ideas on what's wrong with our culture. Attractive women that are more interested in social media than a real life. A woman that want's a man to support her dreams instead of shared dreams.

He's a conservative that believes in traditional roles. It took him a long time, but he finally found a woman that's beautiful on the inside.

Could that be you ? It's not for very many women these days apparently.
Good luck to you

There are lots and lots of conservative, beautiful women, even in this area. A lot of them are marrying early as the cream of the crop conservative men snatch them up without hesitation while your son sucks his finger from a finger away.

He just wasn't mature enough to find one early as most of his mates did. And he is tall and great looking too? He definitely has some issues to have been searching for so long. Hope he figured it out before marrying that beautiful woman. Otherwise, she is in for a surprise.

You are missing PP's point. She is talking about an actually conservative woman. Not a politically conservative MAGA type. She is talking about a genuinely conservative, family and home oriented woman. Not Erika Kirk. Not Sarah Palin. Not Brett Cooper. Not the DC "conservative" or Mar a Lago-looking social climber types. What her son found is extraordinarily rare in DMV.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not suggesting you'd be willing to change your perspective, or even capable of it. However, something for you to consider. I'll offer you the life hack to finding a great guy and having a happy marriage.

My tall, great looking, slim, very fit and smart Caucasian son is 37 and makes well above your income requirement in a non-Al threatened industry. Also within a finger of proposing to his Latina 38 gf. Make no mistake about it, there is no one that would describe her as slender, nor anyone on the planet that would say she has nice legs/ass. She's almost a foot shorter, a professional that makes a fraction of his income and lets it all slip thru her fingers. To top it all off, she's in bad health with an acute illness.
You know what she does have. A sweet and gracious personality to everyone. A desire to have a child. Is feminine and makes him feel like a man (and that ladies is the life hack). I'm not happy about the odds stacked towards having an ugly grandkid, but hey, the child will be loved unconditionally and be bilingual and hopefully a great personality.

He's experienced lots of very attractive and gorgeous gf's, most were liberal leaning because that's the majority in the age range. Lots of feminist that want to compete and not compromise with some really whacky ideas on what's wrong with our culture. Attractive women that are more interested in social media than a real life. A woman that want's a man to support her dreams instead of shared dreams.

He's a conservative that believes in traditional roles. It took him a long time, but he finally found a woman that's beautiful on the inside.

Could that be you ? It's not for very many women these days apparently.
Good luck to you

Poor girl.

[Anonymous]

Look up the burned haystack dating method. Weed out the losers and make any messages/meet ups/dates actually worthwhile. Don’t waste your time and make very intentional dating choices and you’ll find someone.

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God, imagine being such a catch of a woman and this is your in-law! Could you really unconditionally love such an ugly mixed-race child with a such fat, broke mom PP?

PP here. I'm sorry it came off that way. In my clumsy way I was just trying to inject some humor to illuminate what's important. A little sarcasm thrown into there if you will. I'll have to practice a lot before the wedding toast apparently. Of course the child and mother would be unconditionally loved. How do you think my Son grew into a man that figured out the important things in life ! All the rest of what I wrote is precisely true. It is what it is.