Dating Strategy: Late Thirties Female

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not suggesting you'd be willing to change your perspective, or even capable of it. However, something for you to consider. I'll offer you the life hack to finding a great guy and having a happy marriage.

My tall, great looking, slim, very fit and smart Caucasian son is 37 and makes well above your income requirement in a non-Al threatened industry. Also within a finger of proposing to his Latina 38 gf. Make no mistake about it, there is no one that would describe her as slender, nor anyone on the planet that would say she has nice legs/ass. She's almost a foot shorter, a professional that makes a fraction of his income and lets it all slip thru her fingers. To top it all off, she's in bad health with an acute illness.
You know what she does have. A sweet and gracious personality to everyone. A desire to have a child. Is feminine and makes him feel like a man (and that ladies is the life hack). I'm not happy about the odds stacked towards having an ugly grandkid, but hey, the child will be loved unconditionally and be bilingual and hopefully a great personality.

He's experienced lots of very attractive and gorgeous gf's, most were liberal leaning because that's the majority in the age range. Lots of feminist that want to compete and not compromise with some really whacky ideas on what's wrong with our culture. Attractive women that are more interested in social media than a real life. A woman that want's a man to support her dreams instead of shared dreams.

He's a conservative that believes in traditional roles. It took him a long time, but he finally found a woman that's beautiful on the inside.

Could that be you ? It's not for very many women these days apparently.
Good luck to you

I agree with all your points except the "ugly" grandchild. How could you, PP, when you're so thoughtful about the rest? Very disappointed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not suggesting you'd be willing to change your perspective, or even capable of it. However, something for you to consider. I'll offer you the life hack to finding a great guy and having a happy marriage.

My tall, great looking, slim, very fit and smart Caucasian son is 37 and makes well above your income requirement in a non-Al threatened industry. Also within a finger of proposing to his Latina 38 gf. Make no mistake about it, there is no one that would describe her as slender, nor anyone on the planet that would say she has nice legs/ass. She's almost a foot shorter, a professional that makes a fraction of his income and lets it all slip thru her fingers. To top it all off, she's in bad health with an acute illness.
You know what she does have. A sweet and gracious personality to everyone. A desire to have a child. Is feminine and makes him feel like a man (and that ladies is the life hack). I'm not happy about the odds stacked towards having an ugly grandkid, but hey, the child will be loved unconditionally and be bilingual and hopefully a great personality.

He's experienced lots of very attractive and gorgeous gf's, most were liberal leaning because that's the majority in the age range. Lots of feminist that want to compete and not compromise with some really whacky ideas on what's wrong with our culture. Attractive women that are more interested in social media than a real life. A woman that want's a man to support her dreams instead of shared dreams.

He's a conservative that believes in traditional roles. It took him a long time, but he finally found a woman that's beautiful on the inside.

Could that be you ? It's not for very many women these days apparently.
Good luck to you

There are lots and lots of conservative, beautiful women, even in this area. A lot of them are marrying early as the cream of the crop conservative men snatch them up without hesitation while your son sucks his finger from a finger away.

He just wasn't mature enough to find one early as most of his mates did. And he is tall and great looking too? He definitely has some issues to have been searching for so long. Hope he figured it out before marrying that beautiful woman. Otherwise, she is in for a surprise.

You are missing PP's point. She is talking about an actually conservative woman. Not a politically conservative MAGA type. She is talking about a genuinely conservative, family and home oriented woman. Not Erika Kirk. Not Sarah Palin. Not Brett Cooper. Not the DC "conservative" or Mar a Lago-looking social climber types. What her son found is extraordinarily rare in DMV.

They are not rare in the DMV. That's an excuse undesirable men use to boost their ego. I bet he was going for women way above his level and they did not see him as a suitor but rather as one of their girlfriends.

Now that he has found his match, Mommy dearest thinks she is ugly. Ha!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not suggesting you'd be willing to change your perspective, or even capable of it. However, something for you to consider. I'll offer you the life hack to finding a great guy and having a happy marriage.

My tall, great looking, slim, very fit and smart Caucasian son is 37 and makes well above your income requirement in a non-Al threatened industry. Also within a finger of proposing to his Latina 38 gf. Make no mistake about it, there is no one that would describe her as slender, nor anyone on the planet that would say she has nice legs/ass. She's almost a foot shorter, a professional that makes a fraction of his income and lets it all slip thru her fingers. To top it all off, she's in bad health with an acute illness.
You know what she does have. A sweet and gracious personality to everyone. A desire to have a child. Is feminine and makes him feel like a man (and that ladies is the life hack). I'm not happy about the odds stacked towards having an ugly grandkid, but hey, the child will be loved unconditionally and be bilingual and hopefully a great personality.

He's experienced lots of very attractive and gorgeous gf's, most were liberal leaning because that's the majority in the age range. Lots of feminist that want to compete and not compromise with some really whacky ideas on what's wrong with our culture. Attractive women that are more interested in social media than a real life. A woman that want's a man to support her dreams instead of shared dreams.

He's a conservative that believes in traditional roles. It took him a long time, but he finally found a woman that's beautiful on the inside.

Could that be you ? It's not for very many women these days apparently.
Good luck to you

There are lots and lots of conservative, beautiful women, even in this area. A lot of them are marrying early as the cream of the crop conservative men snatch them up without hesitation while your son sucks his finger from a finger away.

He just wasn't mature enough to find one early as most of his mates did. And he is tall and great looking too? He definitely has some issues to have been searching for so long. Hope he figured it out before marrying that beautiful woman. Otherwise, she is in for a surprise.

You are missing PP's point. She is talking about an actually conservative woman. Not a politically conservative MAGA type. She is talking about a genuinely conservative, family and home oriented woman. Not Erika Kirk. Not Sarah Palin. Not Brett Cooper. Not the DC "conservative" or Mar a Lago-looking social climber types. What her son found is extraordinarily rare in DMV.

They are not rare in the DMV. That's an excuse undesirable men use to boost their ego. I bet he was going for women way above his level and they did not see him as a suitor but rather as one of their girlfriends.

Now that he has found his match, Mommy dearest thinks she is ugly. Ha!

They are not rare in the social circles of immigrant landscapers and drywall crews. That I grant you. They are vanishingly rare in the son's social circles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not suggesting you'd be willing to change your perspective, or even capable of it. However, something for you to consider. I'll offer you the life hack to finding a great guy and having a happy marriage.

My tall, great looking, slim, very fit and smart Caucasian son is 37 and makes well above your income requirement in a non-Al threatened industry. Also within a finger of proposing to his Latina 38 gf. Make no mistake about it, there is no one that would describe her as slender, nor anyone on the planet that would say she has nice legs/ass. She's almost a foot shorter, a professional that makes a fraction of his income and lets it all slip thru her fingers. To top it all off, she's in bad health with an acute illness.
You know what she does have. A sweet and gracious personality to everyone. A desire to have a child. Is feminine and makes him feel like a man (and that ladies is the life hack). I'm not happy about the odds stacked towards having an ugly grandkid, but hey, the child will be loved unconditionally and be bilingual and hopefully a great personality.

He's experienced lots of very attractive and gorgeous gf's, most were liberal leaning because that's the majority in the age range. Lots of feminist that want to compete and not compromise with some really whacky ideas on what's wrong with our culture. Attractive women that are more interested in social media than a real life. A woman that want's a man to support her dreams instead of shared dreams.

He's a conservative that believes in traditional roles. It took him a long time, but he finally found a woman that's beautiful on the inside.

Could that be you ? It's not for very many women these days apparently.
Good luck to you

There are lots and lots of conservative, beautiful women, even in this area. A lot of them are marrying early as the cream of the crop conservative men snatch them up without hesitation while your son sucks his finger from a finger away.

He just wasn't mature enough to find one early as most of his mates did. And he is tall and great looking too? He definitely has some issues to have been searching for so long. Hope he figured it out before marrying that beautiful woman. Otherwise, she is in for a surprise.

You are missing PP's point. She is talking about an actually conservative woman. Not a politically conservative MAGA type. She is talking about a genuinely conservative, family and home oriented woman. Not Erika Kirk. Not Sarah Palin. Not Brett Cooper. Not the DC "conservative" or Mar a Lago-looking social climber types. What her son found is extraordinarily rare in DMV.

They are not rare in the DMV. That's an excuse undesirable men use to boost their ego. I bet he was going for women way above his level and they did not see him as a suitor but rather as one of their girlfriends.

Now that he has found his match, Mommy dearest thinks she is ugly. Ha!

They are not rare in the social circles of immigrant landscapers and drywall crews. That I grant you. They are vanishingly rare in the son's social circles.

Oh so he is looking for a a sugar momma. Got it! I bet he is still sucking his finger in hopes of finding one with even more money than this one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is how I did it in 18 months, fresh off a divorce. I was 37. I went on many dates with multiple men using, OLD, friend introductions, and IRL happenstance. I wasnt afraid to tell people I'm looking. I basically went on a date every weeknight and 2 on Saturday. Sunday was a day of rest.

About 4 months into it, I met someone and we dated exclusively for 6 months and got engaged. We had the wedding a few months later. I did IVF, and now I have a wonderful family.

What really helped was therapy and working through all my issues before getting married. You want to start off with a fresh slate.

As a man I am surprised this is what it takes women to find a man wow. I guessed I lucked out because no way I would be have been able to take dating that seriously just to find the right one forget it.

Erm it worked out for me. I didn't have to buy groceries for almost a year. But I liked going on first dates. Never had a bad one. I like getting to know people, and I have to eat anyway.

[Anonymous]

Hi, what I would suggest in the next 6 months (and l got married/had kid later than your age so feel like I can help):

Be online dating and only date men who know they want kids. Don't just react but reach out to men -- get off of there soon and meet for brief coffee in person

Tell everyone you know you're looking for a kind man

I would get rid of having a list for a guy. Kind, wants kids, you're physically attracted to him... and then you'll go from there. Like others, think you should get rid of income bracket. The best father/spouse could be a middle-school teacher -- don't rule people out.

Smile/be approachable and kind out in the world. Be friendly with men, women, everyone. Proactively approach a few men and have a friendly, organic opener.

Are MeetUps still around? I would do those, particularly ones where there are single people doing fun activities like visiting wineries, hiking, etc.

Know you're going to have a good life with or without a guy. Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is how I did it in 18 months, fresh off a divorce. I was 37. I went on many dates with multiple men using, OLD, friend introductions, and IRL happenstance. I wasnt afraid to tell people I'm looking. I basically went on a date every weeknight and 2 on Saturday. Sunday was a day of rest.

About 4 months into it, I met someone and we dated exclusively for 6 months and got engaged. We had the wedding a few months later. I did IVF, and now I have a wonderful family.

What really helped was therapy and working through all my issues before getting married. You want to start off with a fresh slate.

As a man I am surprised this is what it takes women to find a man wow. I guessed I lucked out because no way I would be have been able to take dating that seriously just to find the right one forget it.

Erm it worked out for me. I didn't have to buy groceries for almost a year. But I liked going on first dates. Never had a bad one. I like getting to know people, and I have to eat anyway.

DP.

I loved first dates when I was single. I find people very interesting the first time I meet them. And there is no pressure on first dates.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not suggesting you'd be willing to change your perspective, or even capable of it. However, something for you to consider. I'll offer you the life hack to finding a great guy and having a happy marriage.

My tall, great looking, slim, very fit and smart Caucasian son is 37 and makes well above your income requirement in a non-Al threatened industry. Also within a finger of proposing to his Latina 38 gf. Make no mistake about it, there is no one that would describe her as slender, nor anyone on the planet that would say she has nice legs/ass. She's almost a foot shorter, a professional that makes a fraction of his income and lets it all slip thru her fingers. To top it all off, she's in bad health with an acute illness.
You know what she does have. A sweet and gracious personality to everyone. A desire to have a child. Is feminine and makes him feel like a man (and that ladies is the life hack). I'm not happy about the odds stacked towards having an ugly grandkid, but hey, the child will be loved unconditionally and be bilingual and hopefully a great personality.

He's experienced lots of very attractive and gorgeous gf's, most were liberal leaning because that's the majority in the age range. Lots of feminist that want to compete and not compromise with some really whacky ideas on what's wrong with our culture. Attractive women that are more interested in social media than a real life. A woman that want's a man to support her dreams instead of shared dreams.

He's a conservative that believes in traditional roles. It took him a long time, but he finally found a woman that's beautiful on the inside.

Could that be you ? It's not for very many women these days apparently.
Good luck to you

God, imagine being such a catch of a woman and this is your in-law! Could you really unconditionally love such an ugly mixed-race child with a such fat, broke mom PP?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are married already

Ladies, meet men in college or graduate school. Better yet law school or medical college.

Or come from family money and connections

Most universities are at least 60% female. That's 3 women for every 2 men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not suggesting you'd be willing to change your perspective, or even capable of it. However, something for you to consider. I'll offer you the life hack to finding a great guy and having a happy marriage.

My tall, great looking, slim, very fit and smart Caucasian son is 37 and makes well above your income requirement in a non-Al threatened industry. Also within a finger of proposing to his Latina 38 gf. Make no mistake about it, there is no one that would describe her as slender, nor anyone on the planet that would say she has nice legs/ass. She's almost a foot shorter, a professional that makes a fraction of his income and lets it all slip thru her fingers. To top it all off, she's in bad health with an acute illness.
You know what she does have. A sweet and gracious personality to everyone. A desire to have a child. Is feminine and makes him feel like a man (and that ladies is the life hack). I'm not happy about the odds stacked towards having an ugly grandkid, but hey, the child will be loved unconditionally and be bilingual and hopefully a great personality.

He's experienced lots of very attractive and gorgeous gf's, most were liberal leaning because that's the majority in the age range. Lots of feminist that want to compete and not compromise with some really whacky ideas on what's wrong with our culture. Attractive women that are more interested in social media than a real life. A woman that want's a man to support her dreams instead of shared dreams.

He's a conservative that believes in traditional roles. It took him a long time, but he finally found a woman that's beautiful on the inside.

Could that be you ? It's not for very many women these days apparently.
Good luck to you

There are lots and lots of conservative, beautiful women, even in this area. A lot of them are marrying early as the cream of the crop conservative men snatch them up without hesitation while your son sucks his finger from a finger away.

He just wasn't mature enough to find one early as most of his mates did. And he is tall and great looking too? He definitely has some issues to have been searching for so long. Hope he figured it out before marrying that beautiful woman. Otherwise, she is in for a surprise.

You are missing PP's point. She is talking about an actually conservative woman. Not a politically conservative MAGA type. She is talking about a genuinely conservative, family and home oriented woman. Not Erika Kirk. Not Sarah Palin. Not Brett Cooper. Not the DC "conservative" or Mar a Lago-looking social climber types. What her son found is extraordinarily rare in DMV.

Go to any big church in DC and you'll find young women who are attractive, self-supporting, and want to be SAHMs. There are more of them than there men who are looking for that, in part because the cost of living is so high here. But wanting to marry a rich guy and not work if you weren't capable of taking care of yourself to begin with isn't inherently conservative, and someone who struggles like that probably is going to struggle with the responsibilities of taking care of kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are married already

Ladies, meet men in college or graduate school. Better yet law school or medical college.

Or come from family money and connections

Most universities are at least 60% female. That's 3 women for every 2 men.

Gen Xer here. Yep, that’s where we met our DHs. Odds are against this younger generations though because of this gender ratio. Works if you’re a lesbian though!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please help. I am looking to marry and have a child within the next few years.

I’m looking for the following in a man:
- character and integrity
- intelligence
- income 200k+ ( I make 150k)
- wants family and a child
- interested in health and fitness
- emotionally regulated
- interested in travel

Where and how can I find my person in the dev area? Any specific professions? Neighborhoods? Places of gathering?

I’m 38, slender and am told I’m pretty and look 32. Only dates I’ve met comment on how young I look and how nice my legs are. I’ve also been told I’m “elegant” and that they want to take me to a gala.

I don’t know what that says about me.

Please help! Any guidance would be amazing!

I’m asking this gently - why do you think you’re still single at your age?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please help. I am looking to marry and have a child within the next few years.

I’m looking for the following in a man:
- character and integrity
- intelligence
- income 200k+ ( I make 150k)
- wants family and a child
- interested in health and fitness
- emotionally regulated
- interested in travel

Where and how can I find my person in the dev area? Any specific professions? Neighborhoods? Places of gathering?

I’m 38, slender and am told I’m pretty and look 32. Only dates I’ve met comment on how young I look and how nice my legs are. I’ve also been told I’m “elegant” and that they want to take me to a gala.

I don’t know what that says about me.

Please help! Any guidance would be amazing!

So, your 200K plus wants family and child combination is going to rule out about 97% of men. Your audience is largely going to be divorced men and most of them probably won't want to be starting a second family.

The other stuff is just personality.

I'd consider halving your income requirement. From the get-go you've ruled out too many. You're a beggar and beggars can't be choosers, nice legs or no.

You meet them on the apps, btw. Or go play pickleball or some shit like that.

Halving the income? She’s 38 - who wants to date a 38-year old man who makes $100K?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In DC, I think you should look for 150k or higher. A lot of government jobs top out around 176k

Op here. I only have the income requirement because this is a very HCOL area and I’m targeting men 36+ given my age. At this point it’s not crazy to want someone to make a little more money than me. Given the track I’m on, I’ll easily make 200k myself in a few years.

As for why I’m here: I am recently divorced due to a cheating spouse who did not want kids.

Have you been in therapy? Staying with someone who didn’t want kids when you presumably did until you were 37 means something is off.

Are you looking for step kids? Adoption? Willing to be a SMBC?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In DC, I think you should look for 150k or higher. A lot of government jobs top out around 176k

Op here. I only have the income requirement because this is a very HCOL area and I’m targeting men 36+ given my age. At this point it’s not crazy to want someone to make a little more money than me. Given the track I’m on, I’ll easily make 200k myself in a few years.

As for why I’m here: I am recently divorced due to a cheating spouse who did not want kids.

At this point it is not crazy that almost all the men left who meet your criteria are only dating women 36 and younger. Everything will have to go perfectly well for you to have two kids in marriage. You'd have to meet your person today, date and be engaged after a year, married after 1.5 - 2 years, no fertility issues, no early menopause etc. Why would a man do that when he could date a woman with all your attributes who is 33 or 35?

It's different if a man has already fallen for you, say someone from work, school or your childhood, who has been waiting and praying for you to be single ( have a friend who had two men ready to pounce when she left her cheating DH). But a man who is looking to have biological children and has never met you will probably not be interested.

Now there might be some men who lie about wanting children just to get married and those who don't mind not having any but will have 1 or 2 if that is what it takes to marry a beautiful woman. You can hope to find these, but you can end up with one who will be actively praying for you not to get pregnant. That will be a mess.

36 and younger? I’d say under 33, max.